mefisto Posted December 11, 2014 Share Posted December 11, 2014 If a guy doesn't drive a car in a age of 20-27 - is it instant turn-off for girls who drive cars themselves? I have a record of psychotic problems and its very possible that i wont drive a car for a long time. But majority of girls in my age group obsessed with cars and they see it as necessary symbol of success. I think most of them wont even go for a date with a guy who doesn't drive a car. Is it true? Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted December 11, 2014 Share Posted December 11, 2014 Driving a car is to me is like breathing, without a car for me, the world stops. I have never and would never date a man with no car. Never say never but... It has nothing to do with success or status really for me. I am not impressed by sports cars or SUVs. I like a clean car but I do not worry how fast it goes or how sexy it looks. Maserati or Mercedes, Ford or Fiat I do not really care, but someone with no car is not someone I would be interested in. Sorry! Link to post Share on other sites
mefisto Posted December 11, 2014 Share Posted December 11, 2014 Driving a car is to me is like breathing, without a car for me, the world stops. I have never and would never date a man with no car. Never say never but... It has nothing to do with success or status really for me. I am not impressed by sports cars or SUVs. I like a clean car but I do not worry how fast it goes or how sexy it looks. Maserati or Mercedes, Ford or Fiat I do not really care, but someone with no car is not someone I would be interested in. Sorry! Well, maybe with some time i will be able to pay the bribe to clean my record and have driver license. Until than, i should not even bother to date anyone? Also, i live in the city where subway is 100 times faster way of transportation than car traffic. There is no economical sense to spent loads of money on car and fuel just to stay in car traffic jam for hours every day. Im not exaggerating, its incredibly big problem with traffic here. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted December 11, 2014 Share Posted December 11, 2014 Well, maybe with some time i will be able to pay the bribe to clean my record and have driver license. Until than, i should not even bother to date anyone? Also, i live in the city where subway is 100 times faster way of transportation than car traffic. There is no economical sense to spent loads of money on car and fuel just to stay in car traffic jam for hours every day. Im not exaggerating, its incredibly big problem with traffic here. If I lived in a big city that may be a different matter. Link to post Share on other sites
autumnnight Posted December 11, 2014 Share Posted December 11, 2014 You would be able to if you knew more men in depth Nope, not a man, never been a man. It would be pure observation of a small sampling of the entire world of men. I know ten times more women well than I know men, and I AM a woman. I have ONE friend who cares about the kind of car a man drives, and she...well, let's just say she's not who I would put up as a shining example of fine womanhood. This is when a car WOULD matter to me: 1. We were a couple, we could afford a safer car for the kids, and he is just too bullheaded to get one 2. He has a flashy car that he really cannot afford but bought above his means as some sort of status symbol 3. He has an old truck that belches smoke, sounds like a train, and is possibly solely responsible for climate change Link to post Share on other sites
denise_xo Posted December 11, 2014 Share Posted December 11, 2014 Unless the car is clearly unsafe, irrelevant. Link to post Share on other sites
Under The Radar Posted December 11, 2014 Share Posted December 11, 2014 Just a sec ...... I'm a guy, but if a hot chick in a Red Ferrari picks me up for a date ...... Uh, yeah ...... were getting it on after dessert. Disclaimer: No, it doesn't have to be Christie Brinkley. LOL 1 Link to post Share on other sites
the tank Posted December 11, 2014 Share Posted December 11, 2014 If a girl judge me because of my car, I dont want to be with her. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted December 11, 2014 Share Posted December 11, 2014 Just a sec ...... I'm a guy, but if a hot chick in a Red Ferrari picks me up for a date ...... Uh, yeah ...... were getting it on after dessert. Disclaimer: No, it doesn't have to be Christie Brinkley. LOL I think you can be arrested for sexual harassment of vehicles... I don't think your date would be too pleased if you started snogging her car... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Under The Radar Posted December 11, 2014 Share Posted December 11, 2014 I think you can be arrested for sexual harassment of vehicles... I don't think your date would be too pleased if you started snogging her car... Yeah, I'm pretty sure that story ends with: "Officer, these handcuffs are hurting me" Is that bad for my criminal background check? LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted December 11, 2014 Share Posted December 11, 2014 Yeah, I'm pretty sure that story ends with: "Officer, these handcuffs are hurting me" Is that bad for my criminal background check? LOL Don't worry - only shows up if they book you You might even get to star on Top Gear as a womans worst first date! Sir - Step away from that exhaust pipe... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TigerLilly78 Posted December 11, 2014 Share Posted December 11, 2014 I think most of them wont even go for a date with a guy who doesn't drive a car. Is it true? Theirs hope my BF dosent drive for medical reasons granted alot of women turned him down because of this but there are some who are not so hung up on cars def in a city setting you should be fine.. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted December 12, 2014 Share Posted December 12, 2014 If a guy doesn't drive a car in a age of 20-27 - is it instant turn-off for girls who drive cars themselves? I have a record of psychotic problems and its very possible that i wont drive a car for a long time. But majority of girls in my age group obsessed with cars and they see it as necessary symbol of success. I think most of them wont even go for a date with a guy who doesn't drive a car. Is it true? I think the psychotic problems may be more worrisome to most women to be frank rather than you not having a car. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mefisto Posted December 12, 2014 Share Posted December 12, 2014 I think the psychotic problems may be more worrisome to most women to be frank rather than you not having a car. I don't really have them except for depression. I had to lie to doctor to get the record to avoid serving in the army. Army in my country is huge waste of time and dangerous for health. So the car is bigger problem in dating field. Link to post Share on other sites
autumnnight Posted December 12, 2014 Share Posted December 12, 2014 Lying to get out of military service would be a turnoff to me too. Link to post Share on other sites
