happy94 Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 Hi. FIrst of all I am thankful that my situation isn't as bad as a lot of people's but I still am not sure what to do. I have talked to family and friends but of course they are already biased. My problem is my and my husbands career. He has recently lost his job and it looking for a new one. I have been in my position for four years and really like my job. Seven years ago we actually moved to this area for him. Anyway, I took my job with the plan of retiring with this company. Being in my 30's I have a long way to go for retirement. Howver, my husband has decided to do a national job search and if he finds one outside of where we live he says he will take it. I don't know what to do. I don't want to move and I don't want to leave my job. I have worked hard to get where I am here and if I leave and go elsewhere I'll have to start at the bottom again. I feel like he should concentrate on our area for his employment. Am I the one being selfish here? Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 In my opinion, he should concentrate in the area you're in now before going national. If he has exhausted all possibilities in that area then you two would need to discuss where you both would agree on for a new location. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 No I don't think it's selfish for you to want your husband to seek employment opportunities where the 2 of you currantly are.. You're happiness and career should be just as important as his. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 I agree! You should not have to give up your job so he can look and hope he gets a job somewhere else. You moved once for him and his job, it's not fair that he uproots and does that again. Yes, your job is just as important as his. This could be his ego talking and not really looking at the whole picture. Hope you both and really sit down and discuss this big issue. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 26, 2005 Share Posted March 26, 2005 Obviously he is the selfish one. You already moved there for his job. And he lost it. What if you move again and he loses it again? Why did he lose it in the first place? Hopefully it wasn't his fault as in he didn't lose it because they didn't like how he was doing his job. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 26, 2005 Share Posted March 26, 2005 Hope you both and really sit down and discuss this big issue. WTF? LOL! I think I meant, I hope you both sit down and dicuss this big issue. Geez, where was my head? No make sense-O! Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 26, 2005 Share Posted March 26, 2005 Well, I'm going against the grain. I've seen too many people give lifetimes of loyalty to jobs only to get 'downsized' after years. A job is just a job and, trust me on this, companies are not loyal to their employees. If your husband can't find a job in your town, he'll end up miserable. You could always check around to see if there are similar jobs elsewhere. Link to post Share on other sites
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