I think I get it?

[liono]

Okay I've got this girl's number a couple of months ago and we've talked on the phone a couple times because she goes to school out of town. The conversations haven't been serious mostly joking and me asking about her classes, etc. Like I said we talked a couple of times but most times when I call (I always call her) she asks who is calling. I can't get her to program my name in her cell phone. Does she want me to stop calling her? I 'm not calling her everyday not even every week. Its confusing because she emailed me the other day talking about nothing really. Does she just not people's names in her phone or is it just me. I mean we go to the same church. What is the deal?

[brashgal]

She's just not that into you.

[amerikajin]

Okay I've got this girl's number a couple of months ago and we've talked on the phone a couple times because she goes to school out of town. The conversations haven't been serious mostly joking and me asking about her classes, etc. Like I said we talked a couple of times but most times when I call (I always call her) she asks who is calling.

 

Well, honestly, you're probably out.

 

One rule I like to follow religiously is: use the phone to set up your next date, and that's it. Only when you've been dating a while can you use the phone for conversation, and even then you have to be careful. The joking is good, but not long conversations. Nor is it good that you're always the one to call. Understand that when you do this, she knows that you want something from her. You've put her in a position where she has power over you. She knows you'll probably call back.

 

I can't get her to program my name in her cell phone. Does she want me to stop calling her? I 'm not calling her everyday not even every week. Its confusing because she emailed me the other day talking about nothing really. Does she just not people's names in her phone or is it just me. I mean we go to the same church. What is the deal?

 

She could be interested, but the interest is marginal at best - like 40 percent. She's just interested enough in you for her to email you sporadically, just so she knows that you're still there. What you need to do is to stop calling - period. If she doesn't call you for a month, just call her back one last time to ask her out on a date. If she emails you or calls you - which is more likely once she starts wondering where you've gone and why you're not calling - then cut through the crap and ask her out on a date.

 

Some women will be really into you, some will be really not into you. Others are somewhere in between, and with those, you have to use a little technique. Don't chase them, make them chase you.