Becoming a desperate housewife

[alone-n-fl]

First of all, hi to everyone. I'm new here, hoping I can get some good support and advice.

Well, I'm 22 years old, I have a beautiful year and a half old baby girl and a gorgeous 24 year old man. We've been together for 4 years. We just bought our first house, he got a promotion at work and is now a superintendant at a roofing company and I just got back into the work force working with title insurance for homes. The thing is, he's never home anymore and when he is here, he's either sleeping, on the phone, doing work, or something else. He doesn't really help me that much around the house or with our daughter. I understand he has a rough, stressfull job, but between my 40 hr a week job and my almost two year old taking up the rest of my time....I'm working 2 full time jobs. And to prove he doesn't really spend a lot of time with us, she won't let him giver her a bath or put her to sleep because I've always been the one to do it. He works all week long till about 6pm. This last Saturday he worked till 6pm and then went to bed at 7pm. Sunday he worked till 6pm and spent some time with us and now Monday, he got home at 630 and went to bed at 7pm. I just really hate being alone and feeling like a single mother when I'm not. I just feel like I'm gonna turn into a desperate housewife soon if nothing changes.

[jade_nc]

first and foremost, take some time for yourself. if you don't, you'll only grow to resent him.

 

make plans for dinner or a movie - anything - tell him when it is and that he needs to make sure he's home by X time to keep the baby.

 

this will do two things - give him the bonding time he needs with his child, and give you the break that we all need.

 

next, hire a babysitter and make plans for the 2 or you. tell him in advance so he knows when to be home. go out and have a fabulous time. the next day, tell him you would like to talk to him about the situation. waiting is important - because then you have a positive moment in recent memory that you can focus on. remind him that he has more responsibilities to the family than just monetary.