FolderWife Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 I've been feeling so burned out on my husband. Every little thing he did was getting on my last nerve. Until last night. I called him before heading home to see what he wanted me to pick up for dinner, but I couldn't get an answer. I left about ten minutes early, and got home around 5:50, and found my husband in the garage. He said that he'd taken his truck to a co worker's house to have the guy help him figure out why when you signal left, both blinkers flash. He said he had just gotten home. I realized that he could've stayed at his buddie's house all evening, and most of my friends' husbands would've done that, but he made a point of getting home, so he'd be home when I got there. I know it sounds like a small thing, but it meant a lot to me that my husband wants to be home when I get home. I like that he's home when I get home It's comforting. I felt like an idiot when I told him that I appreciated that he was home when I got home, and he got a confused look, and said, "I told him I had to go, because you would be getting home in a few minutes." Like it was just something he did naturally Just thought I'd share....since I share all the negative junk Link to post Share on other sites
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 IMHO, it IS the little things that count. Without the little things, whats left? I am happy that you husband did that. I can finally see the positive side of Monday! Link to post Share on other sites
tokyo Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Aww, cute post. Link to post Share on other sites
ThumbingMyWay Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Originally posted by Monday I know it sounds like a small thing, but it meant a lot to me that my husband wants to be home when I get home. I like that he's home when I get home It's comforting. I felt like an idiot when I told him that I appreciated that he was home when I got home, and he got a confused look, and said, "I told him I had to go, because you would be getting home in a few minutes." Like it was just something he did naturally its amazing how you feel when you can finaly SEE and let in the little things. These little things happen everyday...its wether or not we choose to SEE them with our heart, not our eyes. Being CONSCIOUS of and SEEING the little things in life....and love.....it is an amazing place to be... Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 It is the little things that matter a great deal. Monday, I just know that you two are going to make it, (especially since I read this post), you will grow old together. Link to post Share on other sites
Stone Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 That's good that you let him know you we're happy about it. Maby he will do this more often Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 I'm really happy for you Monday!!! Thumbs is right, it is those little things that DO count. To many times they are missed because one is too busy or too involved in work. For me it's the little things that make a HUGE difference during rough times as well. Last few weeks or things weren't great around here, ya know I posted about it all...Well, I backed off and let him do his own thing, concentrated on just being on my own more or less, making supper for him so he'd have leftovers when he'd come home from work. Finally he came back and now he's more like himself. We had some pretty amazing sex throughout the weekend and felt very connected again. Link to post Share on other sites
Ladyjane14 Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Originally posted by ThumbingMyWay its amazing how you feel when you can finaly SEE and let in the little things. These little things happen everyday...its wether or not we choose to SEE them with our heart, not our eyes. Being CONSCIOUS of and SEEING the little things in life....and love.....it is an amazing place to be... Wow. That's beautiful. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FolderWife Posted March 23, 2005 Author Share Posted March 23, 2005 Thank you all It feels good to be in love again Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Odd how it always seems to be the little things that getcha.. Yay for you Girl:) Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Don't settle, you big flip flopper you. If you expect more out of him, then ask it. I am glad that he is capable of being considerate. But it's kind of like thanking someone for not punching you in the nose-they shouldn't BE punching you in the nose in the first place. Baby steps, I suppose. Please don't let a man treat you so shabbily that just by being normal it thrills you. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Baby steps, I suppose. Please don't let a man treat you so shabbily that just by being normal it thrills you.And you're not married? hmmmmmm Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Originally posted by Moose And you're not married? hmmmmmm If you're trying to imply something, just SAY it...that way dumb people like me don't have to waste time pondering the exact meaning of your message Moose. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Well, come on Spock, do you really expect a man or a woman to keep up with every little detail, walk on egg shells all the time, or should you accept that person for who he/she is? You come off like every man you have a relationship with has to appease you 24/7. Not gonna happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 You really should read more of Monday's posts before you start thinking that I have unrealistic expectations Moose. