he have no assets, yet still don't want to propose? is he commited?

[asiangirl]

I was reading in another Forum; of how men said that nowadays 'some' men doesn't want to get married due to they have alot to loose: like split half Asset if divorce, pay for Spousal Support, as well as Child Support. I totally understand, but this apply to men who have Assets.

But my man is poor and doesn't have Assets, yet he still haven't pop the propose question to me.

So no proposal from him yet, maybe he doesn't love me? Maybe this is the harsh possibility I have accept?

 

Both of us are in our late twenties. I know him for 4 years already, we live in the same neighborhood. The first 2.5 years, we were acquaintance then became casual friends.

The next 6 months he spend to chase me. He chase hard for 6 months just trying to get one date with me.

He waited outside my apartment stairs many times, hoping I would open the door, and go outside to see him/hang around with him.

I know we live in the same neighborhood and all, but I think it was extreme to be waiting outside a girl's staircase. So he got me to think he is serious.

 

I pretty much was touch by his persistent, and I didn't want to keep him waiting outside, it was cold in the winter time too. So I gave in to be his girl, and that how this relationship started.

We have been dating for 1 year already, and we are in committed relationship. The ways he treats me is still the same as day one, he is a caring, and protective boyfriend. He doesn't even let me carried a light bag of groccery, lol.

 

The downside is we are an interracial couple, so we do get alot of ignorant/negatives comments towards us and his skin color; but it doesn't bother him at all.

He told me to be strong and "We" will make it through this together. It is all his effort, and persistent that help carried this whole relationship through till now.

 

He got me to think he committed to me because out of his own willing, he bought matching 'promise ring' to show his commitment (it's the classic band wedding ring type).

He wears the ring on his left finger all the times (even without me remind him), I don't know if he take it off when carried big work load at his Warehouse job. But whenever he not at work, I always see him wear it.

 

He always wants to live together, and he mentioned marriage. He even asked me when am I going to give him a son, yet still have not pop the "propose" question.

So should I be worried? I am sure he is not cheating on me because after work he drive straight back to be with me, and he tell me his whereabouts.

We both work full time, so whenever we have same day/time off, we do sleep in the same bed. And I know his body smell, so if there another woman smell on his body, I would definately know.

So far no clues or signs of him cheating, no different smell on his body. So cheating is not a possibility, unless he hide it real good.

 

I just wondering why he still not propose yet? When he always wear the ring, and he talks about live together/marriage/give him a son, etc...

Of course I don't want to force him into marriage, it is not true happiness if you are forcing your man to married you.

So I'm just the Asian girl in his neighborhood, the official "girlfriend", the girl got him to wear the 'promise ring", and that's it? This gonna to be the status for the rest of my life?

 

And we are a poor couple live in "the Hood". He is far from rich, neither am I, but we both have full time job. I splits half half on dates with him, and I always pay for my own.

I voluntary to help him because I know he doesn't have much money himself.

So money shouldn't be why he scare of marriage, because he have no assets. He only have clothes, some favorite books of his, his Car, and his Warehouse job. (unless you considered these are his assets)

We both are poor anyways, it not like he gonna loose anything out of marriage.

So he asked me when am I going to give him a son, yet no propose... should I worried if he truely being commited? Or is he just string me until a better girl come along?

Edited December 8, 2014 by asiangirl

[TigerCub]

A lot of people want to be established in their life and in a position to provide for the family before getting married and creating a family.

 

You seem to think that because your man is poor and has no assets to lose - that means he'd have nothing to fear - but a lot of men want to have a good career established, have money before getting married.

 

And besides, you've only been dating for 1 year - you guys are in your 20s. What's the rush?