Crush's motives unclear

[Pleasant Surprise]

Hi guys,

 

Recently got over a breakup and stopped we're on good terms but not friends (mostly my choice). I met this new girl actually and I think she's pretty cool. We've been talking a little recently and I think I screwed things up. One of her friends told me that she liked me and I was pretty happy. I'm a very direct person and not a big fan of playing hard to get or other games at all.

 

Anyway, when I asked her to hang out I heard she told one of her friends that she wasn't sure if she wanted to hang out with me. That was last weekend. She told me she'd let me know if she's free for lunch on Sunday when I asked and I've still heard no response. She sometimes gives me signs that she's really into me (asked me to hang out once after school, stares at me) and other times she gives me the impression that she's not interested at all (doesn't text first, doesn't make much contact physically).

 

We're both sophomores in high school. I don't know if I should continue to bother with pursuing this or not. Is it possible she's playing hard to get? I can't get a read on this girl. I actually like her a good amount to be honest and would hate to just quit something that could potentially be good. Help!

[Danda]

It's possible that she's like, "Man, I like this guy, but he just got out of a relationship and he's probably just rebounding. I don't want to be rebound girl. Meh."

[Pleasant Surprise]

I should've clarified. The relationship ended in June. I just meant that I recently got over it. I'm tempted to kinda just lay it out there and say "yo not sure what you think of me but I like you," because I really don't feel like dealing with worrying about it. I also don't wanna ruin any chance I have with this girl by acting like an idiot.

[Danda]

I should've clarified. The relationship ended in June. I just meant that I recently got over it. I'm tempted to kinda just lay it out there and say "yo not sure what you think of me but I like you," because I really don't feel like dealing with worrying about it. I also don't wanna ruin any chance I have with this girl by acting like an idiot.

 

Ah okay I gotcha.

 

Well, if that's the case, then my brain moves on to the fact that you're both sophomores in high school. So that's.. ages 15/16? I know it might not feel like it all or most of the time but ya'll are super young. Maybe she just doesn't honestly know how this **** works or what constitutes being 'sure' or even constitutes "relationship material" or hell, a "relationship". Maybe she's a virgin and wants to stay that way for a while, but has heard that "boyfriends" expect sex from stories from her female peers. Could be a million things, OP.

 

Your teenage years should be all about practice and fumbling right along. So in my opinion go ahead, be blunt, risk being awkward, try it out and see how it goes. What's the worst that could happen?

 

I remember a guy "asking me out" when I was 14 and I had no idea wtf that even literally meant lol. I said yes because it seemed like an okay/nice thing to do. Then I never talked with him or hugged him or anything. All I knew is that we were "going out". (I was a 90s kid, mind, lol.) He eventually passed me a note in science class asking me if we were still "going out" because I never acted like it (LOL). In my head I was like uhh... So I wrote back, "I'm not really sure how to do 'going out' sorry." He wrote back asking if we could try hugging in front of the school buses after the school day. For whatever reason(s) in my subconscious brain I didn't like that idea so when the last bell rang I ran for Bus 45 for dear life.

[Pleasant Surprise]

Love the story hahaha.

 

I'm pretty sure she's aware of the implications of being in a *high school* relationship. I think she's either not into me or isn't doing a good job of showing it. It's just bothersome to always be the first one to text (I know I shouldn't but it's just the way I am) and the one who seems truly interested. She always replies to me and seems to get into conversations when we have them.

 

Sometimes our encounters are awkward but it's high school so w/e. I just really don't know where I stand with her and don't feel like guessing. I'm also too much of a chicken**** to actually talk to her about this so I suppose I'm destined for failure hahaha

[spiderowl]

I can remember being acutely unsure and easily embarrassed at her age. I would not have known what going out meant, except that we might kiss after we'd been going out for some time. Things were different then but don't assume that every girl is as worldly as some are. She may be shy and waiting for you to take the lead.