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 You really should read more of Monday's posts before you start thinking that I have unrealistic expectations Moose.I have, I'm Monday's biggest fan! Here she is just expressing a little something she took notice of from her husband, and it happens to be positive. Then you come along and tell her that getting thrilled over something so trivial is silly. Then, to top it off, your telling her she's letting her husband treat her shabbily. She's not letting him do anything. It's just the way he is. From what I've read, she's capable of handling him without you challenging her. There's nothing wrong with her getting a little excited. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Monday, congrats. Ya know what I say? Praise, praise, praise. You almost have to treat him like a kid, praise what he does and hope he does it again. Link to post Share on other sites
Illusion24 Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 I know exactly what you mean...sometimes you forget the reasons why you fell in love in the first place and then it hits you...you pay more attention and realize how much you love them for loving you... It feels good to be loved!! Sometimes we just have to sit back and watch what unfolds and you make sense of it all Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Originally posted by Mr Spock Don't settle, you big flip flopper you. If you expect more out of him, then ask it. I am glad that he is capable of being considerate. But it's kind of like thanking someone for not punching you in the nose-they shouldn't BE punching you in the nose in the first place. Baby steps, I suppose. Please don't let a man treat you so shabbily that just by being normal it thrills you. I don't see the word "silly" in here anywhere Moose. I suppose I could have put a smiley face after the word "flip flopper" to indicate to Monday that I'm gently teasing her. You're inferring things into my words that aren't there. But a big ol "yay" to you for detracting from Monday's post with your own issues. To Monday I am happy you continue to discover why you married this guy in the first place. Baby steps. Little things at a time, like him being home when you get home-that makes you happy. All I meant is that it doesn't cancel out the other jerk things he does-like the abnormal jerk things. Then, to top it off, your telling her she's letting her husband treat her shabbily. She's not letting him do anything. It's just the way he is. From what I've read, she's capable of handling him without you challenging her. There's nothing wrong with her getting a little excited. Are you on the sauce today Moose? I don't think I actually issued a "challenge". "just the way he is" So you mean that Monday should just accept the things that make him an abnormal assh*le and not try and work on them? I think she's headed in the right direction by posting her feelings and attempting to get counselling. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FolderWife Posted March 23, 2005 Author Share Posted March 23, 2005 Originally posted by Mr Spock Don't settle, you big flip flopper you. FLIP FLOPPER!!! ROFLMAO! I understand and agree with what Spock said. I shouldn't get all excited because my husband showed signs of normalcy My mom said a long time ago that in a marriage, you fall in and out of love all the time. She said that some weeks you won't feel the bond...you'll feel nothing. Then one day something will happen, and BAM you're in love all over again. This was my bam He hadn't been doing anything horrible LATELY, but he was getting on my nerves. Then, I saw this little glimpse of the consideration he has towards me, and it just warmed my heart. Kinda like laying in bed and having a nightmare that your still single and living at home, and waking up to see your husband in bed next to you, with the cat on his chest That's the feeling I had. I had that feeling that something was missing, and because of this little thing all the emotion came flooding back. This little thing tickled me Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 Originally posted by Monday This was my bam And that's all that matters. Link to post Share on other sites
Author FolderWife Posted March 23, 2005 Author Share Posted March 23, 2005 Originally posted by Moose I have, I'm Monday's biggest fan! and I'm yours Link to post Share on other sites
Author FolderWife Posted March 23, 2005 Author Share Posted March 23, 2005 Originally posted by Mr Spock I suppose I could have put a smiley face after the word "flip flopper" to indicate to Monday that I'm gently teasing her. I got the joke. I laughed out loud when I read, "You big flip flopper you..." It's so appropriate. But I'm not the only flip flopper on loveshack. If I were, we'd ALL be divorced Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted March 23, 2005 Share Posted March 23, 2005 It's just a happy thing to still feel hope Link to post Share on other sites
Author FolderWife Posted March 24, 2005 Author Share Posted March 24, 2005 Originally posted by Mr Spock It's just a happy thing to still feel hope I wasn't hoping for anything. I was tired of him, and then suddenly I was in love with him again. Link to post Share on other sites
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