laelithia Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 At this point, I have severed all social media with my ex. We are completely NC after he lied about seeing his ex while we were seeing each other again. However, I had forgotten about snapchat. I posted a "story" on mine and noticed the next day my ex had viewed it. Should I then block/delete him? I'm torn because a small part of me thinks it would be fun to mess with him haha Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 Nah, just delete him. Do it before he deletes you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Halcyon Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 Pettiness will get you nowhere. Just delete him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author laelithia Posted December 17, 2014 Author Share Posted December 17, 2014 Is it true that he can still view my stories if I delete him? Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 Delete him. Playing games are dumb, and if there's anything you should have learned by now, it's that you aren't very good at them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author laelithia Posted December 20, 2014 Author Share Posted December 20, 2014 Delete him. Playing games are dumb, and if there's anything you should have learned by now, it's that you aren't very good at them. I think this is actually a compliment lol I have no desire to be good at playing games. I blocked him and I feel good about the decision. I don't think I will ever be in contact with him again and that feels liberating 3 Link to post Share on other sites
HeBrokeMyHeart Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 Just block & delete him. Did he break up with you? You need to go NC, just because he viewed it doesn't mean he "viewed it" I just click on stories to get rid of them & the notifications, doesn't mean I care what they were or who they're from. Why would you want to play mind games for? (Id personally like to know this as my ex likes to play these a lot) trust me blocking him out & not giving him the time of day will do you great! A month NC now & I'm happier then ever! Link to post Share on other sites
Author laelithia Posted December 28, 2014 Author Share Posted December 28, 2014 I blocked him a while ago but now I am regretting it... I feel like it was good for him to see how well I was doing in my stories and now he can't. Tell me I made the right decision to block him and that I shouldn't regret it Link to post Share on other sites
EgoJoe Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 You made a good decision for your health. Right is relative. Don't should on yourself or others it's bad for your mental health. Be well. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 I blocked him a while ago but now I am regretting it... I feel like it was good for him to see how well I was doing in my stories and now he can't. Tell me I made the right decision to block him and that I shouldn't regret it Of course you made the right decision. You need to stop trying to play games. It's time for you to move on. And if you are so concerned about putting on a front for a guy who broke up with you, you aren't doing nearly as well as you think. You need to resist these urges to try to manipulate and meddle. They are terrible urges and have set you back considerably in the past. Keep moving forward, stop looking back. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 Oh boy! Don't for into this madness just delete all contact with this guy so you can get on with your own life! Link to post Share on other sites
Author laelithia Posted December 31, 2014 Author Share Posted December 31, 2014 Of course you made the right decision. You need to stop trying to play games. It's time for you to move on. And if you are so concerned about putting on a front for a guy who broke up with you, you aren't doing nearly as well as you think. You need to resist these urges to try to manipulate and meddle. They are terrible urges and have set you back considerably in the past. Keep moving forward, stop looking back. Unfortunately I don't think I'm doing that well... I seem to have moments where I feel okay about everything, but for the most part I seem to fallback on old habits/obsessions. It's very strange, I ended a 6 year relationship without looking back, but this short and toxic relationship has been the opposite. I can't seem to let it go. That being said, I really am trying now more than ever and although it's only been 3 weeks of NC, it's definitely a step in the right direction for me Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted December 31, 2014 Share Posted December 31, 2014 Unfortunately I don't think I'm doing that well... I seem to have moments where I feel okay about everything, but for the most part I seem to fallback on old habits/obsessions. It's very strange, I ended a 6 year relationship without looking back, but this short and toxic relationship has been the opposite. I can't seem to let it go. That being said, I really am trying now more than ever and although it's only been 3 weeks of NC, it's definitely a step in the right direction for me Of course you aren't doing that well, it's only been three weeks. It's a hard process and you've delayed it several months by trying to stay in contact and trying to work your way back. You are finally feeling what you should have felt months ago. It sucks. It's not easy -- most things worth doing aren't easy. But it's necessary. Everytime you backslide, you reset your clock to zero. Keep with the No Contact and you'll eventually get there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author laelithia Posted January 3, 2015 Author Share Posted January 3, 2015 Of course you aren't doing that well, it's only been three weeks. It's a hard process and you've delayed it several months by trying to stay in contact and trying to work your way back. You are finally feeling what you should have felt months ago. It sucks. It's not easy -- most things worth doing aren't easy. But it's necessary. Everytime you backslide, you reset your clock to zero. Keep with the No Contact and you'll eventually get there. Such good advice. You're right, I should have been feeling this loss months ago. Funny though, this week I have not thought about him or the end of the relationship. I have been busy at work, spending time with friends, and even dating a little and he crosses my mind less and less. I see him now more for what he is. I guess sometimes we just get frustrated that the healing process isn't faster. Thanks for your continued support! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 I blocked him a while ago but now I am regretting it... I feel like it was good for him to see how well I was doing in my stories and now he can't. Tell me I made the right decision to block him and that I shouldn't regret it Your life and what you do is absolutely none of his business. Why would you want him to know ANYTHING personal going on in your life? You did the right thing. He played you, he hurt you and the relationship was toxic so again, ask yourself why you'd want someone like that in your life, lurking in the background being nosy? Deleting and blocking means you get your power back fully and don't ever have to waste another minute thinking of him! He's not worthy of being in your head anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
reddragon588 Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 Is it true that he can still view my stories if I delete him? No he can't. Just delete him and be done with it. You'll immediately feel better. Link to post Share on other sites
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