In search of. . . Master/pet?

[emeryentropy]

Yes, I am in search of a better way to form a Master/pet relationship.

I have become blasé about opening up with what I want because I realize how hard it is to find this particular type of person. Being that I live out in the middle of central Oklahoma has made come to accept and somewhat believe that I won't find what I'm searching for here. I am regularly interacting with the opposite gender only to be disappointed by their metrosexuality, or extreme religious views. I simply want a traditional relationship with some non-traditional twists. I enjoy being girly, dainty and feminine. I feel unhappy with the negative view feminism has given men towards women. To put it simply I want to be subservient and make somebody feel happy and appreciated. I want to feel protected and safe in exchange. Collars, cuffs, and cages are just an added bonus~ <3

 

I don't plan to stay in Oklahoma forever. . hopefully I will be out in a few years at most.

[StalwartMind]

It can be a challenge to find someone who fits the desired profile, especially if you are in a place where people have more limited views. When it comes to traditional relationships with some added twists, it's especially important you find someone capable of an open mind and who can provide the required security, so you can explore and enjoy life as you see fit.

 

Naturally depending how you feel about others judging you, it can provide an extra challenge, but I've read about other women with the the same preferences who are really passionate about this type of lifestyle, so it's far from uncommon. I can only encourage you to keep looking, granted you may have to expand your search area. Hopefully you are willing to do that without having to move too far if that presents a problem.

[emeryentropy]

I can only encourage you to keep looking, granted you may have to expand your search area. Hopefully you are willing to do that without having to move too far if that presents a problem.

 

I was thinking the same thing. If I met somebody here from another state maybe if it developed there would be the potential for me to relocate to them or vice versa.

[StalwartMind]

Indeed, anything is possible and in no way to make it sound more or less romantic, but you really just don't know where or when you'll run into someone who will become a significant part of your life.

 

The best experiences I've had with people have actually happened when I didn't expect it or for that matter when looking for it, but you can often find someone interesting in environments where like minded people are.

 

Best of luck for sure.

[anika99]

How serious are you about this sort of arrangement? Do you want to dominated on a daily basis, in every aspect? Or is this more about sex?

 

 

You know how when you're just sort playing around on the internet and you're following links or you're looking up strange things that you never heard of before just because you saw in on a web page and it piqued your curiosity? Well that happens to me all of the time..LOL. Anyways one day I was reading at a marriage site where a woman was crowing about domestic discipline and singing it's praises. Said it saved her marriage and made her respect her husband again. I had no idea what she was talking about so of course I looked it up.

 

 

Wow! I had no clue that there were people out there living this type of marriage and thoroughly enjoying it. People in this lifestyle believe wholeheartedly that the man should 100% be the head of the household. He makes all of the decisions and what he says goes. Not only that but when the wife disobeys her husband or obeys but with a defiant attitude

he is expected to punish her. This might mean grounding her, taking something away from her or giving her extra chores or even spanking her. This is not sexual in nature, as a matter of fact, I saw one page that said if a man becomes sexually aroused while punishing his wife he should ignore it because the woman will use that to her advantage. On the one hand I thought they were a bunch of whackos but on the other hand I was fascinated. I wondered what made these woman agree to such an arrangement.

 

 

There was a domestic discipline forum where people in this kind of marriage spoke freely of their beliefs and reasons for their choice. Unfortunately this was years ago and that website seems to be gone now. Anyways the more I read and studied of these people the more I understood their reasoning. I couldn't do it myself but I understood where they were coming from. I also found that many of these people were religious zealots who thought this lifestyle was demanded by God, but not everyone practicing this lifestyle did it for religious reasons.

 

 

So you might want to google domestic discipline and see if that is of any interest to you. I'm not saying it would be as I can't tell from your OP exactly what kind of relationship you are looking for. Just a suggestion

[emeryentropy]

Yes, thank you so much! I actually forgot to mention that I have heard of that and it is pretty much exactly something I want incorporated into my relationship as well!

 

I also made a few other posts on the internet randomly not expecting anything to come of it and I have made contact with 1 person who seems like it might potentially go somewhere.

 

Thanks to you both for replying!

[Els]

Yes, I am in search of a better way to form a Master/pet relationship.

I have become blasé about opening up with what I want because I realize how hard it is to find this particular type of person. Being that I live out in the middle of central Oklahoma has made come to accept and somewhat believe that I won't find what I'm searching for here. I am regularly interacting with the opposite gender only to be disappointed by their metrosexuality, or extreme religious views. I simply want a traditional relationship with some non-traditional twists. I enjoy being girly, dainty and feminine. I feel unhappy with the negative view feminism has given men towards women. To put it simply I want to be subservient and make somebody feel happy and appreciated. I want to feel protected and safe in exchange. Collars, cuffs, and cages are just an added bonus~ <3

 

I don't plan to stay in Oklahoma forever. . hopefully I will be out in a few years at most.

 

There are several M/s sites around where you can look for this sort of arrangement, as well as various forums to discuss it. A quick google search should put them in reach for you.

 

I do feel compelled to say that your views sound concerning to me, not because of what you seek, but because every healthy M/s relationship I have read of does not involve people who believe that men should be dominant and women subservient. Rather, they just embrace their own natural inclinations and seek someone who has a complementary inclination. So they acknowledge and accept that there are other people in M/f, F/m, M/m and F/f arrangements as well.

 

Also, most genuine Dominants are in favour of feminism (as defined by equal legal rights for women), as they believe that truly meaningful power exchange can only occur when the submissive has the power to give in the first place. If it was something that was expected of someone solely due to their gender, the meaning is lost.

 

So, I am concerned that your particular mindset might lead to you being in an unhealthy relationship where your 'Master' is only taking advantage of you, rather than someone who truly desires a M/s relationship. I do hope that you will give this train of thought some consideration, and at the very least be careful about whom you choose. Only submit to someone who has truly proved that he cares about you and deserves it.

[genuinelyloverly7]

I agree with Elswyth 100%. 300% Actually.

 

That said, I have joined one that has shown me just how surrounded I am by my fellow freaks and freak-enthusiasts. And I live just South of you, in the equally conservative Texas. Okay, Oklahoma may actually be worse. I've never been.

 

But seriously, I've seen a group here in Tx of just what your looking for, and some groups of maybe not that exactly, but of other types in your area (just to show you that there are other alternatively-inclined folks in your state).

 

So please do some self-awareness work (not to imply that maybe you haven't- I just hope that you are keeping your self-worth at a high priority), research the lifestyle in all it's endless varieties, and know that what you want is out there.

Edited December 10, 2014 by genuinelyloverly7
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[CarrieT]

Fet-Life and CollarSpace are the two sites you would want to use to find this type of relationship.

 

It won't matter that you are in Oklahoma; these types of relationships are being established by all sorts of people all over the world.

 

I met my Master on CollarMe (before it changed its name to CollarSpace) and we subsequently got married.

 

Just guard your heart and be careful not to enter into an abusive relationship! You will be overwhelmed with men and women who will want you but won't care about an honest relationship with you; they just want to add to their stable of other pets/slaves.

 

Take your time and find someone that speaks to EVERY PART OF YOU and your needs!

 

I was on these sites for several years and - admittedly - went through 100s of convos and 50+ "first dates" to find the perfect guy. And, in the process, I went through a lot of heartache. It is possible, it just takes care and time.