ponchsox Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 When I'm on dates or talking with women, and the conversation of cars come up, I often get asked what I drive (or they see.) After I tell them I drive a 2012 Ford Focus, it's amazing how quickly their tone changes and can tell they are suddenly turned off. If a woman with half a brain realized that by saving money from this company car, which is 100% paid for, I might actually have money. But I guess they would rather be with a guy with a nice BMW but is in debt up to their necks? I find this tactic actually weeds out the gold diggers and materialistic women. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 Oooooh your my dream man! I am afraid I write off any man driving anything that is likely to have more horse power than the drive has brain cells. Your cat sick green lotus would leave me cold no matter how lovely and good looking you are. The only sporty cars I would think about perhaps sticking around are those that could be classics such as Jags and Bentleys... anything else and you can forget it... I would far rather a ford Focus to a Lamborghini ANY DAY! So when these women turn their noses up at your car be damned grateful that they are not going to become a part of your life. If they can be so petty over something so minor they would be hell on earth to date. As long as its safe and road worthy that is all you have to worry about. Mud is also optional...! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Danda Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 Lol okay how many times has this actually happened or are you taking a couple bad dates, blaming it on the car you drive and then deciding it must be a 'woman thing'? If you're not skewing the situation to blame a dud date on your car, and if this has actually happened "often" (i.e. majority of dates) then you probably need to consider how you are choosing these women. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 Unless the car is an obvious junker, beaten up, and worthy of towing to a pick-a-part yard, the drive is irrelevant. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 ponchsox When I 1st started dating my husband he drove Mazda's equivalent of the Focus. In all candor, I hated it. It just wasn't a car that screamed grown man to me. However, a car is a means of transportation; it's not a reason to date or break up with somebody. She may not love your car but if that's the sole basis on which she judge's you, she is not a person worth getting to know. I drove a small SUV when we met so my aversion to his car wasn't that I was looking for a high end luxury sports car. When I was 17 I did start dating a guy because I fell in lust with his 1967 Mustang but that was the only time in my life I dated a car. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
littleblackheart Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 Not very important at all. Maybe they asked to make it seem like they are interested in what guys normally like and didn't respond because they don't know what a Ford Focus is? I don't know anyone in my social circle or beyond that would care about that kind of things (so long as the car is clean and safe to drive, obviously), although I guess age could be a factor (we're mid-30's to early 40's). How old are your dates? Link to post Share on other sites
autumnnight Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 This made me chuckle because I have been looking at a 2013 Focus to buy when I trade in my current car 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 In my experience, the vast majority of women don't care specifically what car you drive. However, women looking for men with money will use his car as a gauge to his wealth. I mentioned in another thread that my wingman let me borrow his Maserati. That car worked wonders in the specific venues we went to meet women. With that being said, my dates really appreciate my Lexus more than they did my Toyota, but that's for the creature comforts. I like keeping my half of the car 15 degrees colder than hers. That's the only thing they seem to care about. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 My now-H drove a beat-up old Honda civic, circa 1995, when we met back in 2006. He had that car up until a couple of years ago (after we were married), when it died. We now have a Honda Fit, which is a vast improvement because I've never bothered to learn how to drive a stickshift so it's nice that I can drive this one. About cars, I pretty much feel that if it goes (and has climate control) then I don't really give a crap. I can honestly say that my friends and I have never sat down to chat about what cars a guy drives. Just doesn't come up, nobody cares much. I agree that if you're finding it's an issue it's worth rethinking the type of people you pursue. Link to post Share on other sites
