miss lady Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 HEY EVERYBODY. I HAVE A QUESTION THAT I DESPERATELY NEED HELP WITH. WELL LONG STORY SHORT. I HAVE BEEN DATING THIS GUY FOR ABOUT A YEAR AND WE MOVED FROM CINCINNATI TO ALABAMA JUST LEFT EVERYTHING AND MOVED. JUST FOR A CHANGE IN LIFESTYLE. WELL THE DAY WE MOVED IN OUR NEIGHBOR TRIED TO SELL MY BOYFRIEND A GUN. FROM THERE I KNEW HE WAS A BAD PERSON. MY BOYFRIEND IS 30YRS OLD AND THIS MAN IS 50YRS OLD. WELL ANYWAY HE DIDN'T BY THE GUN, BUT AFTER A FEW WEEKS THEY BECAME REALLY COOL. THE MAN AND HIS WIFE TRIED TO SHOW US AROUND THE CITY AND TAKE US PLACES WHERE WE CAN GO GET PHONE,ELECTRIC,AND ETC CONNECTED. MY BOYFRIEND AND THIS GUY BECAME REALLY COOL AND THEY STARTED SPENDING ALOT OF TIME TOGETHER. MY BOYFRIEND BECAME REALLY DISTANCE STARTED TAKING ATTITUDES, LOSING WEIGHT, NOSE RUNNING/BLEEDING, JUST COMPLETELY CHANGED. WELL A FEW MONTHS LATER HIS FRIEND HAD A SEIZURE OUTSIDE OF OUR COMPLEX AND I STAYED WITH HIM UNTIL HELP ARRIVED. WE ALL WENT TO THE HOSPITAL. WELL LATER THAT NIGHT THE DOC CAME IN AND SAID THAT MARIJUANNA AND COCAINE WAS WHAT HELPED HIS SEIZURE TO OCCUR. MY BOYFRIEND WASN'T IN THE ROOM WHEN THE DOC SAID THIS SO LATER I TOLD HIM AND HE ACTED AS THOUGH HE WAS SHOCKED SO I ASKED HIM HOW CAN HE BE SHOCKED IF HE HANG AROUND THIS PERSON 24HRS A DAY. HE GAVE A BULLS**T ANSWER OF COURSE. WELL SHORTLY AFTER THAT THEY MOVED AND I WAS SOOOOOOOOO HAPPY BECAUSE THINGS HAD GOTTEN WORSE WITH ME AND MY BOYFRIEND. WELL ON DAY I FOUND A GIRLS PHONE NUMBER IN MY TRUCK AND I CALLED IT AND IT WAS A GIRL THAT HE WAS SLEEPING WITH. ME AND THE BUST HIM AND HE LATER CONFESSED THAT HE WAS USING COCAINE ALSO. WE EVENTUALLY GOT BACK TOGETHER. WE ARE NOW REALLY ACTIVE IN CHURCH AND HIS ATTITUDE,APPETITE AND EVERYTHING IS BETTER. HE NOW BEFRIENDS A GUY WE IS A RECOVERING ADDICT BUT THIS GUY HAS GOTTEN MY BOYFRIEND BACK IN CHURCH. WELL JUST THE OTHER DAY I CALLED HIS FRIEND AND HE TOLD ME THAT MY BOYFRIEND WAS FEELING SICK. LATER HE TOLD ME THAT MY BOYFRIEND HAS NEVER STOPPED USING HE HAS JUST SLOWED DOWN AND THAT HE IS TRYING TO GET HIM TO STOP. I FEEL NUMB BECAUSE I THOUGHT HE STOPPED, BUT I HAD A FEELING THAT MAYBE HE WAS STILL DOING IT. I DON'T KNOW IF I SHOULD APPROACH HIM OR STRONG ENOUGH TO STAY IN THIS RELATIONSHIP.....WHAT SHOULD I DO? I ALSO HAVE A 6YR OLD SON THAT MY BOYFRIEND IS SOOOO IN LOVE WITH AND A GREAT STEPFATHER TO AND HE IS SOOOO LOVING TO US.PLEASE HELP I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO? SORRY SO LONG Link to post Share on other sites
agnf666 Posted March 22, 2005 Share Posted March 22, 2005 Here;s a site that might help you out. http://www.na.org/ This will show you how to deal with the addiction. There are classes that might be aviable in your area. You need to incourage him to try to go to these classes. If he doesn't do something it is just going to get worse. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveOneAnother1 Posted March 24, 2005 Share Posted March 24, 2005 He is so loving to you and your son??? If he loves you so much, maybe he could start showing you some love. He can start by respecting you. He could quit sleeping around on you and he could quit lying about his drug usage to you. He can start becoming a positive role model for your son. It sounds as though YOU love him. It sounds as though you could do yourself a favor and find somebody who is worth your love. Time to tell him, bye now.... Link to post Share on other sites
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