MyOwnWorstEnemy44 Posted December 14, 2014 Share Posted December 14, 2014 me and my ex were together 6 years. our last year together was not a good one lot of arguing she had 3 teenagers that were failing getting in trouble smoking and selling weed. i tried to get her to discipline they manipulated her she never would do anything about it. we broke up after a big fight about it in september got back together 6 weeks later. were together til may caught her 18 yr old son stealing her money and she finally said he had to move out gave him 3 weeks i was pleased she was taking a stand. i had moved out after the breakup into a security trailer at the restaurant she manages and assumed i would be moving back in when he left. after 3 weeks she changed her mind and let him stay caused a fight we broke up a few weeks later.this was end of may. i begged pleaded chased all the wrong thing for 2 months. i had seen her talking to a guy in march at her sons baseball game. his brother had just died. i questioned her about it she brushed it off. well she contacted him about doing a benefit at the restaurant she runs. he declined. but i noticed him coming in the restaurant and them talking. i knew she was attrated to him cause all the girls would tease her at work. we had sex one time in march after i seen her talking to him. he was married then. well his trips to the restaurant increased and i began questioning her on what was up with him. she would just say he is married its nothing. i just had the feeling something was up with them.the first week in august he files for divorce on the same day his divorce is final 2 weeks later she filed an eviction to get me out. i now think since march when she contacted him about the benefit they have been talking on the phone and when he came in and was more attracted to him then me as it was around the same time we last had sex. they were confiding about ours and his failing relationships for months and then 2 months after the break up i suspect they started physically seeing each other the same week he filed for divorce. my questions are do you think it is a rebound relationship even though they were started talking a month before the breakup and dating a 2 months after as it seems they weere waiting for him to divorce. what are your thought on it working out if they both were coming out of long term relationships and got together so quickly in a rebound relationship for both of them. i dont think ive seen anything on here about both people getting in a rebound together. have i messed up too much Link to post Share on other sites
Author MyOwnWorstEnemy44 Posted December 14, 2014 Author Share Posted December 14, 2014 also they have kept their seeing each other secret til now claiming to only have been dating for 3 weeks. i am 90% sure they been seeing each other since august casually and now became official 3 weeks ago. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MyOwnWorstEnemy44 Posted December 14, 2014 Author Share Posted December 14, 2014 she told my friend who she knew would tell me how happy she is and saying if he asked her to marry her she would say yes and how amazing he is basically saying the issues she had with me he does. his personality is opposite of what she goes for. if they had been dating for only 3 weeks which i doubt highly how do u talk about marriage already? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MyOwnWorstEnemy44 Posted December 14, 2014 Author Share Posted December 14, 2014 is there any chance to get her back please help Link to post Share on other sites
evanescentworld Posted December 14, 2014 Share Posted December 14, 2014 You need to let go, and get over this. What's done, is done. You are you, and he isn't. Different people have different attractions. You need to move on, quit watching what she says/does, where she goes and with whom. She's not with you any more, she's your ex. She no longer has any obligation to you, is not answerable to you, and is absolutely totally free to do as she wishes. As, of course, are you. Link to post Share on other sites
JMOC Posted December 14, 2014 Share Posted December 14, 2014 Dude you really need to calm down and focus on you instead of her. I am going through a break up and see her with a close friend of mine now. One thing you have to remember is at the moment thats what is. You cant and should not try to change it or be involved. Instead you should focus on you and help yourself not be this way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MyOwnWorstEnemy44 Posted December 14, 2014 Author Share Posted December 14, 2014 Ive been nc since august Link to post Share on other sites
evanescentworld Posted December 14, 2014 Share Posted December 14, 2014 No, you haven't. The time you can say that you are in NC is when you know nothing about her, who she's seeing, where she is, what she's doing, or the kinds of discussions she's having. Tell your so-called 'friends' you don't want to hear anything about her at all, in any way shape or form, even if - PARTICULARLY IF - you ask them. You don't want blow-by-blow accounts, reports, gossip, stories or anything else. Then, when you have truly no idea whatsoever about her, her kids, her life, her relationships then - THEN - you will have achieved No Contact. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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