Suspicious of "hot" women?

[M30USA]

This girl who sits near me in class is honestly about as beautiful as they come. I'd say a 9 at least. The strange thing is she is clearly interested in me. I'm average looks. Tall and, I am told, smart. But still average looks and I make a mediocre salary. I can't believe I'm saying this but I'm 100% sure I could land a date with this girl. So why don't I? Not because I'm shy or afraid, but because I've grown suspicious of "hot" women.

 

It's not that I'm suspicious of natural good looks. It's more that she dresses impeccably and wears designer clothes with top name purses, etc. This, to me, is a warning sign. It hints of materialism and superficiality. Yet I still find myself attracted to her, contrary to my reasoning.

 

Anyone else feel this way?

Edited December 5, 2014 by M30USA

[Maleficent]

Well, I am a woman so maybe I can offer perspective from her side of things.

 

We like pretty things. But pretty things are different from one person to another. So to you and me, designer clothing may seen unnecessary. Each person decides what is worth spending a lot of money on.

 

As far as being materialistic, for all you know she donates the designer clothes she is no longer wearing and volunteers in a soup kitchen.

 

Going on a date with her isn't an engagement on your part. If you find her too superficial for your taste after the date, by all means, let it go.

 

By the way, the fact you are judging her based on something as superficial as her clothes kind of show superficiality on your part, don'tcha think?

[M30USA]

By the way, the fact you are judging her based on something as superficial as her clothes kind of show superficiality on your part, don'tcha think?

 

That's true.

 

I guess I'm just suspicious because I figure there's NO WAY a girl can be that attractive without there being problems.

[xUnknown]

That's true.

 

I guess I'm just suspicious because I figure there's NO WAY a girl can be that attractive without there being problems.

 

I used to think that way too. I guess in some scenarios I still do. I think its a matter of confidence. You put the women on this pedistal thinking she is out of your league...so then why is she interested....there has to be some other motive.

 

Just go with the flow. Screw the motive. Screw her instead. JK...kinda

[Maleficent]

I used to think that way too. I guess in some scenarios I still do. I think its a matter of confidence. You put the women on this pedistal thinking she is out of your league...so then why is she interested....there has to be some other motive.

 

Just go with the flow. Screw the motive. Screw her instead. JK...kinda

 

This. By avoiding the hot ones because you're suspicious you might miss one very good opportunity.

 

I am now going to go through the rest of my day thinking the reason why I am single is because I'm really friggin' hot and it makes men suspicious.

 

Thanks guys!

 

Edit: and like I said, one date entails you to nothing more than one date. Worse case scenario you'll have a really fun story to tell your friends if the date goes badly...

[M30USA]

This. By avoiding the hot ones because you're suspicious you might miss one very good opportunity.

 

I am now going to go through the rest of my day thinking the reason why I am single is because I'm really friggin' hot and it makes men suspicious.

 

Thanks guys!

 

Edit: and like I said, one date entails you to nothing more than one date. Worse case scenario you'll have a really fun story to tell your friends if the date goes badly...

 

Watch this funny video and you'll see exactly why men are suspicious of hot women:

 

http://youtu.be/hKWmFWRVLlU

[ComingInHot]

M30USA,

Did it ever occur to you that she may think the same of you? Maybe you have a certain 'look' that just rings her bell*

 

You call yourself average. Because You think you're average. But to someone else... you sure could be more.

 

I think I am totally average. (takes the pressure off ). there are some that find me average too and then there are some who find me more... good for me either way right? You should try it

 

No need to be suspicious until you get to know her and THEN she gives cause for it.

CiH*

[Maleficent]

Watch this funny video and you'll see exactly why men are suspicious of hot women:

 

http://youtu.be/hKWmFWRVLlU

 

 

Right.

Women used to come to these conclusions.

 

3 women below 5 who were not asked on a date

10 women between 5 and 8 who were asked on a date. 8 of which ended up in the danger zone because they refused to go on the date.

50 women above 8 who guy in video was too scared to even look in the eyes.

 

lol

[M30USA]

This. By avoiding the hot ones because you're suspicious you might miss one very good opportunity.

 

I don't believe in unicorns, hehe. (Watch the video I linked and you'll know what I'm talking about.) They might exist but they're so rare that you're more likely to get mauled by a she-bear while hunting for one.

Edited December 5, 2014 by M30USA

[ComingInHot]

you hunt she-bears?.... huh, who woulda thought*

[M30USA]

you hunt she-bears?.... huh, who woulda thought*

 

While hunting for unicorns. For every unicorn there are 100,000 she-bears.

[M30USA]

I just noticed there are is also a thread on here called "avoiding men who are NOT hot". Sounds like women are doing the opposite (going for only hot men), while men are wisening up and realizing average women make the best partners.

