Ashley S Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 Lol, seriously! The guys I like, don't like me, yet the guys that seem mentally disturbed, or are actually diagnosed with a mental disorder are the ones that seem to like me. I am not trying to offend anyone or make fun of anyone with a mental disorder, but I always end up finding out that they are Bi-polar, A Narcissist, Schizophrenic, Or some other mental disorder. That's all that's attracted to me, the ones that are mentally ill. Again, I am sorry if I sound extremely rude, I truly do feel bad for people with mental disorders, but seriously it's every guy that likes me. I don't understand it. It makes me feel even lower about myself, like a guy has to be crazy to like me lol. Is it how someone carries themselves? Or something else? Thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
Erised Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 Usually those with mental disorders are attracted to others with atypical mental conditions... I am not trying to say this as an insult, just saying this reliably bears out. 9 Link to post Share on other sites
SomeDude16 Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 Lol, seriously! The guys I like, don't like me, yet the guys that seem mentally disturbed, or are actually diagnosed with a mental disorder are the ones that seem to like me. I am not trying to offend anyone or make fun of anyone with a mental disorder, but I always end up finding out that they are Bi-polar, A Narcissist, Schizophrenic, Or some other mental disorder. That's all that's attracted to me, the ones that are mentally ill. Again, I am sorry if I sound extremely rude, I truly do feel bad for people with mental disorders, but seriously it's every guy that likes me. I don't understand it. It makes me feel even lower about myself, like a guy has to be crazy to like me lol. Is it how someone carries themselves? Or something else? Thank you! Where are you meeting these guys? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Trenton100 Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 Lol, seriously! The guys I like, don't like me, yet the guys that seem mentally disturbed, or are actually diagnosed with a mental disorder are the ones that seem to like me. I am not trying to offend anyone or make fun of anyone with a mental disorder, but I always end up finding out that they are Bi-polar, A Narcissist, Schizophrenic, Or some other mental disorder. That's all that's attracted to me, the ones that are mentally ill. Again, I am sorry if I sound extremely rude, I truly do feel bad for people with mental disorders, but seriously it's every guy that likes me. I don't understand it. It makes me feel even lower about myself, like a guy has to be crazy to like me lol. Is it how someone carries themselves? Or something else? Thank you! How do we know you're not a whacko yourself? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Diezel Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 Either similar traits, or perceived vulnerability because of issues concerning codependency. You already have admitted to having issues with self-image and self-esteem. They prey on that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PogoStick Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 Where are you meeting these guys? You know it's odd...every guy she dates from the psych ward seems to be a bit...off. But seriously OP, who doesn't have a mental disorder? I've met few perfect people in my life. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
E-Squared Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 My guess is that some of them are attracted to someone who may give them some kind of attention, or maybe they try to take what they can get. Okay, real talk, nobody truly knows, but it sounds like a consistent thing on your part. I don't know for sure, but are you sure that all of them have some kind of mental disorder? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 OP, a lot of guys can like you, since it's impossible to read minds, who they are is unknown, other than those who approach you, apparently most of whom demonstrate mental disease or defect. I don't have wide experience with mental illness in males outside of BP2 and, when manic, whoa, fearless. In one particular case I'm thinking of, I often got the feeling even a gun wouldn't stop him. He was married four times and died at 50 from choices related to the disease. In general though, lowered inhibitions and inconsiderate of consequences so, if they saw a lady, they'd be right in her face. No ambiguity or hesitation. One potential aspect that could be in play is, if your demeanor causes circumspection in otherwise healthy males, that same behavior may not faze the mentally ill ones at all, hence they would approach you where a healthy male decides not to. One control would be to approach whom you consider to be a healthy male and see what happens. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashley S Posted December 21, 2014 Author Share Posted December 21, 2014 Usually those with mental disorders are attracted to others with atypical mental conditions... I am not trying to say this as an insult, just saying this reliably bears out. No I understand. I mean I have low self esteem/image issues. I suffer with depression and anxiety too. However, I am very good at covering it up, I always act like everything is normal, and good, but maybe somehow these particular people can look through my fake façade. