Gabik Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 (edited) I started seeing this guy around February. A mutual friend hooked us up. We both work in the airport but for diff companies. We got close really fast and would text eachother all day and night. A month or so later we slept together. He is the first guy I've ever slept with (i'm 24). Things were good for a bit and then he changed. He started to act very cold to me. Eventually in April we got into an altercation because he told me he was going to go sleep with his "ex". I was thrown off by this because she's only 19 and he's 27. I ended up punching him in his face and he told me how I'm physically ugly and a whore.We didn't speak for months. Eventually he started trying to make conversation with me. Flirting or doing things to get my attention. So eventually we started our relationship back up in about June. Around October he invited me to come see him on his business trip. I ended up staying at his hotel with him. After a few days I texted him and he said that he didn't want anything to do with me because apparently I texted his "ex" and told her where we were. I NEVER did that. So I messaged her on Facebook as that was my only way of contacting her. she showed me messages from a random number that supposedly texted her. Apparently he's been seeing his ex too because who cares if someone told her we were together. She told me that they have a house together. She told me that 3 diff ppl told her I was there with him because she knows all of his business partners. Which I figured would've explained the text she recieved. I found it so confusing because Ive spent several nights at his house. He freely invites me there often. Also he only has a basement as a room in his parents home. This is the same ex that all of his friends told me was crazy. She told me that since she found out about me she would have to find a place to live. After I explained to her that I stay at his house frequently, I caught her in a lie because she slipped and said that sometimes she stays at her house when he gets off late. The house she said she didn't have. And if you live with him why do you need to stay somewhere else just because he is getting off late?? After doing my research I seen where he openly would talk to girls on social media and when she would try to say he has a girlfriend he would post (FOR EVERYONE INCLUDING HER TO SEE) that she's just a friend. So I figured yeah maybe she is kind of off. He even posted a pic of a diff ex saying he missed her while they were supposedly together. So I never knew what kinda relationship they actually did have. She asked for my number on facebook so I gave it to her. She would text me a lot. She was begging me to tell his friends not to hang out with him. One night I ended up at a club where he was because we have mutual friends. She texted me around 4am asking if I was with him. I ignored her because it was late and I wasnt "with" him. The next morning I responded and she was very rude saying I'm a joke and saying he called her to say that I was at the club. She taunted me that everyone knows I texted her from "fake" numbers. It really irritated me so bad because I NEVER texted her and before when I first talked to her, she said "3" other ppl had been texting her. She also told me he's been sleeping with 3 other girls and said that he's s carrier (lol). I went to the dr and im clear. So since I see him at work often and it's very awkward. So a few weeks ago I texted him and he responded by saying "**** off" then the girl text me saying not to text him anymore and called me a joke. I told her she's a joke as she told me that he's a carrier and sleeping with other girls yet she's back in his bed. I changed my number. So I didn't speak to him for a few weeks and I saw him in the airport. He kept trying to make conversation with me but I was short but polite. One day he was standing behind me and told me I "smell good" I only said thank you and walked away. He would make conversation with me for weeks and we were getting along very well. I texted him yesterday and said "Merry Christmas" he texted back "seriously????" It threw me off and made me burst into tears because I don't understand. We were getting along so well and I only said something polite and he was so nasty to me. Why was he trying to make conversation with me if I can't talk to him?? I tried not to take it to the heart because she's so young and he is obviously a mean person. I never thought I was the other woman but now I feel like I am. It's hard to understand because he doesn't have any thing of her on his facebook or instagram. Everytime she post something on his facebook, he deletes it. You wouldn't know they even knew each other unless you go to her page. I don't understand what he wants from me. If you hate me so much or don't want me to talk to you why not just leave me alone?? Why try and talk to me and give me compliments. It's not like we work together, we only see eachother in passing so he doesn't have to talk to me. I don't understand what he's trying to do with me. Why be so nice to md and then when I say anything it's a problem. I feel like the other woman but a part of me feels as though he's doing it on purpose. Edited December 26, 2014 by Gabik Link to post Share on other sites
Josmatjes Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 There is way too much drama surrounding this guy. It sounds like he is screwing over a lot of woman. Just the fact that his so called girlfriend got a text from other woman and she is still with him is crazy! You are better without him, you need to just steer clear of this loser. You are better than this! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gabik Posted December 26, 2014 Author Share Posted December 26, 2014 There is way too much drama surrounding this guy. It sounds like he is screwing over a lot of woman. Just the fact that his so called girlfriend got a text from other woman and she is still with him is crazy! You are better without him, you need to just steer clear of this loser. You are better than this! Thank you so much!! I've never dealt with so much drama in my life until I met him. I just wish he'd leave me alone and not try and talk to me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gabik Posted December 26, 2014 Author Share Posted December 26, 2014 There is way too much drama surrounding this guy. It sounds like he is screwing over a lot of woman. Just the fact that his so called girlfriend got a text from other woman and she is still with him is crazy! You are better without him, you need to just steer clear of this loser. You are better than this! He's made it so everyone thinks I'm crazy I have a reputation I don't deserve Link to post Share on other sites
Cressida Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 Gabik, this guy is definitely an abominable a-hole. Calling you a whore? The minute such words are said or exchanged, there's simply no room for anything else to be said. He has a girlfriend, let him be. Really this is a worthless man, a piece of nothing, and you just need to stay away from him. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gabik Posted December 26, 2014 Author Share Posted December 26, 2014 Gabik, this guy is definitely an abominable a-hole. Calling you a whore? The minute such words are said or exchanged, there's simply no room for anything else to be said. He has a girlfriend, let him be. Really this is a worthless man, a piece of nothing, and you just need to stay away from him. Thank you I just don't understand why he bothers me still. Like I don't feel like he should be talking to me Link to post Share on other sites