[Maleficent]

I don't believe in unicorns, hehe. (Watch the video I linked and you'll know what I'm talking about.) They might exist but they're so rare that you're more likely to get mauled by a she-bear while hunting for one.

 

Dude! Are you telling me I'm delusional?

I almost fell of my unicorn!

[M30USA]

Dude! Are you telling me I'm delusional?

I almost fell of my unicorn!

 

Please provide exact coordinates (latitude and longitude) where you found your unicorn. I'll have my research team on the ground shortly to find more.

[TheGuard13]

How do you know she's wearing designer clothes and "top name" purses unless you yourself are also into these things/care about these things on some level?

[M30USA]

How do you know she's wearing designer clothes and "top name" purses unless you yourself are also into these things/care about these things on some level?

 

I saw her purse on floor, saw the brand name, and googled it...in class.

 

When I see this, I start thinking: long trips getting dragged around clothing stores, spending weekends remodeling house to latest trend...it all ends up the same.

Edited December 5, 2014 by M30USA

[Maleficent]

Please provide exact coordinates (latitude and longitude) where you found your unicorn. I'll have my research team on the ground shortly to find more.

 

That information changes depending on where I'm standing.

[xxoo]

I guess I'm just suspicious because I figure there's NO WAY a girl can be that attractive without there being problems.

 

Wow!

 

Look, no one is perfect. I guarantee she has flaws.

 

But beauty is not a reflection of character. Get to know her if you are interested. Have an open mind and let her reveal her character to you. Try not to fall for her just because of her beauty (be blinded to poor character because of beauty). But don't expect poor character because of beauty.

[M30USA]

That information changes depending on where I'm standing.

 

Check your GPS system. Or it's possible that your unicorn is emitting strong magnetic fields.

[Imported]

But what if women are on to you and purposely don't have top name purses so that they don't appear materialistic and superficial?

 

Have you even talked with her?

 

Personally, I can afford to dress impeccably and I don't think of it as a big deal. Nor do I count my chickens before they hatch. I will say though that the good thing about women you think are into you that you never actually try for is that you never get told that you were wrong. You can go on with the fantasy that a hot materialistic and superficial girl wants your penis, but you're too much of a special snow flake to be interested in such women!

[M30USA]

but what if women are on to you and purposely don't have top name purses so that they don't appear materialistic and superficial?

 

Have you even talked with her?

 

Personally, i can afford to dress impeccably and i don't think of it as a big deal. Nor do i count my chickens before they hatch. I will say though that the good thing about women you think are into you that you never actually try for is that you never get told that you were wrong. You can go on with the fantasy that a hot materialistic and superficial girl wants your penis, but you're too much of a special snow flake to be interested in such women!

 

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[Frank2thepoint]

I've spoken to gorgeous women. Majority looked ambivalent, rarely looked me in the eye, even during brief conversation. They either were too shy too talk, or didn't find me "hot" enough to pay any attention to. The few gorgeous women I managed to have a conversation with were erratic with short attention spans, or focused on clubbing and partying. No doubt the environment of NYC breeds such mentality. I'm still yet to find the fabled gorgeous, but down-to-earth woman that few people have mentioned on this site. The one you can have a conversation with that doesn't involve clubbing, partying, liquor, and calling their girlfriends bitches.

[GemmaUK]

I find this quite funny - in a sad way.

 

 

I get a lot - like a stack of compliments on what I wear.

I am amazed by this.

 

 

1. because I am mid forties.

2. because I shop in charity/thrift shops or ebay for clothes.

 

 

I get staple items from real shops but anything that gets a compliment has usually cost me about £3!

[Haydn]

You`d all love my job. (Some of you)

[carhill]

t's not that I'm suspicious of natural good looks. It's more that she dresses impeccably and wears designer clothes with top name purses, etc. This, to me, is a warning sign. It hints of materialism and superficiality. Yet I still find myself attracted to her, contrary to my reasoning.

 

Anyone else feel this way?

 

Historically, absolutely, since I only dated with the intention of marrying someone who would become the mother of my children and the signs she's throwing off indicate a socio-economic strata beyond my access to the country club gates.

 

It's kinda like my best friend talking about getting his budget under 200k per year. That's just random spending, not the real stuff. Guys intermingle across class lines. We're a great example of that. Women rarely marry significantly down, class-wise. I've got tons of experience bumping into that.

 

If you simply want to go on a date, ask her out on a date. See what happens. That's probably what I'd do today, since I'm not interested in anything long-term or having children with anyone. I interact with plenty of wealthy women, though few single ones, and one thing I did learn was that, more often than not, those of my generation don't advertise with baubles and designer this and designer that, with those things being more reserved for upwardly mobile middle to upper middle class folks.

 

Lest you think I'm going off on a tangent, which may be accurate!, it wasn't the 'hotness' which caught my attention, rather the impeccably dressed with designer stuff that did. Flashbacks to my exW's purse collection!