Best Friends is up Boyfriends butt 24/7

[agnf666]

I have been best friends with my friend for about 5 to 6 years. We went to middle and high school together. We hung out all the time and talked to each other all the time. Since her and Billy got together we haven't talked very much at all. They have been dating for 2 years. She started dating him while we where in high school, at the time we still hung out. Once we graduated I have seen her maybe 3 times in the past 2 yrs. I try to get her to go out shopping or just hang out and she can't drag herself away from him for like a few hours. I don't know what to say to her. I don't want to sound jealous but I would like to hang out with her maybe more then twice a year. I call her or text her and see usually never calls me back but will text me every once in a while. So, do I confront her about it or just let things go the way they are. I need some insight on this please!!!!

[pizzanova]

Unfortunately, it looks like you guys have drifted apart. If you only see her like twice a year, it means you are nothing more than old friends.

[agnf666]

We talk to each other like once or twice every few weeks. We just havin't hung out in since october. Before october it was august and before that I can't remember. I have tried to get her to go out and have tried to plan it ahead but she just doesn't want to commit to it. I lost.

[Mr Spock]

Lots of women are like that. (some men too)

 

They just throw everything into their current SO and end up neglecting friendships because they find maintaining a balance hard. Or, they're insecure in the relationship and feel they need to be there ALL the time.

 

Only thing you can do is call and make plans. If she won't, simply tell her you haven't done anything together as friends in ages and you're not happy with that. If she cancels them later on, tell her that you understand she's very involved with her BF but not to call you again until she's over that phase.