Scotty B Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 So there is this girl that I have really strong feelings towards, but getting together with her and hanging out with her I sometimes find difficult in a way that I sometimes am just anti-social around her. We just went to this dance together and we had a few drinks and then she jumped right on to me and we started making out, which was great, but I now feel even more anxious to get with her. I talk to her and what not, but I just want to know how she feels about me and I think that could be my big concern. I just hope that her coming on to me wasnt out of sympathy or anything, and I want to know if anyone can help me find a way to start talking to her more and hang out with her more at parties and what not. Link to post Share on other sites
Scotty B Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 There is this girl who I have known for a few years now, maybe four or so, and we've always been friendly and we ocassionally see each other out at parties and what not. I've always had a little trouble talking to her in person, but on the phone everything is fine, but I know that after this dance I think we "made some ground". I'm not sure if she is interested in dating or seeing me more often, but at this party after the dance she came on to me and I have to say it was great. things aren't weird now, but I still can't manage to feel totally comfortable talking to her in person. I can talk to all of her friends fine, but I think because of the way I feel about her I am a little hesitant while talking to her. She came on to me at this party and we started making out, and I went with it and got into it, and I think she did too. I want to make sure that it wasn't out of sympathy for my pathetic talking skills with her or if she really meant it and what can I do to get closer with her. I feel like I could do anything for her...what should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 God i wish i got sympathy like that I think you should ask her out. What better way to see if she does like you. And if you still feel a connection with her then, ask her out again. and so on and so forth. Worst thing you can do is never try. Because you will always look back and think 'what if'. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Dont make me smack you scotty. She jumped on you and started making out with you. Thats a pretty good indicator of how she feels. You seem young though. And perhaps havnt gotten a girlfriend yet. Its perfectly natural to feel nervous and uncertain around a girl. Basically only experience gets rid of that(well somewhat, its always there). Just ask her out or something. Worst case she dosnt like you and you move on and find one that does. Always remember, there ARE other fish in the sea. And this is coming from a guy who was head over heels for one girl since he was 17 till ...well 4 months ago so like 11 years. Try it out. doesnt work, move on. Like a computer program and/if/then. Link to post Share on other sites
Scotty B Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Thanks for the advice, I think that that is what I ought to be leaning toward (ya I just hope I get some more of that sympathy, but hopefully she'll go for it again. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Listen. She broke the ice. Next time you take the first move. Its already happened once. Although admittedly its more difficult to do on some people than others. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 dude, you have to figure this out for yourself, like most guys do. that is the only way you'll gain confidence with women. Link to post Share on other sites
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