Morgoth Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 Uhhh, I would say his desire for keeping the family together is high. Even if we get sex from someone else it doesn't mean we don't love our families-I know, or even love our wife. It just means we want sex from someone else. Unfortunately, through religion, puritan origins, the Victorian era, about how bad sex is, we are told that sex with someone else means we don't love our wife or family if we are married. That's total BS by the way. Ask him if he still loves you and the family, I bet he does. I am sorry you are tied into a religious organization that seems to be influencing your thoughts. Religion is man made...think for yourself sweetie. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted December 30, 2014 Share Posted December 30, 2014 Lilac Until he sees what he stands to loose he will continue cheating and just be more sneaky about it. Cheating while you are pregnant is so very low. My advice: See a lawyer. First consultations are usually free. Get an idea of how finances would be split. Tell your H, he needs to write a no contact letter to his AP that you see first. The letter must come from him, not you, but you can mail it. Demand the whole truth regarding the A. When it started, who she is. If she's married. Don't ask what you don't want to hear, like what the sex was like etc. You could end up with mind movies for a very long time. Request transparency in relation to his phone, email and social media. Request that he goes for individual counselling before you go for MC. These are the very basic requests you need to consider reconciliation. If he can't meet these, tell him about the appointment you had with the lawyer. Let him know whst vusitation he is likely to get with the kids following a D and when he realises you are serious, you'll see a change if he wants to stay in the marriage. He needs to know that you are ready to go it alone, rather than be with a cheating H. He needs to know that you are a great W and reality over his fantasy affair will soon hit home. I would also not tolerate him saying you want to break the family up. Until he sees this is all his fault nothing will change. He should be worshipping the ground you walk on right. Remember if non of us had consequences for wrong behaviour, why would we not do it again. Be firm and calm when you tell him all this and please don't just rug sweep. Link to post Share on other sites
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