Can a sexless marriage be fixed without intervention?

[Popsicle]

My marriage has been sexless for almost 20 years. When the problems started just after we married we spent years and thousands of dollars on therapy with many different kinds of therapists with no luck. In my experience on other websites that deal with sexless marriages if a marriage has gone a year or more with no sex the chances are the couple won't resume sex even if they decide to stay married to each other.

 

To add to this, from what I've seen, spouses become more preoccupied with absolving themselves of blame and passing it to the other, than with just having more sex.

[loveboid]

Sorry to hear that, JayJ.

 

Do you think, since it started so soon after marriage, that she married you for other reasons besides attraction? (And kept it hidden?)

[autumnnight]

To add to this, from what I've seen, spouses become more preoccupied with absolving themselves of blame and passing it to the other, than with just having more sex.

 

Not sure what this means, but if someone is knowingly denying their partner of sex, unless said partner is just a big jerk, then the person withholding IS to blame.