Ra.Ho.Wa. Posted March 23, 2005 Posted March 23, 2005 my girlfriend is driving me crazy i cant take her anymore.we have been together for about 4 and a half months. she calls me nonstop, she has to know where i am, who I'm with and what I'm doing. when we are together anywhere she is all over me and its getting annoying,I've been wanting to end it now for about a week. i just don't know how to end it.
Merin Posted March 23, 2005 Posted March 23, 2005 IF you really want to just end things then be direct.. be nice as you can, but be straight up. However IF you would stay with her and give her another chance IF she stopped acting like a freak.. LOL Sorry! Then sit her down and tell her that while you like spending time with her and seeing her.. that you're not down for being checked on 24-7 and you want to step back the relationship (so to speak)
st8toftheheart Posted March 23, 2005 Posted March 23, 2005 I agree with Merin. If its simply a matter of giving you a little breathing room, tell her. If she doesn't want to listen, then you can still end it. I mean you're at the point you have nothing to lose but everything to gain by a relationship that may work. But if your feelings for her have waned, just break it to her nicely and both of you can move on. Good luck to you.
FolderWife Posted March 23, 2005 Posted March 23, 2005 Be sure when you dump her you tell her all this. Tell her that she smothered you needing to know where you are all the time, calling you all the time, bla bla bla. Maybe you dumping her for her faults will help her the NEXT time she has a boyfriend. Why didn't you talk to her about this months ago, before it got to the breaking point?
Butterfly28 Posted March 23, 2005 Posted March 23, 2005 It's unfortunate when relationships end up this way. Especially if the girl you are with has POTENTIAL to be a great girlfriend, but the question remains is she the girlfriend FOR YOU. I would talk to her. Tell her in a more CONSTRUCTIVE way. Say to her, "I feel this way when you do this" don't get frustrated and add any swear words LOL. Say it to her how you would want something said to you. For example, I used to be like that with my bf. The only difference was, I used to call him frequently, and tell him where I WAS, and what I WAS doing. It stemmed from my previous relationships, when I had my ex's always calling me wondering what I was up to who I was with etc..etc. I felt obligated to always make sure they knew what I was doing, so they could have faith in me, and trust me. I have always been a trustworthy person, who always chose the wrong guys. Now that I have a good guy, I learned that trust is earned in many ways, but you should also have a sense of trust to start out with. I no longer do that to my bf. We talk maybe only a few times a day if we're lucky. It's perfect. Maybe your gf just needs the reassurance that you are the apple of her eye. No one else is. The relationship is still new in alot of ways. If its a matter of her "trusting you". Then it's her own insecurities. These could only be very minor. Then again, maybe not. Talk to her and tell her how you feel in the most positive way you can. You might find it will work wonders for the two of you. If after you have spoken with her and you can't improve the situation, then let her down gently. Best of Luck!
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