bamaguy20 Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Is it me, or does it seem that when girls are in their early 20's they do things that dont make much sense..my ex of 2 yeras broke it off for no apparent reason....a couple months later a buddy has the same thing happen to him, and then another and another......Ive worked past all the depression and sadness and have since moved on and met someone else....but when i listen to my friends talk about it, i hear the exact same thing that i was saying when it happend to me......it seems like girls ( 20,21,22 ) are all acting the same way at this time in their lives. Does anyone else find this to be true???? I guess its kind of beneficial to your emotional state knowing that what happend to you is happening to a lot of other normal people as well....just a part of growing up i suppose. Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Well its funny you say that...I'm turning 20 and my roomate is 23 turning 24 and we just both broke up with our men for space. I guess its a turning point in which you re-evaluate your life and where its going. My roomate went through it at 19, 21, and now 24. Link to post Share on other sites
ttjames Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Not dumped but mutual breakup in Jan. I'm 26 she's 20. I think it's pretty normal... and good in a way. There is plenty out there.. WHile I still deeply love my ex.. I don't want to be with someone who is always wondering what else is out there. Let them go at that age.... If it ends on good terms then maybe you'll get back together later in life... You never know.. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 I'm 24, I just dumped my one year long bf (25). I feel like an assasin !!! Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 I'm 24, I just dumped my one year long bf (25). I feel like an assasin !!!Tell me about it. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Originally posted by EC Well its funny you say that...I'm turning 20 and my roomate is 23 turning 24 and we just both broke up with our men for space. I guess its a turning point in which you re-evaluate your life and where its going. My roomate went through it at 19, 21, and now 24. OMG, EC, ME TOO!!! I swear to GOD! I was 19 when I met my ex, broke up with him at 21, went back together and left him a few months before my 24-th Day! Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 girls are crazy the more i try to understand them the more i get left in the dark...... Link to post Share on other sites
jc Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Rather than proposing that this is some kind of 20-something girl phenomenon...how about a 20-something relationship phenomenon??? My ex-boyfriend is 21 and he seems to be going through the same thing that you are all describing. Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 OMG, EC, ME TOO!!! I swear to GOD! I was 19 when I met my ex, broke up with him at 21, went back together and left him a few months before my 24-th Day!\ I think we are on to something lol Link to post Share on other sites
ttjames Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 I swear to GOD! I was 19 when I met my ex, broke up with him at 21, went back together and left him a few months before my 24-th Day! What makes you break up for a few months and then get back together again... Are you just thinking that there is something better out there, but you don't find it immediatly so then you go back? or Grass is always greener on the side sort of thing? Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 ummmm.... What makes you break up for a few months and then get back together again... Are you just thinking that there is something better out there, but you don't find it immediatly so then you go back? or Grass is always greener on the side sort of thing? I don't know why you would break up and get back together...but i think its because you dont love the person but you have history and comfort with them...but you feel something is missing...so you look around and want to be by yourself but your scared of being alone and you miss the other person so you go back because its what your used to...so you do that for a while and then again the problem was never solved so you go back to feeling as if somethings missing and you leave them again. OR you can feel somethigns missing..leave the person..realize all you need is that person...then run back to them for good. Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Girls in their early 20's are nuts. Spend too much time trying to figure them out and you'll bleed from your cranial orifices. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 I have asked myself the same question over and over again after it was finally over. What it was? He wrote me poems, he stalked me with flowers every day, he made me listen to him, he wrote me poems and love letters, he knew me very well and practically knew which buttons to push. My parents adored him, I saw my mother cry when he met my parents for the last time... yup, emotional blackmail. Did I see through it? NO!!! I was all about trust and about fair play! In other words I was weak and I've paid for it big time after 2 years. Link to post Share on other sites
ttjames Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 emotional blackmail Evil!! Girls in their early 20's are nuts Agreed! but I'm not ready for the 30 year olds.. and the teens are just a few years away from moving into the 20's .. Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Agreed! but I'm not ready for the 30 year olds.. and the teens are just a few years away from moving into the 20's .. lol Emotional blackmail without you even realizing what they are doing is horrible. Link to post Share on other sites
Blackout23 Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 a lot of my buddies went thru this... and i thought it wouldn't happen to me... but guess what she is turning 20 this year and then smacks u in the face..... she is gone and 'trying' somebody new ew... anyway yes, I do think girls at that age tries to find themselves... I guess this is a life lesson and everybody gotta go thru it... she was my first love and i loved her so much...but wat she did just ... no turning back... Link to post Share on other sites
Conundrum Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Ha, I was just dumped a month ago by my 20 year old girlfriend. I'm 25 and we had been dating for 2 years. She said she just didnt love me anymore and could not see herself being with me. I think it is that stage in life where they are young and need to have many experiences. Ya know, so you can go through the rest of your life without regets or "what if" questions. My ex has not even talked to me since. Oh well. Live and learn. Link to post Share on other sites
Sukotto Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Ex went through it at 19, not spoken for almost 3 months now. Starting to see a 17 year old because i'm evil Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 IMHO girls in their twenties think that it is time to go out and find someone better so they start this dumping game. There are no reasons for dumping simply because they are not dumping cause the ex was not good but they want better and better and they are not honest also to tell about their quest for the perfect one . Link to post Share on other sites
demonfall Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Yeah, my fiance dumped me right before she turned 20. Going to stay away from the young ones for a while. I can't go through that again. Link to post Share on other sites
ttjames Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Going to stay away from the young ones for a while. I can't go through that again. Or just date them and don't get attached. =o) Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 It doesn't matter whether your 18, 20, or 40+.....You get dumped throughout life because there is no age limit to say when somethings "OVER"...I know people who goes from one relationship to another and keep dumping those who truly love and care about them...hurting in the process and just taking life as it comes. This is sad...but true. I got married in my early 20's....divorced in early 30's. Then went on a binge--hurting lots of guys along the way....I was a naive, sweet person and expected the same.....NO thoughts of why I just dumped and moved on....The thing you can depend on though, is you will learn from past relationships and realize dumping is a phase...at any age...It does STOP... Link to post Share on other sites
ChuckDee33 Posted March 24, 2005 Share Posted March 24, 2005 My ex dumped me right after she turned 20, i was 24. She's now with another guy, not in love she tells me, but it still hurts. We were together for over a year and a half. Maybe at some point these young women just either realize they don't want to be ''stuck'' in one relationship for the rest of their life no matter how good it is. It's only natural I suppose but it still sucks for the guy who gets dumped. I think most guys know what they want. They usually either make it known they are there for the booty and just to hang out and have a companion or they are in it for the long haul. Oh well, things change, people change. My ex is not the same person she was when I met her, she's grown up some but still has a lot more of it to do. Maybe I should think about dating some older women instead...I've always gone for ones 2-4 years younger than me. Link to post Share on other sites
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