Cocochai Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 (edited) i haven't posted on here in a while but I've been still reading off/on at times. Ever since my AP hasn't been able to message me via FB or text as much because his BS can login or trace his messages we've been LC. Which was fine because my emotions went down for him. We probably see each other twice a month and text maybe 4. I started a relationship with a guy I use to work w/ and he a very nice but, he lost his job and financial isn't ready to be in a relationship until he can get on his own two feet. Which I understand but at the same time.. I'm not turning this into a FWB while I'm not getting anything other then what I'm pretty much getting from the AP. He is working now but always broke to do anything. The sex is 5 mins top, which is why at times I'm dealing w/ mm. Well anyway, for the first time in 3 years of dealing w/ MM he didn't send me a text on Christmas Day and once again it's a wake up call to why I'm dealing w/ being second. It got my emotions on high and we were planning to see each other tomorrow. He always reaches out for the most part. I feel like if I ignore him if he reaches out Sat he hopefully will get the hint so I can stop feeling like this. I shouldn't be expected a text from him and feeling low when I don't. I thought I was in control of my emotions but clearly that was a set back. I guess LC isn't working either. Edited December 26, 2014 by Cocochai Link to post Share on other sites
Blu72 Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 I didn't hear from my AP on Xmas either, but I expected that so it wasn't really a shocker, plus I never reached out either. We usually say our Merry Xmas before hand. I'm ok with it cause frankly I needed some space and not think of 'us' right now. I really want to start detaching and this seems like a start for me. We will see how it goes. Link to post Share on other sites
Sassy Girl Posted December 26, 2014 Share Posted December 26, 2014 We never made promises to message each other on Christmas. We both have other responsibilities and we respected that. We both have little kids. Christmas is about the kids. That's what we are focused on. Our kids deserve that time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cocochai Posted December 26, 2014 Author Share Posted December 26, 2014 We never made promises to message each other on Christmas. We both have other responsibilities and we respected that. We both have little kids. Christmas is about the kids. That's what we are focused on. Our kids deserve that time. Your right... I guess since he's done it every year I was surprised he didn't. Plus I would never reach out and never have either unless he did. Besides... It's not like I should truly expect him too. I'll just take this time to continue enjoying my family and what's to come for the new year.. Peace of mind. Link to post Share on other sites
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