OCCDAVE Posted March 24, 2005 Share Posted March 24, 2005 Sorry i keep posting it just proves how messed up my life is anyway my friend of 12 years has been ignoring me for the past 4 months .What do you guys think could have happened cause this kid was more of a brother then the one i have which is sad to say.I know he started changing once this one rich kid started hanging around him but can one person really change someone that much that he's willing to throw away a 12 year friendship.I tried emailing and calling and he ignores the calls or reads the mail and wont even reply telling me he wants nothing to do with me.I guess i wouldn't care to much it's just he was my last friend i had who stuck with me through so much so do you think he just doesn't wanna bother with me anymore since i'm not as rich as that kid Link to post Share on other sites
GladCastro Posted March 25, 2005 Share Posted March 25, 2005 People grow in and out of people. Relationships have been compared to planetary orbits. Just bide your time, focus on somehting else and things will run their course. One way or the other, you are not going to change things. You never know about people, anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
darhma Posted March 25, 2005 Share Posted March 25, 2005 People are in your life for a reason...a season....or a lifetime. There are very few people who fit in the lifetime slot. Many people have a person in their life to fulfill some need in themselves and when that need no longer needs to be fulfilled by that person or the relationship ceases to fulfill that need they move on. It is not a reflection of you...it is a reflection of them. A lifetime friend is a friendship that is based on a decision by both parties that this person is to be a perenant fixture in their life. That in and of itself fulfills the need of continuality and order in their life. Every relationship is conditional with the exception of the love of your child. Just keep your heart open and I am sure before you know it you will find a new friend to fulfill the empty slot in your life. It hurts when a relationship ends and it is not mutual parting. You are a wonderful beautiful human being and know that when one door closes it just gives you the opportunity to open more doors. Obviously this person is somewhat shallow to pick their friends on what they have to give them..money...not on their heart, loyalty and shared experiences. You deserve better friends then that and you will have them. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted March 26, 2005 Share Posted March 26, 2005 Yes, people come and go in and out of our lives...But after a 12 year friendship one just doesn't up and disappear! YOU should be feeling hurt by this! I would be, especially for no good reason! You have afew options, either forget him completely, move on - Put him out of your head - and hopefully some time in the near future he'll realize wtf he did, feel bad and come talk to you again or continue to try to make contact with him...It's tough one! You don't want to push and make yourself look too needy because it will just piss him off, but at the same time he does owe you a conversation! Whether it be a goodbye, closure, or just an explanation of his actions. I think it's cruel and the kid obviously isn't who you thought he was or he's going through some brain spasm and allow his new rich buddy to take over his life and not think for himself. Hang in there. I know you're hurting...Try to keep busy, get together with your other friends and try to maybe make afew new ones. Link to post Share on other sites
beatjunkies Posted March 26, 2005 Share Posted March 26, 2005 so this is just your good guy friend huh ? I dont know I havent talked to one of my guy friends in a while. He just sort of got into a different scene kinda. He likes to play poker and go to casinos and what not and he hangs out with some other rich kid.. It seems like theres not much in common anymore. Its odd thought because I have known him for about 6 years. So I dont know sometimes I think I should give him a call and say whats up.. Its weird though . Anyways my dad told me once that it should take no more than 1 hand to count your TRUE friends on !! So maybe after all he isnt a true friend. Its seems easier though for 2 guy friends to reconcile than with an ex g/f !! haha I have both those on my hands right now !! Take care man... just call him again and suggest talking about it.. leave a message if he doesnt answer but he doesnt contact you back then i guess its obvious he doesnt want to be friends.. Link to post Share on other sites
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