Onlyafterdark Posted December 15, 2014 Share Posted December 15, 2014 So after 14 years and a toxic marraige my wife finally decided its defo over 4 mnths on shes met a new guy ! My wife cheated on me 8 years ago i stuck by her (idiot i know) but i gave her Plenty of chances over the years my 11 year old son bare witness to the constant kicking me out etc . Over the years me and him have grown use to His mum doing this ive come to realise she has the traits of borderline persobality disorder. Anyway this condition usually involves lots of breakups in relashionships So its began already 4 mnths on she knew one guy took him to bed after 2nd date. Week later does it again another guy, only this time shes told me hes really nice and my kids have been introduced after 1 week ! Call me old fashioned or watever, but seriously am i a bad parent for asking her to get to know this guy first for a while. Ive been dating someone 4 mnths and not once let my kids know anything, not till i know shes ok for me. Just basically wanna know some opinions on this and how best for me to introduce the kids at a later date. Family keep telling me the kids will see Find out their mum for themselves, i hate what she does i dont want my kids going through this all the time Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 15, 2014 Share Posted December 15, 2014 I think a good parent separates adult concepts like sex & dating from their kids. As an adult she can carry on with whomever but ask if she would keep them away from your son. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Onlyafterdark Posted December 15, 2014 Author Share Posted December 15, 2014 I tried that, her reply was i will do whatever its my life the kids just have to get use to it ! Iam very wary of any males around my daughter i thought i was right by saying get to know them alot urself first before allowing them around my kids Link to post Share on other sites
MuscleCarFan Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 Does she have primary custody? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Onlyafterdark Posted December 16, 2014 Author Share Posted December 16, 2014 Yes she has primary custody, in the uk she has all the benefits paid to her. I work but still have the kids 3 nights straight after school plus i pick up on sunday for a few hours as i wrk sat till lunch and sunday till 3pm. Really gets to me tho as shes this new man kids are left to play upstairs, she has her mum stay with them on mondays so in theory i have them more Link to post Share on other sites
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