Author creyente7 Posted January 12, 2015 Author Share Posted January 12, 2015 (edited) I listened to you guys' advice. Ironic thing happened though. I was just hanging out with friends. Turned off my phone and forgot it was off. When I turned it back on. I got 2 text messages, a missed call, a voice mail, and an email from her...Speaking of reaching out, she used all methods of communication lol. Anyways she was trying to chit chat and all that saying she's sad I'm leaving and that basically trying to hint to see me. But I held my pride and told her that she will be okay and not to worry. For once I actually felt to gain some power back. I didnt respond to her very last message, didnt even think much of it and forgot what she said in the message cuz I deleted it right away. But I wasn't being an ashole just because I dont want to end on a bad note, by being cold and bitter. I think I did okay leaving it that way. But I am moving on to be honest. I've been talking to a girl back home and she's super sweet, sending me goodnight and goodmorning messages all the time. I don't know why but my temper got really hot and my head felt like it was going to explode when she was trying to chit chat. It's weird because I thought that the moment she reaches out to me I would be all happy and jumpy but it was the complete opposite, I got so angry thinking "what is this girl trying to accomplish, i cant believe she has the decency to try and talk to me". I guess it's the fact that she reached out when it's too late to even do anything about it. Details about what she said. she wants to send me a few things that I left at her house and also send a few other stuff. Also telling me that I should have txted or called her that I was leaving college and that she could have met up with me. Lol this girl is too into herself. It's likely that one or both of you were/are Limerent. It was me in the relationship, unfortunately I cherished her more than she did of me. At one point it was her but mostly me Edited January 12, 2015 by creyente7 1 Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted January 12, 2015 Share Posted January 12, 2015 Not sure if you read my last post but I was implying that I am infact moving on. Im not saying she's stopping me from enjoying life, or that she still has control over my happiness. Thats not the case anymore, the first month of the break up it was, it definitely had a huge negative impact on me. I am moving on, i don't have a desire to be with her although I do miss the old days. But those are just memories. Just like how everybody misses the old days with their former loved ones. Afterall, I shared two years of my life with her so a part of me will always belong to her and a part of her will always be mine. As for what you said about waking up one day. Well I did wake up already, after a month of pain and suffering. I don't get sad anymore wishing things were back, but rather smiling at the good times and being thankful of the good times and experience. And yes she did the right thing by breaking up with me. Because it made me realize sooner that I wasn't completely happy nor was she in the relationship. She did both of us a favor and im glad she did. No regrets, no hate. I do believe she wouldve cheated had the relationship continued longer, I didn't see the signs then but I do now. So im glad I got out of it I found post active again. I see here you had replied to me. But how come this Ex can verbal abuse you still. Block her phone number. If she's on FB block her from your account. Don't put up with her brainwash behavioral control. Well it's good you moved on, that the best move here. Ex is Red Flag no matter what she does. Link to post Share on other sites
Author creyente7 Posted January 15, 2015 Author Share Posted January 15, 2015 what does anyone think about my last post about her? haha I think it was pretty ironic. Im home now. Link to post Share on other sites
bigtrouble Posted January 15, 2015 Share Posted January 15, 2015 (edited) My opinion, BU is a power struggle between Two people, you felt bad, sad and cried when she broke up with, felt worthless. Destroyed you. Lost all the power, you try to forget, reason with yourself to let go, but something was missing. Now she is reaching out, though you may not know her true intentions, it gave you a power boost, that was the final piece. Its easier to walk away from a break up if you feel you still have worth, and its so painful if you felt none. What you lost you got back, now you are strong enough to start anew, and came out a better person. Happy for you.... Edited January 15, 2015 by bigtrouble Link to post Share on other sites
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