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashley S Posted December 21, 2014 Author Share Posted December 21, 2014 None of us can answer this for you. We don't know you. This is the sort of question you should ask an honest friend or family member. Unfortunately I don't have honest friends or family members It's ok. I just didn't know if anyone had experience with this or not. Thanks anyways! Where are you meeting these guys? Friend of a friend, bars, college, and some parties. How do we know you're not a whacko yourself? LOL! Well...I wouldn't consider myself a "whacko", but I do suffer with self esteem issues, depression, and anxiety. Either similar traits, or perceived vulnerability because of issues concerning codependency. You already have admitted to having issues with self-image and self-esteem. They prey on that. Good point Diezel! Thanks! You know it's odd...every guy she dates from the psych ward seems to be a bit...off. But seriously OP, who doesn't have a mental disorder? I've met few perfect people in my life. Lol, no I completely understand. That is why I stated in my post that I am not trying to be mean or offend anyone. I mean crazy guys like they aren't controlling their disorder, no medication, and running rampid basically. It's hard to explain because I anxiety and depression is considered a mental disorder and that is what I have. I also have self esteem/image issues. I am considered "mentally ill", but I am talking like these guys are straight up crazy, possessive, delusional, eratic, etc. I am not any of that. They aren't making any effort to control their condition either. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashley S Posted December 21, 2014 Author Share Posted December 21, 2014 My guess is that some of them are attracted to someone who may give them some kind of attention, or maybe they try to take what they can get. Okay, real talk, nobody truly knows, but it sounds like a consistent thing on your part. I don't know for sure, but are you sure that all of them have some kind of mental disorder? Yeah I see what you mean. Yeah, I eventually end up finding out they some sort of a mental disorder. Recently this one guy that liked me was trying to go out with me, I gave him a chance, and the date was weird. I told my friend about it, and my friend said he knew him, and he said "Stay away from him he has really bad Bi-polar, manic episodes." "He's not on medication to control it either, dude is kinda crazy, watch it Ashley." Which I figured because the date was really weird. I always eventually find out it's something! It's weird. Thanks for your input! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashley S Posted December 21, 2014 Author Share Posted December 21, 2014 OP, a lot of guys can like you, since it's impossible to read minds, who they are is unknown, other than those who approach you, apparently most of whom demonstrate mental disease or defect. I don't have wide experience with mental illness in males outside of BP2 and, when manic, whoa, fearless. In one particular case I'm thinking of, I often got the feeling even a gun wouldn't stop him. He was married four times and died at 50 from choices related to the disease. In general though, lowered inhibitions and inconsiderate of consequences so, if they saw a lady, they'd be right in her face. No ambiguity or hesitation. One potential aspect that could be in play is, if your demeanor causes circumspection in otherwise healthy males, that same behavior may not faze the mentally ill ones at all, hence they would approach you where a healthy male decides not to. One control would be to approach whom you consider to be a healthy male and see what happens. Wow! That is very interesting! I think it is my demeanor. I am a very down to earth person, but I am quiet and shy, but once someone gets to know me, I am outgoing and fun. I suffer from depression and anxiety, and self image issues, but I always hide it with a fake façade. I appear like I am a very happy person, when I am not. I am always nice to people, and I don't judge people. I like to be friends with everyone, and I am not a mean person, so I don't know if they pick up on that? They see I am a giving person? Who knows. I did approach guys I like, and they end up rejecting me Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 Watch this, if you are a people pleaser, then you will be very attractive proposition to many of those men, you say you attract. - 15 Traits of People Pleaser Syndrome (in 15 minutes) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 i am a dissociative personality.....i attract different guys..... what i can say is that if you attract certain types it is they feel a connection with you..an empathy perhaps....a soft soul.....someone who would understand them on a deeper level past the illness.....and or a similar mental disposition.....could be any numbers of reasons......do you notice a particular type of mental illness.....i know that people who hear voices are attracted to me...not all of them mentally ill by the way......i attract hard core mental illness......because i can simply accept them ...but i have been classified a schizo affective(i am not schizo affective in my heart i know this)......schizophrenic with shades of bi polar and clinical depression...people who are mentally ill want to eb understood as much as the person beside them.....often mentally ill people are attracted to understanding people.....compassion......equals passion..how many guys have told you their mental illness...are you guessing?.deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashley S Posted December 22, 2014 Author Share Posted December 22, 2014 Watch this, if you are a people pleaser, then you will be very attractive proposition to many of those men, you say you attract. - 15 Traits of People Pleaser Syndrome (in 15 minutes) Wow! A lot of those traits are me! That guy is really awesome, and smart! Love it! Thank you for sharing! