Author hurts_so_bad Posted December 27, 2014 Author Share Posted December 27, 2014 What if you lose your job and your benefits? Do you think she's going to hesitate for one second not to call the lawyer and file that divorce? Still remaining married to her means all your future earnings will be taken into account later in a divorce and she can file that divorce at any time. If you end up making more money later on, she's entitled to 50% of that. What if her current squeeze dumps her and that $700 you pay her monthly isn't enough, she can file that divorce immediately and make your life very difficult. Any investment you want to make financially, she will be entitled to 50% of the profits. What if you end up meeting a really awesome girl down the road and want to get married to her? You won't be able to because you're still married. How many women want to get involved on any level with a man that is already married? Very few. I understand that you feel you weren't the best guy to your wife, but by staying married to her, you could be potentially setting yourself up for even more financial losses later and limited options for future relationships. Just playing devil's advocate here. SuperGeek I live for now not what might be...Im comfortable and all I can do is hope it stays that way..By divorcing her and taking away her medical benefits it can very easily set the ball in motion for her to ask for the $2300 a month she is entitled to for child support instead of the $760 I give her.. If that happens I lose my house and end up not affording anything! Not many women want to be bothered with a 45 year old man who lives home with mommy either..I'd much rather the road I am on now..I will worry about the future when it arrives..Im still a young guy and rather have a nice life now and somwthing to offer the opposite sex then have absolutely nothing to offer now but a more secure future when Im an old man and no one wants me anyway! I see guys all the time that give their wives their house as not to touch their pensions..I could be wrong but I think thats the wrong move...I rather live my life for now and be comfortable then forced to live in poverty condition just to save a pension that who knows if I will even be alive to collect... I live my life for now not tomorrow because no one is promised tomorrow.. I'd rather be as happy as I can today then to worry about tomorrow and what might happen.. The only precaution Im taking today for the future is never getting married again! I dont believe in one sidedness and thats exactly what it is when men and women divorce atleast here in NY..Im not willing to take the risk of giving away my hard earned money and my kids future Inheritance to someone else just because things went south......If I find the right girl and she loves me enough she will except that Link to post Share on other sites
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Author hurts_so_bad Posted December 29, 2014 Author Share Posted December 29, 2014 bump? aM lol..Bump is to move the thread back to the top of the forum its in..I did that because I had no responses.. Link to post Share on other sites
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