snoop_dawg22 Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 My best friend has this guy in another state that she's talking to. Well she went down to visit him and she came back and gave me some graphic details. Mind you that she's only seen him 3 times. They met at a club and then a month later she drives down to another town to see him. Nothing happened on that trip but the last trip something did. Anyway not trying to put ALL the business out there. But I want to tell her that she's moving too fast. They've only known each other for a few months now. They talk about when they're getting married and what to name the kids. She asked when she could move down there. I just think she'll get caught up and he'll have the attitude of why buy the cow when he's getting the milk for free. Should I talk to her or just let carry on with this guy? I mean maybe it'll work out, I hope so for her sake. Any suggestions? Plus I don't want to come off as jealous since I'm newly single myself. Gesh. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 Unless you're interested in her for yourself, I'd let her be, and just be there for her if her heart does get broke. Link to post Share on other sites
d'Arthez Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 As harsh as it sounds, there is nothing you can do. She is blinded by love/lust. You have the impression it is lust, and she will have the impression it's love. That complicates matters quite lot. If you would talk with her, you would be viewed with suspicion, as bitter, or even as someone who does not want her to be happy; it depends on her personality, but it is not positive for your friendship with her in all likelihood. Unless there is a real strong connection between the two of you, talking won't do you or her good. Conversation with your concerns will probably backfire on you, especially now. So try to avoid talking about her new fling / relationship, but if she brings up the subject, share your concerns for the whole thing. That is what friends should do: share concerns for each other, and trying to be supportive of your friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Illusion24 Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 As a friend I think you should talk to her about moving to fast with someone she just met...She can't stop her life for a man she hardly knows...especially move away from family and friends... Now as a man in love, I would say let her make her own decisions that's what love is all about..meeting a couple of wrong ones before you meet the right one! Let her fall on her own...she'll come back if you're meant to be in each others lives Link to post Share on other sites
Author snoop_dawg22 Posted March 21, 2005 Author Share Posted March 21, 2005 Thanks for the responses. I'll just let her do whatever she wants. But I am concerned. I try to be there for her and that's what I'll continue doing. I just don't want her to think that I'm envying her in any way. If she feels that this is right then I'll let it alone. But I do point out that he hasn't once mentioned coming to visit her and her friends. She makes up excuses for him and I'm just afraid that she's being too weak. I don't want to cause strife b/c we've been friends for almost 10 yrs. I think I'll let this one ride and I'll be there for her... good or bad. Link to post Share on other sites
dmac Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 give us graphic details! Link to post Share on other sites
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