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashley S Posted December 22, 2014 Author Share Posted December 22, 2014 i am a dissociative personality.....i attract different guys..... what i can say is that if you attract certain types it is they feel a connection with you..an empathy perhaps....a soft soul.....someone who would understand them on a deeper level past the illness.....and or a similar mental disposition.....could be any numbers of reasons......do you notice a particular type of mental illness.....i know that people who hear voices are attracted to me...not all of them mentally ill by the way......i attract hard core mental illness......because i can simply accept them ...but i have been classified a schizo affective(i am not schizo affective in my heart i know this)......schizophrenic with shades of bi polar and clinical depression...people who are mentally ill want to eb understood as much as the person beside them.....often mentally ill people are attracted to understanding people.....compassion......equals passion..how many guys have told you their mental illness...are you guessing?.deb I am sorry if it seemed like I was being rude or ignorant. Depression and Anxiety is considered a "mental illness", and I suffer with both of that. Technically I am "mentally ill", but I am talking about the ones that are literally delusional, possessive, and erratic. You do have a point because I am a very kind to people, and I love people. I don't like being mean, and I don't like to make fun of people. I care too much actually lol. I am sorry about your disorder, but your personality disorder doesn't define you. Thank you for commenting! xoxoxo. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted December 22, 2014 Share Posted December 22, 2014 I've met a cast of characters in my lifetime and my one short stint with a psychologist, she said it's because I'm too tolerant. Privately, I also think I find them just a little bit interesting because I started reading books on what they used to just call "abnormal psychology" when i was still in middle school and never stopped. Hah. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Bellaisa Posted December 22, 2014 Share Posted December 22, 2014 I mean I have low self esteem/image issues. I suffer with depression and anxiety too. However, I am very good at covering it up, I always act like everything is normal, and good, but maybe somehow these particular people can look through my fake façade. I find we attract what we believe we deserve - whether it be consciously or not. My ex boyfriends are all drug addicted losers. Seriously, that was all I could find for years, and I asked myself the same thing. I also had low self value and felt like I was supposed to be with these kinds of guys. Once I decided that I was worth more and wanted a good guy who treated me well - and I wouldn't accept anything less, I attracted a good guy into my life. I'm serious - it wasn't after a few more losers...it was within a month of deciding that I was worth more than being used by these guys. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
E-Squared Posted December 22, 2014 Share Posted December 22, 2014 Yeah I see what you mean. Yeah, I eventually end up finding out they some sort of a mental disorder. Recently this one guy that liked me was trying to go out with me, I gave him a chance, and the date was weird. I told my friend about it, and my friend said he knew him, and he said "Stay away from him he has really bad Bi-polar, manic episodes." "He's not on medication to control it either, dude is kinda crazy, watch it Ashley." Which I figured because the date was really weird. I always eventually find out it's something! It's weird. Thanks for your input! You're welcome. Anyway, so it's kind of like that? Initially, I thought it had to do with these guys with mental disorders who end up giving creepy vibes and start doing stalker-like behavior. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashley S Posted December 22, 2014 Author Share Posted December 22, 2014 I find we attract what we believe we deserve - whether it be consciously or not. My ex boyfriends are all drug addicted losers. Seriously, that was all I could find for years, and I asked myself the same thing. I also had low self value and felt like I was supposed to be with these kinds of guys. Once I decided that I was worth more and wanted a good guy who treated me well - and I wouldn't accept anything less, I attracted a good guy into my life. I'm serious - it wasn't after a few more losers...it was within a month of deciding that I was worth more than being used by these guys. That's awesome that you decided that! I am so proud of you! Yeah, that's all that seems to like me. I don't get it either. I think it's the area I live in, lol. It's full of losers and druggies. Thank you for commenting! xoxo Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashley S Posted December 22, 2014 Author Share Posted December 22, 2014 You're welcome. Anyway, so it's kind of like that? Initially, I thought it had to do with these guys with mental disorders who end up giving creepy vibes and start doing stalker-like behavior. Sometimes they will get stalker-ish on me, and that's how I find out too. Creepy vibes as well. I am around a bunch of weirdos, my friend lol. Link to post Share on other sites
insert_name Posted December 22, 2014 Share Posted December 22, 2014 If thats you in your profile pic OP I can imagine you must have no end of offers- so if you only seem to attract people with traits like narcissism I can only surmise that its because 'water finds its own level' as the saying goes and you just aren't looking hard enough for the guys that have decent personalities. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted December 22, 2014 Share Posted December 22, 2014 Well, I attract guys who have addictions. I guess i can kind of relate. I dont know what the solution is. *shrug* I've had stalkers, too. *shudders* 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ready2DateAgain Posted December 22, 2014 Share Posted December 22, 2014 Sometimes they will get stalker-ish on me, and that's how I find out too. Creepy vibes as well. I am around a bunch of weirdos, my friend lol. we should hang out 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted December 22, 2014 Share Posted December 22, 2014 I find we attract what we believe we deserve - whether it be consciously or not. My ex boyfriends are all drug addicted losers. Mine were all drug addicted winners. Bonus: They're all still alive! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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