goodyblue Posted December 24, 2014 Share Posted December 24, 2014 That is your opinion but tomorrow my MM is spending the day with me- because he loves and respects me and made a life change for me. He is with me and I am his partner- she is his ex. I don't believe you can love two people at once, he is completely done with her, he will not be a support system for her- any love or kindness he has can be reserved for me, his boys, my family and any future family me and him have- she can make her own way- he has no obligation to her- the kids are grown and there's no tie left. It's all or nothing I'm afraid- if he doesn't like it he is free to walk away. Me too. Merry Christmas. Link to post Share on other sites
GypsumSatellite Posted December 25, 2014 Share Posted December 25, 2014 He took it off in front of me when we were friends and I didn't see it again until a few years later when he began wearing it suddenly. I had trouble ignoring that ring and so did everyone else that saw us out together. Everyone knew I was a SOW and assumed he was just my new BF. Now, they take our R for what it really is: the side-chick and her MM. As a result of the wearing of the ring, I've withheld the sexual side of our R. I would try to explain why that symbol makes me uncomfortable over all the other boundaries we're crossed but... I suppose it's easy to ignore some things and harder to ignore something shining at you constantly. The only thing that made me feel he wanted this A was the day he took it off in front of me. Now I wonder why he bothers with an A if ultimately he wants to wear his ring as though it meant something. If it meant something, surely he'd stop risking his M every day? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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