When a woman looks in your direction.

[E-Squared]

A friend and myself had a discussion about this last month and we were talking about how when a woman looks at a guy, one could never tell what the reasons are. For example, I had mentioned to him about how when I was served by this waitress I have a crush on, as mentioned in another a thread, how my dad sort of noticed how she got a little smiley with me. I tried to tell my dad that it's possible that it was maybe her common courtesy of being a server, but because I am friendly with her and a regular at the place, it's possible that the smile may have meant something else.

 

However, there is this girl at the gym who I can admit that I am somewhat attracted to. I don't think we have talked to each other, but we have smiled at each other to be friendly. However, there have been times when I have caught her looking in my direction and we made eye contact. Now granted I can admit that I have glanced at her, but they were quick glances. I don't stare at her. We have made eye contact with each other but they are quick and some of the time it's me catching her looking in my direction.

 

I have noticed women looking me with suspicion, which is never a good thing. I remember this one girl at a record store that I used to go to looked in my direction on different occasions. I never actually knew the reason behind it, but in hindsight, my guess was suspicion. However, I could never tell when a woman is checking me out or what.

 

Do you have any examples? If so, can you share?

[Mirages]

Walk past them toward large plate glass panels, such as storefronts, observing them in the reflection as you wander off. Your answer is contained in that dim reflection, the duration of their stare as you look the other way... Or just ask them.

 

On a more practical note, I get double stares in grocery stores from time to time, it is relative to how well dressed I happen to be at the time, really close correlation. I look back, but, it is not something I can develop something out of, so I move on.

[JuneJulySeptember]

I think the "This cute/hot woman was looking at me/twirling her hair/asked me for directions/tripped on the snow patch in front of me so I could help her up. Does she want my body?" threads are the second most started threads by men.

 

My response is twofold.

 

1) It is always the cute/hot woman. Nobody ever asks about "Hey, the mediocre, overweight looking 45 year old woman was smiling at me. Does she want my body" Never. Ever wonder why?

 

2) I think that if you have in your life had such level/type women think you are 'off the bat' hot, then it's a good possibility she thinks you are hot/cute. If the blonde, cute girls in your high school/college/workplace wanted you, then the blonde, cute girl at the gym at age 27 who is looking at you probably wants you too.

 

If you are 35 years old and never have had a cute woman of that race/looks level hit on you or find you hot, then chances are that one and the 5,000 ones you meet before/after that do not find you hot either.

Edited December 11, 2014 by JuneJulySeptember

[E-Squared]

I think the "This cute/hot woman was looking at me/twirling her hair/asked me for directions/tripped on the snow patch in front of me so I could help her up. Does she want my body?" threads are the second most started threads by men.

 

My response is twofold.

 

1) It is always the cute/hot woman. Nobody ever asks about "Hey, the mediocre, overweight looking 45 year old woman was smiling at me. Does she want my body" Never. Ever wonder why?

 

2) I think that if you have in your life had such level/type women think you are 'off the bat' hot, then it's a good possibility she thinks you are hot/cute. If the blonde, cute girls in your high school/college/workplace wanted you, then the blonde, cute girl at the gym at age 27 who is looking at you probably wants you too.

 

If you are 35 years old and never have had a cute woman of that race/looks level hit on you or find you hot, then chances are that one and the 5,000 ones you meet before/after that do not find you hot either.

 

Hmmmmm, you made a good point.

 

This girl who I mentioned at the gym isn't exactly a knockout, though. Trust me, I see plenty of attractive women everywhere I go, but that doesn't mean I am attracted to them. Just pointing that out.

[Danda]

I think, too, that just like with men, some women are smoother than others when it comes to checking guys out. Some women can be extremely discreet, and some women will look at a guy in such a way that 'You Sexy Thing' by Hot Chocolate might as well start playing in the background. And everything in between.

 

The same rule as pretty much always applies in that you'll have to actually talk to women and sometimes even ask them out on a date to know for sure if they like you or not.

[NJ123]

A friend and myself had a discussion about this last month and we were talking about how when a woman looks at a guy, one could never tell what the reasons are. For example, I had mentioned to him about how when I was served by this waitress I have a crush on, as mentioned in another a thread, how my dad sort of noticed how she got a little smiley with me. I tried to tell my dad that it's possible that it was maybe her common courtesy of being a server, but because I am friendly with her and a regular at the place, it's possible that the smile may have meant something else.

 

However, there is this girl at the gym who I can admit that I am somewhat attracted to. I don't think we have talked to each other, but we have smiled at each other to be friendly. However, there have been times when I have caught her looking in my direction and we made eye contact. Now granted I can admit that I have glanced at her, but they were quick glances. I don't stare at her. We have made eye contact with each other but they are quick and some of the time it's me catching her looking in my direction.

 

I have noticed women looking me with suspicion, which is never a good thing. I remember this one girl at a record store that I used to go to looked in my direction on different occasions. I never actually knew the reason behind it, but in hindsight, my guess was suspicion. However, I could never tell when a woman is checking me out or what.

 

Do you have any examples? If so, can you share?

 

Same exact thing at my gym with some woman I have a crush on. I notice she used to give me quick glances. But she never smiled at me before so I just forgot about it. Think I most likely had the wrong idea since I was attracted to her. From the responses in the thread I got, since she never smiled at me than it's likely she had no interest beyond possibly finding me attractive.

[E-Squared]

Same exact thing at my gym with some woman I have a crush on. I notice she used to give me quick glances. But she never smiled at me before so I just forgot about it. Think I most likely had the wrong idea since I was attracted to her. From the responses in the thread I got, since she never smiled at me than it's likely she had no interest beyond possibly finding me attractive.

 

You made a good point, but you could always find out for yourself what the deal is. I have told myself that I should find out for myself by just saying hi and making some small talk with her. I see her but she is always working out and I don't want to interrupt.

[FitChick]

Wishful thinking.

[E-Squared]

Wishful thinking.

 

Ah, I see what you did there.

[JuneJulySeptember]

Hmmmmm, you made a good point.

 

This girl who I mentioned at the gym isn't exactly a knockout, though. Trust me, I see plenty of attractive women everywhere I go, but that doesn't mean I am attracted to them. Just pointing that out.

 

Well, the second point was more of my major point.

 

If it's happened before with that type of woman, then it's likely.

 

If not, then it's unlikely.