emotionsmessmeup Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 ok..i am all happy and glowing today coz i had mind blowing sex this weekend.. and i mean MIND BLOWING now the thing is..i dont even feel like caling my ex..forget calling..i dont even feel like thinking about him.. i am glowing... now am i trying to supress my feelings here...or do they no longer exist.. or will they come back.. oh but i am so happy!! Link to post Share on other sites
alicia24 Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 did you have sex with your ex? I'm a little confused Link to post Share on other sites
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted March 21, 2005 Author Share Posted March 21, 2005 no with my FWB Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 well...if this FWB is so great...why is he just a FWB and not a BF? just make sure you aren't TRYING to confuse your feelings by replacing them with sex with another guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted March 21, 2005 Author Share Posted March 21, 2005 some ppl are btter off as friends rather than boy friends...coz u dont have a future with them Link to post Share on other sites
Blackout23 Posted March 21, 2005 Share Posted March 21, 2005 I think you are just trying to surpress the feelings... yea sex was great but... why are you still even thinking about your ex-boyfriend at all? Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 we don't have a future with our friends? how does that make sense? your friends are going to be here moreso than your "lovers." for the guys, it's BBH...bros before hoes. keep your friends closer than your partners, because your future is NEVER certain with a partner, but always will be with your friends. that is...unless you're totally fickle and you change friends every other day... Link to post Share on other sites
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted March 22, 2005 Author Share Posted March 22, 2005 coz thi is just physical... not emotional.. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Originally posted by emotionsmessmeup coz thi is just physical... not emotional.. let's see....hmmm....a female who has sex with a dude and DOES NOT get emotionally attached to him. boy I wish I could find more of them women cause very few actually exist on the planet. Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 You have to ask yourself...are the thoughts of your ex being replaced by thoughts of the FWB..not just sex thoughts..like are you actually thinking of your FWB instead of your ex? Because then that could be a problem. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Alpha, try those who are emotionally wrecked!!! Hi, emotions... I say hand on tight, 'cause the sex might have been awesome, but in a few more days it will get to you... Sex with other persons is not the answer. Not thinking about your ex, moving on, not needing him, outgrowing him does. Give it some time. IT's impossible to just get over a 6 years old relationship so easy, even if you get the most impressive lay in the history of laying... Have patience with yourself and don't cheat. Have the courage to feel all the pain you're feeling, confront it, don't bottle it up, otherwise you'll never get over your ex. You'll just have an endless list of FWB and be still as miserable. Link to post Share on other sites
Blackout23 Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 your just like my ex-girlfriend right now... we didn't speak for 2 weeks and then I find out that she has a 'new' bf... from what I read on her sisters blog it seems like the idea was to make me jealous... but that isn't working I don't feel that way anymore maybe a little but I honestly don't care no more...she can do whatever she want... I feel she betrayed my trust...plus during our break up we had a promise that we tell each other if we ever start dating outside... but hey I guess that promise is broken now... so I honestly don't really care much about what she does or who she is with... she is on her own.. Let me say more...she was with me for 5 years almost and we broke up for bout 5 months but we kept in contact hanged out laughed joked spent christmas together the works... and then after a fight 2 weeks of NC and she has a new bf ? get the f'ck outta here.. i don't see us ever being friends or anythinig more.. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale let's see....hmmm....a female who has sex with a dude and DOES NOT get emotionally attached to him. I had NO problem with that in my time. It was very convenient - unfortunately in almost every case where I was emotionally detached, the guy would become attached, though. Even when I made it crystal clear what my intent was. I dreaded the old "but I thought we had something" talk. Funny old world, eh? I only had one or two instances of pure, untainted FWB experiences. now am i trying to supress my feelings here...or do they no longer exist.. or will they come back.. I expect they'll come back, but... Luckily you have a highly pleasurable coping method, it sounds like. Just be careful of accidental "emotional transference" that can happen from time to time. I've heard of more than one situation of FWB that got ruined from the runoff from the other relationships that the partners had with other people. Getting over someone can be hard, but if you sub in something else for it instead of addressing it and working it out - sometimes it will just delay the inevitable, and that sadness will end up sneaking up on you when you least expect it. Link to post Share on other sites
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