Ability to concentrate

[Satu]

Any suggestions?

 

It might sound stupid, but this can work:

 

Talk to your subconscious mind, which is working flat out to process all the feelings and memories, and say:

 

"I have to have a clear mind during my working day, so if you can quiet down during work hours, I'll allot an hour or two every day to listen to you, and pay attention to what's happening inside of me."

 

Create a slot every day and keep your promise.

[Shocked Suzie]

It takes time! My turning point is 100% gratitude of the simple things in life,looking at the positives rather than the negatives and giving myself a break from constantly knocking myself down.

 

Must have self time, the simplest things in life that go unnoticed due to the pace of life and treading water of separation.. The simple things are the most important things that keep your feet truly on the ground

 

You are doing just fine

[kenmore]

It might sound stupid, but this can work:

 

Talk to your subconscious mind, which is working flat out to process all the feelings and memories, and say:

 

"I have to have a clear mind during my working day, so if you can quiet down during work hours, I'll allot an hour or two every day to listen to you, and pay attention to what's happening inside of me."

 

Create a slot every day and keep your promise.

 

Thanks satu,

 

I have tried allotting time to grieve and process on regular schedules, and for me it doesn't seem to work. I can't turn it back off again. I have read in many places to embrace the grieving process. To immerse myself in it so I can process it, but when I tried that, it just made everything worse. I can't "snap out of it" again, and I need to in order to function. I ended up killing entire days.

 

It's probably unhealthy, but I find bottling it up and convincing myself I don't care works best for me. The colder I can make myself about it the better. Denial was the worst! That just kept giving me hope.

 

Of course there are times, certain thoughts and places that bring back the pain, but when it does, I tell myself to STFU, and that is actually starting to work.