southernbrownie Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Okay, so i've been chatting with this guy online for like 8 months or something long like that. As it turned out, we have mutual freinds, as he use to live in the same city as I, but has since moved before we met online. Things were really casual at first, sharing the same sense of humour and tonnes in common. I moved away for a bit, then came back and we started flirting heavliy and (both) developing feelings for each other. Once in while he'd make a remake like "I have to be honest with myself, you live so far away". Which it was, but not that far (about 6-7 hours). We both really wanted to meet each other, and finally after like over 9 months of talking online/webcam/telephone calls (he'd always call really late at night, once saying "I love you" he was a little drunk tho). I knew he was single and trusted him farily well, so I knew meeting was going to be great. He even said if we hit it off, he'd take me somewhere. Well, after like 1 month of failed escapes from his job ect to come visit me, he finally drove the distance and showed up at my door. We had an awesome first date, wined and dined me, went out for drinks, saw a band, then I got a little drunk so we went back to my place. He spent the night (no sex) and drove me to work the next morning. Well, he ended up spending 3 nights at my place. We went out for coffee, walks, drinks, he introduced me to some of his freinds from Univeristy (they were really nice and he was PDA'ing me too, infront of them) We held hands, and basically acted like a couple, we talked alot and there was definalty chemisty. The only problem when we were out was when other guys would hit on me!!!He showed a tiny bit of jealousy (tugging at my side). I really like him, and pretty sure he likes me too. He wanted to take me somewhere on the weekend for a little get away, and up until the night before, he kept asking me. He also said he was really nervous around me, cause he's attracted to me, and feels this way when he is starting a relationship. The day we were to leave, we woke up , got breakfast and he starting getting really indecisive. His parents were calling for him to get back to work (family business) and stressing out. He said he thought he should get back, as he promised a few freinds he would visit them before along his way home (This was a vacation for him aswell) he decided to cut the visit short and go back home. (I think my older bro who i live with weirded him out a bit as he wouldn't even say a word to him). We hugged and kissed and he said he didn't know what to say, I didntsay much as i was in a state of shock and very upset about it. So he left, just like that. No talk about what would happen between us. I never slept with though, but pretty much everything else. I'm not sure if there is some other girl he's interested in, as he did visit an ex while he was staying with me, who I think he is still upset over as he said she never gave them a reason as to why they broke things off (they broke up like at least a year ago). I talked to him today and asked if he was pissed at me, and that why he left so early, and he just said that he was up all night with a stomach ache, and felt akward about driving around my town with all his stuff in his truck.(whatever that means) He said he woke with a sudden urgency to just get back home. Though he didn't get home until 2 days later as he ended up hanging out with freinds in another town. I told him i really wanted to have sex with him (incase he thought i didn't) and he said "I do too, if the geographical situation would allow for it". We've talked about me moving out there, and I applied to a college about an hour away from him and got accepted (I want to move out there anyways, reagardless of him and have wanted to for awhile, he's been a catalyst) I also really like him alot and just wanted some other opions on this situation, and how to play it, or maybe some insight by a male.??? Thanks in advance! Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Hi! I am a woman and I agree with you that you should get a male's opinion. Everything sounds kinda weird. But I''ll tell you what I didn't like for sure: 1. That he said he had to immediately go back home and it turned out that he lied cuz he spent 3 days with you and 2 days elsewhere, and 2. That you told him you really wanted to have sex with him. In my opinion he is hiding something. He didn't even try to have sex with you, which means he didn't want to start a relationship and hurt you later. Had he tried, you would have most likely accepted, right? But he didn't, which doesn't look like a regular man's behavior. Let him be the first who makes the steps. Don't do anything, don't call him, don't start delicate conversations. If you ask him too many questions, most likely he will tell you whatever you want to hear. Hold on and don't let yourself fall in love before you know where you stand with him. Good luck, girl! Link to post Share on other sites
Southernbrownie Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Hey, thanks for the reply, We didn't have sex cause I was on that time of my month!!! But anyways, yeah..... Link to post Share on other sites
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