update from flitz...about a month of no contact

[flitzanu]

update from my damaged heart.

 

i've gone about a month now with no contact (see previous posts) with both parties involved. sum up...girl leaves me for "best friend" of mine, so now i dont talk to either of them.

 

she hasn't made any attempt to talk to me, though she has made a couple of comments on my livejournal when it relates to her "social image." also, i've had mutual friends inform me that i was a large topic of conversation recently, and that she bitched about me the whole time and tried to make herself look like the victim.

 

also, the "friend" has tried to talk to me, he emailed and invited me out for st pats day even, which of course i told him no i wouldn't want to go, and i of course have plans. i've also been told that he's mentioned to mutual friends how i "dont talk to him" anymore either.

 

ok, couple of things. is it really hypocritical of me to enjoy this just a LITTLE bit? all of this seemed to start when they've realized that i have totally cut them out of my life...that and when my friend stood up for me when she tried to talk about me to someone else. i think they're realizing that MY friends have ostracized them (at work...they just look off or totally snub them) and it could be bothering them...and i think that since my guy friend has TRIED contacting me, it seems he's showing a bit of guilt for what he's done by trying to rectify the friendship. of course...i don't need friends that would do that to me anyway, so i'm not budging. alot of my other friends keep saying i should give him a chance since he's making the effort...but i really don't think i should.

 

i'm better than that, they both knew the consequences, they knew they would lose my friendship. am i right in telling them to 'f-off' and not giving them the time of day?

[d'Arthez]

After what they did to you, you are doing the right thing by telling them to f*ck off. What is the value of a friendship if a friend were allowed to do what he had done? There are limits to everything, and he crossed definitely the line. Stick to your boundaries.

 

You did not order them to f*ck up your relationship and friendship. They both betrayed your trust big time, and they did not mind doing that. They mind the consequences only, so let them mind the consequences. If they are hurtful to them, they could have realised that before.

[flitzanu]

awesome. thanks for the reassurance, sometimes that's all it takes...to hear it from someone else that we are making the right choices.