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SixthSt.Girl

I cannot figure out this boss of mine. I was wondering if this is typical MM behavior, or is it just his personality? Half the time, he acts very professional with me, almost standoffish, doesn't seem to care about me at all. Then, he goes through periods where he's touching me, flirting, staring, etc. He always treats our manager the same way - he is pretty impersonal and direct as a rule. But, the other day, I mentioned to him that I was having some trust issues with the new manager - she was having weird people in the store in employee only areas, and a pendant disappeared when we have had nothing missing in the past, until she got here. I basically said that I don't want to be here with someone I don't trust and I don't like a lot of what she's done with the store. I told him I wanted to leave - that I could get part-time work elsewhere and devote most of my time to finding a full-time job. Well, he got emotional saying that he didn't want to lose me, he trusts me and can't bring in anyone else who he'll have that level of trust with, etc. Then, he goes, "Ok, anything else?" like that is that, and walked out the door. I was pretty stunned because half the time he acts like I'm no more than a piece of furniture. And the rest of the time, he treats me like a plaything, made for his enjoyment. I'm not particularly good at sales and figured he would be glad to be rid of me, since I only want the job as a stepping stone to something better and he knows that.

 

So, I talked it over with some friends and family, and decided to stay - I have some leads for other jobs, so hopefully I'll be gone soon. In the meantime, I'm having trouble relating to this man. Never before have I met someone so changeable. I don't know whether he feels guilty for the flirting and stuff because he's married, and backs away, or if he's just satisfied toying with me part-time. I don't play into this behavior usually, but I know he knows I'm attracted to him. It's just something I can't turn off. I think he's attracted to me, and I've never had a guy do and say this stuff to me and not take it further. Has anyone encountered behavior like this from a MM, or any man? Did you confront him and ask him "what's going on?" I have wanted to, but he's my boss, so I leave it alone.

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Well, he got emotional saying that he didn't want to lose me, he trusts me and can't bring in anyone else who he'll have that level of trust with, etc. Then, he goes, "Ok, anything else?" like that is that, and walked out the door. I was pretty stunned because half the time he acts like I'm no more than a piece of furniture. And the rest of the time, he treats me like a plaything, made for his enjoyment. I'm not particularly good at sales and figured he would be glad to be rid of me, since I only want the job as a stepping stone to something better and he knows that.

 

Because of this, I would exit this job as soon as possible. And he is a real JERK for acting like this too! He is in a position of power and abusing it by treating you like eye candy! Gawwd that pisses me off. Too early in the AM to read this stuff!

 

Go and find yourself something that will make YOU happy and feel good about you!

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