TrueSmiles12 Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 is it bad to want to know if my ex-bf is officially over me, as in does he already have another gf??? i mean wouldn't knowing if he did or not help to get over him easier and quicker? is there anyway that i can find this kind of information out?? it would really help me, instead of me sitting here assuming that he did. i wanna know for a fact if he does or not. is that so bad? Link to post Share on other sites
NiCoLe20 Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 lol i wanna know the same too... lately he's been on my mind a lot for some reason and i went passed his house last week and seen a car in front of it thats never there.... i know she would be the rebound chick but i wonder if he's happy? and if he has a girl? i want to find out too, in a way i want to talk to him but it wouldnt make any sense just to call him out of the blue when I was the one that told him i didnt want to see him or talk to him anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Ignorance is bliss ladies Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Why find out...so then you can have something new to agonize about? What does she look like, does he love her, is she as good as me in bed....Puhleaze better off not knowing. Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Ok you can google also... These days almost every one has a blog so type querry for blog + name., or name + firm' name or name + school's name..or even querry for his friends blog..might be his friends would have mentioned about them...try doing these way and you would get it... I do it this way and I get the information and then if you see my condition you won't like to know,,but I am a masochist Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 i'm in agreeance with being ignorant about it. i mean, like aforementioned...if you find out all you're going to do is compare. trust me...guys do it, girls do it. just know that you'll find someone else. if you've split up, then it's probably for a good reason. gawd i should take my own advice sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Could just be me.. but when someone has broke up with you, they aren't calling you, don't want to see you anymore I think it's safe to assume they are over you ENOUGH. Link to post Share on other sites
Blackout23 Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 You don't want to find out period. I was actually pretty fine with NC about 2 weeks UNTIL i found out she has somebody new... then that is when all the emotions came back. You don't want to know anything... just move on... that is wat I am trying to do right now. Today was a beautiful day and everything just feels really good... Hadn't had this feeling in along time... I'm actually feeling a little happy after almost 6 months of saddness... I can't wait for this to end and put her to my past. I am ready to start all over with somebody eles... But then again I also find out she is not that happy with him which makes me and she is still thinking of me Link to post Share on other sites
search4what Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 You may think that know will help you, but trust me it doesnt! I have been out of my 3.5 yr relationship for 3 months and I recently found out my ex is seeing someone else. I thought I was getting over this and after I heard about that it was right back to being down about things. All the questions people mentioned above just constantly run through your head and then there is the times you picture them with someone else. It is heart wrenching. Leave it alone and dont think about what he is doing, worry about what you are doing. Link to post Share on other sites
lostandlonely Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Dont do it! I already knew that my ex was on her way to someone else (messy break up, read her email found out she had feelings for another), yet when i saw her a month later to get my stuff she told me that yes they were now together. It just reopened all the wounds that i thought i'd begun to heal. Even worse i knew this new bloke, and i cant for the life of me work out what she see's in him (nothing in common etc). Trust me its a whole world of pain that you dont want to open up. If they are with someone new and you arent then it hurts because you want them to care about you as much as you do about them, yet clearly they've moved on already. Which sends you down the path of did the relationship matter to them as much as it did to me etc. Not good. Likewise if they havent got someone new then you're just setting up false hope. The only time when i can even see that this would possibly be positive is if you were the one doing the dumping, had moved on yourself and were only checking up because you were concerned about your ex. Any other situation it just isnt worth it. Obviously it depends on why you broke up and everyone is different, but at the end of the day your ex will move on someday, as will you. There's no point in slowing that process down. And just to show that im not an bitter cynic, maybe it's better to have the moving on process go faster so that they can see what they are losing sooner, and hence be back sooner. Second chances can happen, but moping round, being miserable and essentially stalking (i know i cant talk)your ex wont exactly increase the prospects of this happening. Hell learn from my mistakes, if i hadnt found out about the new bloke in my ex's life i think i might have managed to restrain from telling her about the one night stand that i had just before we broke up and we might still be talking. So yeah, dont do it, it doesnt help in any way Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 'Lostandlonely' I agree with you word by word. If you get to know something about your ex it is definitely going to ruin your day. Link to post Share on other sites
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