star gaze Posted January 2, 2015 Share Posted January 2, 2015 CD, I apologize for veering out of the topic, especially when it put forth nothing about your situation. It was inconsiderate of me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted January 2, 2015 Share Posted January 2, 2015 My apologies too CD. I just did not like someone unfairly and incorrectly using your story to promote their agenda. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AmyBamy Posted January 2, 2015 Share Posted January 2, 2015 My apologies too CD. I just did not like someone unfairly and incorrectly using your story to promote their agenda. Talk about agenda! CD I wish you all the best and grieve for the loss of any loving relationship in the world. I am glad that you and all involved will now be living honestly and hopefully. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author compulsivedancer Posted January 2, 2015 Author Share Posted January 2, 2015 No problems! I'm guilty of it all the time. Just the easiest way to completely derail a thread... Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted January 2, 2015 Share Posted January 2, 2015 But you're leaving out that while the false/failing reconciliation was happening - that it was due to you continuing to look up the OM. You continued to lie and dishonor/disrespect CM throughout the time you claimed to be putting the M back together. It wasn't his fault. It was because you didn't respect him by being honest. Nothing about the way you participated is CM's fault. When you own how you participated then maybe you can begin to heal and move forward. I agree 100% with all this. Nothing else really to say. Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted January 11, 2015 Share Posted January 11, 2015 (edited) But you're leaving out that while the false/failing reconciliation was happening - that it was due to you continuing to look up the OM. You continued to lie and dishonor/disrespect CM throughout the time you claimed to be putting the M back together. It wasn't his fault. It was because you didn't respect him by being honest. Nothing about the way you participated is CM's fault. When you own how you participated then maybe you can begin to heal and move forward. Exactly, there STILL seems to be a lack of taking complete responsibility and I'm sorry but that is unacceptable when you're 14 friggin pages into the topic. It's hard to get on board with a person saying they put a "ton of hard work" into reconciling when that same person apparently put no hard work into "not breaking no contact and disrespecting your husband again". At this point we are 14 pages in, so I don't think anyone can say anything that is going to sink in at this point. It's a lost cause, which is unfortunate because not being able to acknowledge all this just means she will probably cheat again on the next poor guy she gets with. CD, any man you want to get involved with..please let them read this topic prior to doing so. They need to know what they are potentially getting into. Edited January 11, 2015 by Spectre Link to post Share on other sites
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