nightbird101 Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 What She Wants There's a girl I've been hanging out with who isn't looking for a relationship. she's told me countless times via face to face and over facebook. What I want I'm kind of in the same boat. I don't really want a relationship at this time but I am open for one. My History half a year ago I came out of a 7 year relationship. During my relationship I never socialized with girls since my ex would get jealous and I wanted her to feel special to me (and I had no problem with that). This caused a huge problem as I don't really know how to socialize with girls to well. Her History (not my exs the girl I'm seeing) She's been in many relationships and is looking to have a break from relationships for a while. Our Friendship Despite us both friendzoning eachother things are getting a little confusing. I break the 'touch barrier' with her a lot (hugs, peck on the cheeks, fixing her hair, staring deep into her eyes blah blah blah). Before I know is she's doing the same. last night I visited hers and stayed for the night, and she's breaking the touch barrier with me more then I'm with her. She then goes on asking things about what I want in the future in life and we start getting romantic with eachother while at the same time reminding eachother we don't want a relationship. My Question I am starting to grow feelings for this girl and I know she doesn't want a relationship. As I said I don't really want a relationship but I am sort of open for one. Should I continue talking to her or cut communications with her or see less of her? (we see each other like once ever 3-4 days for an entire day) Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted December 5, 2014 Share Posted December 5, 2014 she's breaking the touch barrier with me Some people (more women than men) are touchy with their friends. This "touch barrier" is all in your mind. She probably sees the touching as simply normal friendship whereas you're building it up to mean something. She then goes on asking things about what I want in the future in life and we start getting romantic Yeah that's the kind of thing girls like to talk about. Seems like you've become her girlfriend, honourary "gay friend", or whatever. Should I continue talking to her or cut communications with her or see less of her? Tell her how you feel. Maybe she reciprocates. But if you don't ask you'll never know, and it will just get more and more painful for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author nightbird101 Posted December 5, 2014 Author Share Posted December 5, 2014 Thanks for the response Pete. as for the touch barrier thing normally I would agree with that. We've been seeing eachother for about 4 months (met 3 years ago). She was never touchy to me almost not at all (as in never) its only been with in the past week (in an affectionate way like holding hands looking into eachothers eyes and smiling for long periods ect). Not to mention the kissing AHHH....this is dumb I feel like I'm back at school again Link to post Share on other sites
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