Sadaka Posted December 7, 2014 Share Posted December 7, 2014 My and my ex girlfriend dated for about 3 years. 2 years ago she dumped me because she lost her feelings for me. We kept seeing eachother for a while but the we went no contact. A year ago i emailed her and apologized for the things i had done wrong in the relationship, i was still not over her. Note: none of us cheated or anything like that. She replied that there were no hard feelings and that she had met a new guy and didnt think we should have any contact. So i've respected that and havent tried to contact her at all the past year. Today she sent me an email saying she was looking through old text message and saw some old ones from me and thought they were "a little sweet and funny". She asked me how i was doing etc. What does she want with this? I'm pretty sure she's still seeing that other guy. I'm not sure how interested i am anymore either, i still like her but i can without a problem live without her. Link to post Share on other sites
Purepony Posted December 7, 2014 Share Posted December 7, 2014 The tables have turned. I would say the same thing she said to you a year ago.. My reply would be something like? Me:I who's this? (JUST TO BE A PUNK ) THEN SEE WHERE THAT GOES... BECAUSE MAYBE SHE BROKE OFF WITH THE OTHER GUY AND WANTS A REBOUND.. DROP HINTS LIKE YOUR SEEING SOMEONE Link to post Share on other sites
I'mBatman Posted December 8, 2014 Share Posted December 8, 2014 (edited) The tables have turned. I would say the same thing she said to you a year ago.. My reply would be something like? Me:I who's this? (JUST TO BE A PUNK ) THEN SEE WHERE THAT GOES... BECAUSE MAYBE SHE BROKE OFF WITH THE OTHER GUY AND WANTS A REBOUND.. DROP HINTS LIKE YOUR SEEING SOMEONE If you actually remember her number don't say the whole "who is this" even in this day and age if you were with someone for any significant amount of time their number will be implanted into your brain. I still remember my childhood friends home phones from 10 years ago. Personally i would say more of a "Is this (her name)?" And with her reply go from there. Keep living life. I'd show little interest honestly if she is still with this guy. She is possibly seeing 1) Your still interested/waiting/not over her to stroke her ego 2) She is with this guy and seeing if you will bite, she is exploring the options to her 3) she genuinely misses you and valued the relationship with you more than the one after you. Either way little interest in her is your best bet Edited December 8, 2014 by I'mBatman Link to post Share on other sites
blackcat777 Posted December 8, 2014 Share Posted December 8, 2014 Don't reply. Unless she's begging for you back and saying she screwed up, do not reply. If she's serious, she'll persist; if she's fishing for an ego boost, or looking to dump some of her guilt off on you, she'll give up. Silence wins. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Maggie4 Posted December 8, 2014 Share Posted December 8, 2014 When you are really over someone, and that person contacts you: 1. you would not feel victorious 2. you would not read too much into her intention 3. you would not play games Those are reactions of someone who has not let go completely. The reaction of someone who has really moved on: 1. hey, how are you?! 1-2 texts, then stop, you run out of things to say. 2. incident is forgotten the next day. 3. hope she does not ask to get back together. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sadaka Posted December 8, 2014 Author Share Posted December 8, 2014 Well, i already replied and told her i was good and asked how she is. I have no grudge against her and i dont see any harm in being nice and polite towards her. However, i am at a state where im totally ok talking to her. I am still dating other girls and if i have no contact with my ex again tomorrow, it wont have any impact on my life. Yet i'd rather talk to her than not talk to her, but its not a big deal to me. Link to post Share on other sites
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