NGC1300 Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 Haven't read the thread but the new Focuses are good cars. In fact they are actually of German design. Totally different car than the garbage Ford was putting out in the late 90's/early 2000's. One thing is to get one with a manual trans because the autos are plagued with shifting problems. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 When I'm on dates or talking with women, and the conversation of cars come up, I often get asked what I drive (or they see.) I haven't had this experience in my 40 or so years of interaction with women, though obviously they can see what I apparently drive, at least that day, if/when we go out on a date. After I tell them I drive a 2012 Ford Focus, it's amazing how quickly their tone changes and can tell they are suddenly turned off. I know what you mean about perceiving someone as being 'turned off' but haven't experienced that relative to cars. If a woman with half a brain realized that by saving money from this company car, which is 100% paid for, I might actually have money. If they jump to a particular judgment without having the facts in, well, that's how it goes. But I guess they would rather be with a guy with a nice BMW but is in debt up to their necks? Yes, some would. It depends on the woman and socio-economic strata. I find this tactic actually weeds out the gold diggers and materialistic women. It can, but such women come in all styles and flavors and the most experienced don't bet the farm on your apparent choice of car. They're more discerning. My first taste of this came in high school where most of the kids who drove cars had quite lovely new ones provided for them and I drove an old Mustang that I paid cash for out of my own pocket. It made sense that a girl who was used to driving a BMW or Mercedes and spending the weekends at mom and dad's other house at Pebble Beach wouldn't be dating a gearhead driving an old Ford, and they didn't! I saw that as normal and not 'gold-digging' in any way shape or form. They knew my family from church and social interactions and knew we weren't of the same 'class'. An alternative perspective is that a man who can afford to toss money into an asset that, for the most part, substantially depreciates once leaving the new car lot is stating that money at this level is essentially irrelevant to him and he enjoys the car and the sunk cost is worth it. He can move beyond this level into the realm of cars which appreciate (the McClaren 12C another member mentioned, and the vintage Camaro owned by another member would be entering that realm) but, still, IME, women are or have been generally mute about this aspect. Those wishing to discern a man of appropriate socio-economic strata to be worthy of their company see far beyond mere automobiles. They dig deep and are connected. Relevant anecdote, since I noted something mentioned about washing.... due to a long-term drought, I made a decision this year regarding washing of vehicles, a substantial one due to the number I own, and decided it was better use of increasing scarce ground water to adequately water important trees and crops and cut back on the vehicle washing. Hence, when out on the road, my vehicles might appear 'unkempt' to some but I was keeping my trees and orchard alive with that water. Sure, saving money on pumping was part of that but it was also recognizing our ecology. Now, there are commercial car washes which utilize recycled water (I work on those systems so know them well) but I'd have to drive 20 miles or more one-way to get to one of those, also ecologically wasteful. The bottom line is be attractive and never be unattractive. All this social responsibility stuff and bauble stuff is secondary. A man who is good with women will be with women, his car notwithstanding. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
acrosstheuniverse Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 Not even slightly. I've actually never had a boyfriend who's had a car. My three latest (including present) boyfriends can't even drive, they don't hold a driving license. It drives me crazy as I am sick of being the driver! So yes, I'd be relieved if a boyfriend actually had a car. Or, failing that, the legal ability to drive one even if they can't afford one at the moment, that's fine. Anything that's legal and fairly reliably transports us from place to place would be bliss haha. Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 Just saw a funny video related to this topic. The guy is self-admittedly "crass" but it's worth a view: Link to post Share on other sites
writergal Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 Who cares what kind of car he drives. As long as there's no holes in the car's floor, the heater / air conditioner works, and the doors stay closed when you driver over 25 mph, I'm happy! I'd rather he have a driver's license and no DUI or DWI on his driving record, not have a road rage problem and not be a speed demon. My car is 14 years old. If a guy is going to judge me on that criteria before he gets to know me, his loss my gain. I'd rather spend my money on air travel than a car payment and gas. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
zebracolors Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 I would be impressed with a guy who is financially intelligent, knows how to make smart decisions about spending, etc. Now, that said, it wouldn't (and maybe shouldn't) matter how he goes about doing that, whether it means he has a used car he only paid say, $5000 for, or even if he chose not to have a car and actually can get around using public transportation. Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 If a girl judge me because of my car, I dont want to be with her. Pretty much this. With the exception of a car that barely runs or looks like it's from a junk yard where you don't keep it in good/respectable condition, if a woman judges you by the car you drive than she definitely isn't worth keeping around. Link to post Share on other sites
Gpc2013 Posted December 13, 2014 Share Posted December 13, 2014 I don't care what a man drives. At all. I drive a black Ford F-250 Super Duty 4WD pick-up. It cracks me up when my date looks a bit intimidated when I drive up. But he can drive anything he wants. If I didn't have horses, I'd be driving the most practical, fuel-efficient vehicle I could buy. I'd respect a man that does the same. Dudes that are obsessed with their cars/trucks get on my nerves. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Donnie Darko Posted December 14, 2014 Share Posted December 14, 2014 Most women will never admit it but the answer is yes. The car a man drives matters to her because she incorrectly uses it to judge the wealth and the ability for the man to be a provider. Women that claim that the man's car doesn't matter, seem to admit that they do appreciate it when a man has a nice car. Does this mean that a woman won't date a man that doesn't have a nice car? Of course not, but a nice car doesn't hurt a man when dating the opposite sex. Sadly, all most all of the girls I have ever met kept their cars fairly cluttered and messy compared to mine. Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted December 14, 2014 Share Posted December 14, 2014 I don't really have them except for depression. I had to lie to doctor to get the record to avoid serving in the army. Army in my country is huge waste of time and dangerous for health. So the car is bigger problem in dating field. It would depend on the country. In my country you can get away without having a car. Link to post Share on other sites
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