Ready2DateAgain Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 This is a letter to you,my love I wish there was a way to be able to explain this roller coaster of emotions that I have been going through the past 12 months.I feel lost and confuse,I miss you and I don't ,I wish you were back in my life and I don't not after what you did to me,to tell me you loved me and wanted to be with my while you were carrying another mans child was the ultimate betrayal,but I wish it wasn't this way because I have been missing you and its been a very difficult ride,the non stop alcoholic abuse to try t o forget you has not been working and its taking a toll on my health. I wish you could see this message but I know now that I can't ever here this message because you have moved on so I rather have put this energy out into this world in hope that the energy Gods can grant me some relief,some peace and comfort so I can for once be able to close the chapter and look forward to a new friend and fonder memories. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 How heart breaking. I hope getting that out was a step in your healing process. You are right though. You can't take her back if she had another man's baby. Link to post Share on other sites
endlessabyss Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 Had something similar happen. Give it another six months and you should be alright if you drop the alcohol. You don't really miss her, you just miss the memories of what once was. After this you'll appreciate being single more as well. When you're out, and see that nice little couple holding hands, you'll think in the back of your mind, "Its only a matter of time before that blows up, and boy is it going to hurt for one of them. Glad I don't have to go through that again!". But like I stated earlier, get off the liquor. The more you keep avoiding the pain, the longer this whole healing thing will take. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ready2DateAgain Posted December 9, 2014 Author Share Posted December 9, 2014 Had something similar happen. Give it another six months and you should be alright if you drop the alcohol. You don't really miss her, you just miss the memories of what once was. After this you'll appreciate being single more as well. When you're out, and see that nice little couple holding hands, you'll think in the back of your mind, "Its only a matter of time before that blows up, and boy is it going to hurt for one of them. Glad I don't have to go through that again!". But like I stated earlier, get off the liquor. The more you keep avoiding the pain, the longer this whole healing thing will take. seeing couples does hurt ,I do think of her more and the only time I'm ok with it is when I consume liquor to ease me of the pain,the only other time I feel optimistic about things is when I'm in the gym,maybe I should focus more on that as opposed to what I'm currently doing. But as I stated ,it hurts a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
endlessabyss Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 seeing couples does hurt ,I do think of her more and the only time I'm ok with it is when I consume liquor to ease me of the pain,the only other time I feel optimistic about things is when I'm in the gym,maybe I should focus more on that as opposed to what I'm currently doing. But as I stated ,it hurts a lot. The reason seeing couples still hurts is because you're not facing up to the pain, you're just trying to mask it with alcohol, which is a temporary fix. Same goes for the thoughts of your ex. You just need to let the thoughts/ideas cycle through your head. Give it some time and they lose their power. The gym is an excellent idea. You're not only keeping your mind occupied, improving your health, but you get that endorphin rush, which makes you feel good. Focus on that, and let go of the booze, everything is going to be alight! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ready2DateAgain Posted December 9, 2014 Author Share Posted December 9, 2014 The reason seeing couples still hurts is because you're not facing up to the pain, you're just trying to mask it with alcohol, which is a temporary fix. Same goes for the thoughts of your ex. You just need to let the thoughts/ideas cycle through your head. Give it some time and they lose their power. The gym is an excellent idea. You're not only keeping your mind occupied, improving your health, but you get that endorphin rush, which makes you feel good. Focus on that, and let go of the booze, everything is going to be alight! I have to say that I do feel better ,I feel powerful after a weight training session and suddenly the process feels less stressful ,I must stay sober because I only fall backwards and get consume again by the self pitty party 1 Link to post Share on other sites
shadow_stang Posted December 9, 2014 Share Posted December 9, 2014 What helped me, was thinking about the person I used to be with, and thinking, "Dang, if it wasn't meant to be with her, then that must mean I meant to be with someone even more awesome, which will be wild, because she meant a lot to me, so I can't wait to find this person who will mean even more!" Sorry if that sounds corny. And ironically, I don't necessarily believe things are "meant" to be, but it makes life a bit more positive thinking that they are. And also, what I've noticed is that a person is more or less in love with the "idea" of someone at a point like 6 months or more, rather than the actual person. Remember, everyday that goes by without her, you get a little stronger, and a little more over her. I'd def keep hitting the gym too. I'm currently doing strong lifts 5x5. Pretty cool routine. Link to post Share on other sites
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