spanishchick00 Posted December 8, 2014 Share Posted December 8, 2014 I can never tell, always sounds like something you would say at a job interview... Link to post Share on other sites
mrs rubble Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 In my country "nice to meet you", means it was "nice to meet you"! No more, no less and I'm sure I've said it to guys I've dated in the past without there being any hidden meaning. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
ponchsox Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 Not at all. What are you supposed to say "let's bang?" 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Ann253 Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 Was there anything else? Like "I had a good time". If it was just, "it was nice to meet you", she may have been just being polite and not have felt any spark. As for the "thanks for dinner", that is called manners. I always thank my date for dinner, wether it's a first time date or someone I've been seeing for a while ... I always say thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
Eighty_nine Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 While it is polite, there is a certain finality to it that might be a bad sign. If it's the last thing you hear, I wouldn't expect to hear from them again. My buddy who just recently got off OLD said that, "thanks for dinner," is the worst thing you can hear from a girl after a date. No. I always say it, whether I'm crazy about them or totally uninterested. And I think it depends on if the end was just "nice to meet you", or if she said something else as well. Nice to meet you can really go either way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
newmoon Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 i said this to on OLD once and he was offended. his response was "oh, so it's like that, huh." it didn't mean i didn't like him, just that the meeting was nice and it was nice to meet him. i guess he thought, perhaps like you, that it meant friends only or no interest. Link to post Share on other sites
Jules Dash Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 This level of analysis is a trip. How did the date go in general? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 It means she is polite. Nothing more, nothing less. The only way to find out if she is interested in seeing you again, is to ask her out again. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 It's too ambiguous to tell anything from it. Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 "Nice to meet you" is polite remark, but indeed it sounds bland and hints at lack of interest at the end of the date. If the person is definitely interested, a better remark would be "I had a great time with you tonight". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 "Nice to meet you" is polite remark, but indeed it sounds bland and hints at lack of interest at the end of the date. If the person is definitely interested, a better remark would be "I had a great time with you tonight". This could be true but I think if I were meeting someone for the first time and had only known them for a short time (an hour or so for 1 date) I would probably be a little "cool" too... after all its takes ages to get to know someone. OP ask her out again. Simple as. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 OP, i really think you are over analyzing way too much. Nice to meet you means just that. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 It saddens me that this question even arose. How on earth can a polite statement be called into question as a subtle blow off? If everything else seemed to click, the overall vibe of the date should have told you if it was good or bad. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 I can never tell, always sounds like something you would say at a job interview... She said it was nice to meet you. That's what she means. You then say, I've had a great time with you, would you like to go out on Thursday, Friday, whatever. If she says, no thanks, we're not a good match, then you know what she might have mean't. If she says yes, good for you! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 It sounds like something that would come out of someone's mouth during those last awkward moments of a first date. What do I say? Is he interested? Does he want to hug me? Kiss me? Does my breath smell like onions? Is he going to ask me out again? Should I go ahead and ask him out? Should I tell him to call me tomorrow or does that look desperate? He's just looking at me... "It was nice to meet you." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Danda Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 I think for people who are not very confident or have low self-esteem, over-analyzing every statement is a way of constantly scanning for threats of rejection before trying to make the next vulnerable move (such as asking for a second date). "It was nice to me you," is polite but it's also a bit formal to some people, rather than implying the person reached a deeper level of comfort of you, such as, "I had a great time, thanks," with a genuine big smile. And yes, something as small as that can cause a really nervous, guarded person to stop dead in their tracks wondering if they should keep going. I can totally relate so that's why I get it. The hurdle to be leaped here, though, is in realizing that your goal is not to figure out the 'true' meaning of "nice to meet you" but rather to work on your intense fear of being turned down, so that eventually it doesn't matter if there are any vague, subtle undertones to "nice to meet you" and you just go for it, anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
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