btvdts Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 so yup...I went over a year without breaking contact...and I mean no social stalking either. my last words to her were(I was dumped by the way) if this is what you want then ok...I won't call/text anymore...take care of yourself.. I went no contact a week after the bu and it only took that long bc I had to move out... Well just so you know why I broke nc, her brother and I knew each other years before I met her...we served in the military together and he just had a baby. we were catching up and he mentioned her...how she wasn't doing well (potentially has cancer) and how her ex husband was still trying to get the kids from her...it saddened to to hear these things about someone whom I still care very much for...I think in a way i'll always love/care for her so I decided to send her a little hello on facebook. basically just saying that I hope things would get better for her and that I always hoped for her best. maybe a part of me wanted a reply back...just something/anything because she herself never contacted me either this past year...but I got nothing. so I guess its like they say...just don't do it...keep to the NC. it just hurts too much to think that you mean nothing...that you are just a stranger...this sounds corny but my new years resolution? too truly let her go...any/every fiber/thought/hope...no matter how small...to let it go...so I can open my heart again to someone that would want me to love them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FancyFace Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 I am sorry about your pain. A year is an awful long time to have maintaned NC so you should really be proud of yourself, especially the way you left the relationship (with your dignity in tact, I didn't I pleaded and begged) and the not stalking aspect. We all make mistakes but the point is to earn from it. Clearly your initial decision to go NC was correct and has served you well but maybe breaking contact showed you that you do need to let go and start looking forward in order to move forward. It does hurt to know that they couldnt care one way or the other how we are but it could be for a multitude of reasons, some good, others bad. Just know your worth as a human being and do not base your self worth or self esteem on someone else. Good luck with the rest of your journey to recovery and remember if you made it an entire year, you can make it another one, and another one until this is a distant memory from a lifetime away. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
annisk Posted January 1, 2015 Share Posted January 1, 2015 I'm really sorry to hear about your pain. In your defence, what you did was not wrong and your message to her came from a place of good intentions. I will say that just because she didn't respond, it doesn't mean you didn't or don't mean anything to her. Besides that, well done on maintaining NC for a whole year. Like FancyFace said, if you made it an entire year, you can make it another one.. or ten, until you forget about it. Have a happy new year and stay strong! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted January 1, 2015 Share Posted January 1, 2015 I am sorry man. I hope though that the the good times have become good memories. Link to post Share on other sites
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