slipped halo Posted December 8, 2014 Share Posted December 8, 2014 Hi I've had good advice from here before when my bf left me in October. I was always hounding him and he wanted time to enjoy himself at uni .since then he's admitted he's struggling without me and we are back in touch and hoping to meet at Xmas when we're both home from uni . He keeps saying he can't wait to see me so all good until he announced he is going on the pre Xmas uni ski trip so another week until we can meet !! I know these trips an get Wild so basically he's passed up the chance to have some time with me after so long in favour of another opportunity to party! Am I expecting to much in thinking he is really keen about a reconciliation? Will I ever be a priority or just have to fit in around his other plans ? Link to post Share on other sites
Maggie4 Posted December 8, 2014 Share Posted December 8, 2014 If he has already planned to go to the ski trip, then he should go and you shouldn't doubt him. Sometimes friends expect me to be there, and I just would not back out of it to have an extra week with a bf. Or if he had looked forward to it for a long time, he wants to keep his interests and lifestyle. You should not question his sincerity. Link to post Share on other sites
Author slipped halo Posted December 8, 2014 Author Share Posted December 8, 2014 Thanks yeah .. Only thing is he's going on this trip as a last minute thing so feel he's chosen partying in the Alps over the opportunity to spend time getting back on track with me! If he was that keen surely he wouldn't have done this ?! Link to post Share on other sites
Maggie4 Posted December 8, 2014 Share Posted December 8, 2014 Does this feel like more of the same to you? You said you were hounding him, and he wanted time to enjoy himself, ehich led to the breakup? Often when people get back together, they just pick up the same routine. If this feels all too familiar to you, that's a warning sign it won't work. Link to post Share on other sites
newlyborn Posted December 8, 2014 Share Posted December 8, 2014 to be honest, you sound quite demanding, controlling, and distrustful. i don't blame you really. reconciliations are delicate undertakings. still, even with boyfriends, we must live and let live. imagine that you release your anger and sense of entitlement, tell him to have a nice time and spend time catching up with your friends at home. wouldn't that make for a much better visit when it does happen? Link to post Share on other sites
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