nofeelings22 Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 When I'm on dates or talking with women, and the conversation of cars come up, I often get asked what I drive (or they see.) After I tell them I drive a 2012 Ford Focus, it's amazing how quickly their tone changes and can tell they are suddenly turned off. If a woman with half a brain realized that by saving money from this company car, which is 100% paid for, I might actually have money. But I guess they would rather be with a guy with a nice BMW but is in debt up to their necks? I find this tactic actually weeds out the gold diggers and materialistic women. It's a funny thing, isn't it? A car is the worst investment you can make, yet many financially uneducated women judge your wealth based on this. Dare I even say most women in the dating pool do. I explain how cars are a bad investment and then go on to talk about my good investments while letting them know I don't want an expensive car. I have found gold digger or not, all women want security in life and will definitely be sizing up your ability to provide it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 You need to start being observant to avoid picking the shallow materialistic women. If they are insistent on only wearing designer clothes and carrying designer handbags, they're going to want a designer car. So one quick way to find out how materialistic they are is compliment them on their handbag and see if they say, "Oh, thanks, it's a Coach" (or they even know the brand name because only people into designer would even care about the brand name) and mentions how it was expensive but worth it or if she goes, "Oh, thanks, it's just something I picked up at Penney's," (or Target or less expensive stores). Then don't go out with the brand people. If someone is in a medium paying job and they're buying only designer clothing, they're living beyond their means. If you're rich, sure. But a working girl doing that very well may have some self-esteem problems and/or completely lack her own identity and be relying on designers for it. That's not good. The same could be said for anyone who goes beyond their means to buy a new car, a huge flat screen, the latest iPhone, or any other luxury items. Not a good sign for financial solvency or common sense. Ruled by looking like more than they are. I grew up in the muscle car generation with a father whose hobby was cars and I watch a lot of the tv car shows and I'm not gonna lie, I love a great car -- but I drive a Prius. Not since high school have I put any stipulations on what a man should drive, and I am like you are and always have been about driving one that's paid off until it falls apart. But do I get a little tingle if I run into some older guy who's into classic cars? Indeed I do. I think a '69 Superbird would make the ideal birthday present to me, or a Charger RT, Mustang Shelby, '63 Galaxie 500, any '60s model T-Birds, a '66 XKE, Aston Martin or Bugati. Just be observant so you don't find out too late if someone is shallow and materialistic. I would never have gone out with a guy just because he had a cool car. I love the cars for themselves and while I would like someone who shared my passion, I wouldn't respect anyone whose appetite for them exceeded common sense and their budget as far as buying them goes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 It's a funny thing, isn't it? A car is the worst investment you can make, yet many financially uneducated women judge your wealth based on this. Dare I even say most women in the dating pool do. I explain how cars are a bad investment and then go on to talk about my good investments while letting them know I don't want an expensive car. I have found gold digger or not, all women want security in life and will definitely be sizing up your ability to provide it. That's true. A new car is the worst investment you can make. As soon as you drive it off the dealership grounds, its value drops roughly 30 percent, and if you financed, you're always going to owe more than the car is worth until it's paid off. I briefly worked at an auto dealership, so I know it's true. There are a few good deals, like Zero percent financing, if you can qualify. And classic cars are like buying rent houses: It's only profitable if you can do 90 percent of the work yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 Not. But old style VW Beetles are my fave car.. Or an old style camper.. I am also able to help fixing them...but guys won't like that I suspect...I'd keep quiet if needed.. Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 As long as it runs reliably I dont care what a guy drives. Having a car isn't even a requirement, but it's definitely helpful. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lernaean_Hydra Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 No, I don't actually care what kind of car he drives but I am a sucker for a fast one nonetheless. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 I like keeping my half of the car 15 degrees colder than hers. Cars can do that?! That's insane. Does it really work, though? Doesn't the air all just mix together in then end? Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 No, I don't actually care what kind of car he drives but I am a sucker for a fast one nonetheless. Honestly, maybe I'm out of touch with this, but why do people care so much about how fast a car can go when you can barely even drive fast anyway due to the speeding laws? If you get caught speeding, than you get a huge amount of points on your license. Or possibly even lose your license in a second or third offense. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
