candycane12 Posted December 6, 2014 Share Posted December 6, 2014 (edited) Hi, My relationship has been going on for 3 years and we both love each other so much and we were our first everything. Im 19 and he's also 19. I just don't understand why he acted distant for a few (2-3) days maybe because he was busy, then said he wanted a break which I got angry about. In between the break, I kept msging him sometimes getting frustrated asking him for a straight answer but I also said sorry later on but he didn't reply to a single thing. After a week of him not replying, i went over to his house and asked to talk and he literally shut the door in my face (he was a mess playing video games) and I texted him later on asking when we could talk and he's like "I can't right now, I guess its over". He also said "its not your fault, its just me. I just want to be alone" He's not the type to talk about his feelings and always hides them too. I begged him to stay but then gave up and said "alright i understand" and a few other things, confused as to how he could forget everything and break up. He just kept saying "I'm sorry." WE were so close... We fight but we always always get back together and this is so out of the blue, he even came over a couple days before we stopped talking and we slept together We have gone through so much together and I just don't get why he did this all of a sudden. He didn't delete me off of anything either. Maybe he is tired of the fighting or stressed out. I dont know I love him so much, I know theres no one else involved, his friend confirmed. It is a really stressful time for him due to exams and finding a job..How do i get him back?? I miss him so much. Did I push him to break up with me because I was being naggy over the break since I just wanted him to talk to me..I need help. He was my best friend. He would always tell me how he loved me so much and give me so many kisses and hugs right before the break too, I was being a bit mean to him by not always kissing him back every single time or just felt he was kinda clingy... How do i get him back and make him miss me? I know he still loves me, because he can't just forget in a week... Edited December 6, 2014 by candycane12 Link to post Share on other sites
evanescentworld Posted December 6, 2014 Share Posted December 6, 2014 I hate to wave the 'you're very young' flag, but..... You're very young. He doesn't want to be tied down, it was getting too serious, he wants to pursue other interests, possibly broaden his horizons and even play the field a bit. And you know what? He's absolutely right. He clearly wasn't as invested as you were, or as much as you thought he was. And if you met when you were 16 or so, it is no surprise whatsoever that his tastes have changed, the gloss has worn off and he just doesn't feel it any more. Things move on, and I think he has too. Neither of you are fully mature yet (and I'm not insulting you - it's actually a biological/anatomical fact) Admittedly, his method of dumping you was rude, inconsiderate, ill-advised, cruel and frankly, stupidly childish. He has some catching up to do with you, in the 'acting like an adult' stakes, but other than that - you would be much better if you accept it, move on, and take life easy, enjoyably and relax, smile and live a little. Link to post Share on other sites
Author candycane12 Posted December 6, 2014 Author Share Posted December 6, 2014 I know, you're right. But I don't understand why it is so sudden...and he isn't the type of guy who just talks to girls. He's very very shy and doesn't even have any girl friends to begin with. What you're saying is a possibility but I really think its something other than that...Maybe he just needs time to miss me. Link to post Share on other sites
evanescentworld Posted December 6, 2014 Share Posted December 6, 2014 I would respectfully recommend you read the No Contact Guide, thoroughly and meticulously. Sadly, he sounds like possibly the kind of guy who may try to reel you back in to feed his ego.... his actions were pretty selfish and rude, so I base my assessment on that. It's Actions which speak louder, not words.... Read the bit about 'breadcrumbs'.... Link to post Share on other sites
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