Cressida Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 Thank you I just don't understand why he bothers me still. Like I don't feel like he should be talking to me BECAUSE HE SHOULD NOT! He offended and disrespected you despite you not having done anything to deserve such behavior! He then involves his girlfriend?? WTF is this, Cirque de Jerk-leil?? The only response you should have is to tell his GF that you didn't send those messages, and that you didn't even know he had a girlfriend. You SHOULD NOT care if he has a house or six with her, he called you a whore! Let him be! Ignore him at work, everywhere, just forget about his existence- he NEVER EXISTED IN THE FIRST PLACE. Ice ice baby! Just forget he ever appeared in your life. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gabik Posted December 26, 2014 Author Share Posted December 26, 2014 BECAUSE HE SHOULD NOT! He offended and disrespected you despite you not having done anything to deserve such behavior! He then involves his girlfriend?? WTF is this, Cirque de Jerk-leil?? The only response you should have is to tell his GF that you didn't send those messages, and that you didn't even know he had a girlfriend. You SHOULD NOT care if he has a house or six with her, he called you a whore! Let him be! Ignore him at work, everywhere, just forget about his existence- he NEVER EXISTED IN THE FIRST PLACE. Ice ice baby! Just forget he ever appeared in your life. Yes I usually ignore him for the most part but he tries everyday to talk to me like literally everyday. Link to post Share on other sites
Cressida Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 Don't speak with him. He no longer exists. (Do you really want to talk to a man who calls you a whore??) The end. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 Thank you so much!! I've never dealt with so much drama in my life until I met him. I just wish he'd leave me alone and not try and talk to me. Yes, such drama! Toxic too. Just ignore him. Change your number. Block in on ALL social media, including your email too. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 Do not initiate any contact with him whether direct, indirect through a third person, or via social media. If he contacts you, do not respond in any way. If people try to talk to you about him, tell them you are not interested. He's poison. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gabik Posted December 26, 2014 Author Share Posted December 26, 2014 Do not initiate any contact with him whether direct, indirect through a third person, or via social media. If he contacts you, do not respond in any way. If people try to talk to you about him, tell them you are not interested. He's poison. I love the way you put that. He def is poison!! But what should I do when he is literally in my face trying to talk to me?? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 I love the way you put that. He def is poison!! But what should I do when he is literally in my face trying to talk to me?? You just look away, and don't even acknowledge the fact that he's there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gabik Posted December 26, 2014 Author Share Posted December 26, 2014 You just look away, and don't even acknowledge the fact that he's there. I actually have to be around him later at work. I'll let u know how that's goes for sure. I'm gonna be strong 1 Link to post Share on other sites
still_an_Angel Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 You need to ignore all forms of communication. He tries to talk to you because he enjoys getting a reaction. If he does this again, you don't even need to acknowledge that he said something, just walk away like nothing was ever said to you. Hopefully he gets the message soon. He's a creep that will hound you unless you put your foot down and end all this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gabik Posted December 26, 2014 Author Share Posted December 26, 2014 You need to ignore all forms of communication. He tries to talk to you because he enjoys getting a reaction. If he does this again, you don't even need to acknowledge that he said something, just walk away like nothing was ever said to you. Hopefully he gets the message soon. He's a creep that will hound you unless you put your foot down and end all this. Yes ive explained to him several times that I no longer wish to play games. I literally beg him to leave me alone if he doesn't want anything good. He still does this Link to post Share on other sites
Nattie Posted December 27, 2014 Share Posted December 27, 2014 You sound like a sweet girl, and he is a pos. Mark 2014 off as a rough year of lessons learned. Focus on yourself, new year, new you, and don't give this dirt bag the time of day, whether you see him at work or not. Happiness is the best revenge. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gabik Posted December 27, 2014 Author Share Posted December 27, 2014 I saw him and he tried to joke around with me. I ignored him. Idk what his problem is seriously 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cressida Posted December 27, 2014 Share Posted December 27, 2014 I saw him and he tried to joke around with me. I ignored him. Idk what his problem is seriously Gabik, just ignore him. Ignore, ignore, ignore. If he stands in front of you and says hi, you don't look at him, you look THROUGH him as if he were glass. You then continue your day as if nothing happened. You don't speak with him. I had a conversation with my ex at some point and he told me that doing something like this to a man is the worst, it could even cause someone a heart attack (if there were feelings of course, etc.). Please just give him what he set you up for- you have to IGNORE HIM forever. He's playing with fire as you could go to his management and tell them how he verbally abused you and all that. He shouldn't f*ck around at work, means he's mentally incapable of thinking for himself and everything is a big joke for him, including his job and livelihood. Not good. Just do not see him. You just don't see him. You can't see him, he's invisible. Tell yourself this until it sinks in. He isn't there, he never was, he's transparent, he's a ghost. You do not do or say anything. If you're caught in public and you have to say something to him as he starts talking to you directly while other ppl are around, you give super simple answers, as if you'd be speaking with a taxi driver. If he ever jumps out of a bush or something and asks you why you won't speak with him,you just tell him you want nothing to do with him as he's an a-hole and he'd better leave you alone or you'll have to speak with his supervisor. He'll drop the act on the spot if he knows what's good for him. Best of luck and please don't let this douchebag waste your time, or your tears....you deserve better. come on now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cressida Posted December 27, 2014 Share Posted December 27, 2014 Sorry guys, double post here Link to post Share on other sites
Josmatjes Posted December 27, 2014 Share Posted December 27, 2014 Completely ignore him like he doesn't exist. You are better than him. He wants to initiate you into his harem of crazy women!!! Get away from him!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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