contact1 Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 Cars can do that?! That's insane. Does it really work, though? Doesn't the air all just mix together in then end? I think it's more of feeling cooler/warmer from the actual air hitting you. Technically yes over time, the temperature would have to normalize to just one temp, but as the air releases you would feel the different. You can think of it like cooking from a stove, even though you may set something next to the stove, it wouldn't be as hot as something on the actual stove. Back on topic, from my experiences, as long as your car is kept clean, a female won't car what type of ride you have. I've had anywhere from some salvage junk car all the way to a high speed sports car, and while the sports car did get me more attention, it wasn't the kind I was interested in. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 I have found gold digger or not, all women want security in life and will definitely be sizing up your ability to provide it. A bit sexist that, no? A financially secure woman may be interested in the car, because she doesn't particularly want to subsidise a slob either, no? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
contact1 Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 Honestly, maybe I'm out of touch with this, but why do people care so much about how fast a car can go when you can barely even drive fast anyway due to the speeding laws? If you get caught speeding, than you get a huge amount of points on your license. Or possibly even lose your license in a second or third offense. I think it's more with the acceleration feeling, most any car now adays can go "fast", it is how long it takes them to get to that point. That feeling of actual motions comes from acceleration, not the final resulting speed. Also, there are many times where you could easily go above the speed limit, I still remember one of my drives from Vegas where I managed to hit 110 mph on the main highway. Looking back not the smartest thing I've done, but back than, the a-hole trying to keep me from merging over deserved it Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 I think it's more with the acceleration feeling, most any car now adays can go "fast", it is how long it takes them to get to that point. That feeling of actual motions comes from acceleration, not the final resulting speed. Also, there are many times where you could easily go above the speed limit, I still remember one of my drives from Vegas where I managed to hit 110 mph on the main highway. Looking back not the smartest thing I've done, but back than, the a-hole trying to keep me from merging over deserved it True, I just personally feel it's a weird thing to care about. All I want is a decent reliable car. Don't care about how fast it goes from point A to point B. I usually get paranoid if I'm even going like 65mph in A 50mph zone. I always get the feeling that a cop is going to be right there. The only time I feel fine doing it is if the cars around me are all going just as fast. Link to post Share on other sites
nofeelings22 Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 A bit sexist that, no? A financially secure woman may be interested in the car, because she doesn't particularly want to subsidise a slob either, no? Not even close to sexist. Realist. This is reality. Women in the dating pool by and large want to know a man can provide them with security. Money is one part of that. Strength is another. It's the nature of your sex. It's how well over 90% of you operate, even if subconsciously. You want a real man, not a boy. You can deny it all you want, but these things turn women on and get them interested very quickly. A flashy car says "rich guy" to many financially uneducated women. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 When I'm on dates or talking with women, and the conversation of cars come up, I often get asked what I drive (or they see.) After I tell them I drive a 2012 Ford Focus, it's amazing how quickly their tone changes and can tell they are suddenly turned off. If a woman with half a brain realized that by saving money from this company car, which is 100% paid for, I might actually have money. But I guess they would rather be with a guy with a nice BMW but is in debt up to their necks? I find this tactic actually weeds out the gold diggers and materialistic women. Damn, I actually drive a 2010 Ford Focus........ Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 You can deny it all you want, but these things turn women on and get them interested very quickly. A flashy car says "rich guy" to many financially uneducated women. To me, a flashy car says "probably lots of debt" and "trying way too hard to project a certain image". If anything, a flashy car could be an instant dealbreaker to me. An instant indicator that me and this guy have nothing in common. A guy shows up in a beat up pickup truck, though? Nice 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted December 10, 2014 Share Posted December 10, 2014 To me, a flashy car says "probably lots of debt" and "trying way too hard to project a certain image". If anything, a flashy car could be an instant dealbreaker to me. An instant indicator that me and this guy have nothing in common. A guy shows up in a beat up pickup truck, though? Nice lol you honestly seem to be a one of a kind type of woman. Too bad there's not many women like you out there. Link to post Share on other sites
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