A lil would lessen the pain

[hoper6]

a lil long but pls read and pls save my life

Background

-3 years together both 19 year old

-starting 2 both very much in love since starting of this year problems started to occur

-her priorities change like she was giving more time to her friends

i started pointing to her that please talk to your friend less, particularly one male friend but she said to dont worry he is like my family dont be afraid of him due of him i became insecure & whenever i said something about them talking late at night she used to get angry bt in the end i said ok cause i loved her and trusted her,,

 

in june we didnt talk to each other cause of this friend issue and coz she taught that i sort become a diff person(i did become bt it jst dat i was giving myself more time then her coz in last 2 years i had only given time to her not to me coz of which i had become a lazy person,bt i always loved her) i assume that it was a break and we would be back together cause whenever we used to fight we didnt talk for a week or two then we were normal again but not time what i thought was a break for us it was break up for her nd she didnt even told me that once..

 

i was expecting an apology from her but it didnt came then after a month or so i started the contact with her and then she stated that i dont love you anymore…

 

i kinda became angry nd i blocked her from social networks but again after a month(aug) i started to miss her badly and i contacted her coz i still loved her and then she replied very coldly and i could see that she is not the same person anymore, it broke my heart i pleaded begged try to convince her that please give us another chance but she was adamant that nothing cant be happen(she mentioned that she now likes some1 else)..

 

Sept.

Then i started my first round of nc 21 days(my bad) but initial contact with her went pretty well(for about 30 mins quick responses) then i contacted her after 4 days that was ok(her responses were quick and short) then after 3 days i contacted her again but this time no reply came i waited for a reply for almost a week then i called her other best friend(female) and asked her what she is upto she told me that my ex just started her new realtionship(10-15 days old) and she is quite happy about it and you should move on too my heart sank..

 

i started 2nd round of nc 30 days(oct) and i broke the convo by wishing her happy some xyz festival she replied same to you then i jst normal ask about howz she and she asked about my health then i said bye in nov i was really depressed i askd her female friend that who is this new bf of hers (she said that she had no idea)

maybe she was trying to hide it from me coz her male friend ,her and this female friend are like best friends to each other so if her new bf was this male friend maybe her female friend was trying to hide it..

but i think she told that to her about me asking about her new bf so ex removed me from whatspp coz i can no longer c her dp or status..

 

since then i hv maintained low contact trying to bring out the happy memories of our realtionship to her notice ,, i did that thrice in month of nov and her repli did came but dey werent gud jst ok-ok but then i realized that the more i contact the more and more hurted i became so i decided not to start convo with her ever again if she starts i will respond..

Dec.

she wished me hbd which i wasnt expecting.. and i simply said thanks

 

NOW ITS BEEN 4-5 MONTHS SINCE BREAK UP AND THIS PAIN IS STILL THERE

ALSO ITS BEEN 3 MONTHS SINCE HER NEW REALTIONSHIP

 

which i intially thought was a rebound(coz i jst started 2 months after breakup) but as time passes i doubt that its a rebound especially if that male friend of hers is involved coz they already spent a lot of time together and she was very close to him so its possible that she was already emotionally conected to him..

 

my question is what should i do from now? should i ask some1 whoz is this new guy(possible risk include of that person telling her)?

should i give up? should i keep hope?

pls help

[Toodaloo]

Give it up. Let it go.

 

Try new hobbies, sports, interests. Anything just stop looking back.

 

Your life. You only get one shot at it and at the moment you are wasting it by moping around. Get up. Get going.