whatodo Posted March 24, 2005 Share Posted March 24, 2005 Ok let me ask you guys something. I have lately broken up with my gf and well obviously i am "out of the game". I need to get back into meeting people but i dont meet new people anywhere anymore. So my question is when can i just approach a girl. I mean lets say i see a girl walking on campus and i think shes hot or whatever can i just go up to her and be like hey wats going on or something like that. I really dont think i can just do that, that would be really akward for her and me. But so how can i just meet people any ideas tips. In my classes there is one girl i have been talking to but we will see where that leads. But how bout meeting people at other places. What do you suggest? When can i just go and introduce myself to someone? I can't just go up to people and just start talking to them. So give me some ideas and what i can do? Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatodo Posted March 25, 2005 Author Share Posted March 25, 2005 anyone got anything for me???? Link to post Share on other sites
Topaze Posted March 25, 2005 Share Posted March 25, 2005 No sorry I can't help. I am struggling with that one myself. The usual singles events, speed dating, internet dating, going to events and courses in areas of interest to me has not worked. Women are judged on very superficial terms and, as we have seen from comments on this board, unless one is in a Black community, you're screwed. With few exceptions, men who aren't Black don't find Black women attractive and aren't willing to consider us as anything more than platonic friends. It's very depressing. I will be watching this thread too as I am looking for ideas. Places to go, interracial dating sites where the men aren't just looking for sex or S & M encounters, ideas for activities, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Groovy Posted March 25, 2005 Share Posted March 25, 2005 Clubs are usually a bad choice. I have found internet dating can work for very few people. Unfortunately it is to easy for men to judge before they know you. As well as people can just be dishonest about marital status, intentions, etc. I had only luck with a Christian dating site to avoid those people looking for a good screw with the mainstream sites. I did meet some guys who were by the book and rigid by my terms, but I also met my current BF who choose it because he wanted committment, friendship and eventually to settle down. But like me is liberal in his viewpoints. I met a deacon, but I also met my current guy who goes to church once every other month. I'm just saying you don't have to be devout. They also have Jewish sites. I played soccor and softball co-ed and found it very easy to meet men. Check out other sports as well and if you don't meet anyone your getting in shape! Always do things you'd want to do regardless of who you meet. Dancing is fun too. I took a salsa class and didn't meet anyone, but I have a friend who meet their fiance that way. Try swing too. Something like bellydancing or ballet is not a good choice for meeting men. The only other place I dated was work, which is a no-no usually. But I have 3,000 people in the company so it was not as much of a risk. The only other thing you can do it let friends know you are single and looking. That way if anyone is single that seems like a good match they can set you up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatodo Posted March 25, 2005 Author Share Posted March 25, 2005 any other ways i really wouldn't want to use the internet. Link to post Share on other sites
Topaze Posted March 25, 2005 Share Posted March 25, 2005 Well the dancing thing didn't work for me. The men wanted skinny women in skimpy clothing and ignored everyone else. The rejection really shook my confidence and re-opened some old wounds from junior high and high school. The men I met on the Christian site were more racist than the men I met on the secular sites. The ones who were willing to date a woman of another race had a HOST of problems and character flaws....it came down to which recovering alcholic, bi-polar or depressed guy experiencing panic attacks do I hook up with THIS weekend. The sports idea sounds like a good one. I have never played any team sports and a lot of sports clubs have socials so I'll give that one a try. Thanks. Any other ideas? Here are some ideas for men to meet women. I found these posted on another site: - Church (or Synagogue) - Christian Singles Functions (or Jewish Singles Functions) - Bible Studies - Bible Conferences - Salsa Classes - Salsa Clubs - Cooking, Baking or Pastry Classes - Speed Dating Events - several companies have closed down because they just couldn't get enough men - Upscale Balls - I volunteered at one a couple of years ago and DROVES of women came in unescorted - I only saw a father and son come in without dates - Cruises - Spas (the kind where you can stay for a few days is best) - Caribbean Resorts - Courses and seminars that deal with personal development - Upscale hair salons - The gym - but take the aerobics classes - Yoga classes - Acting classes - the type that show you how to audition for commercials or small parts on TV - Gala openings at film festivals - The Ballet - Stables and Riding Clubs (sign up for regular lessons) - Horse Shows - Classical Music Concerts - Parent's Association Meetings - Kids soccer or hockey games (if you have kids) there are always TONS more single Mom's than single Dad's A similar list for women wanting to meet men would be greatly appreciated Link to post Share on other sites
Groovy Posted March 25, 2005 Share Posted March 25, 2005 Aside from what I mentioned..... Salsa or swing classes City league sports Christian dating sights I would suggest a singles cruise. Some of the events like yoga and ballet you will find more women than men. It is true the Christian sites have some ignorant close minded people. But like anywhere, you have to toss the bad seeds out. Link to post Share on other sites
Topaze Posted March 27, 2005 Share Posted March 27, 2005 Come on men. I gave you tons of ideas. Let's have some ideas for the women about where WE can meet men. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whatodo Posted March 27, 2005 Author Share Posted March 27, 2005 I really think its easier for a woman to meet men. I mean a girl can come up to any guy and talk to him and they guy really wont mind. I guess the hard thing for a girl is to find a good guy not just someone who is looking for a one night stand. I really think you can meet guys at like concerts and school and work and any of those places. Where ever i go there is always more guys that girls. Does that help?? Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted March 27, 2005 Share Posted March 27, 2005 Meeting men ain't a problem. Meeting healthy, non psyco, straight, unattached or married ones is, ! As a recently single girl, I intend to just stroll alone for a while. I will be reading this thread, however. I think there's a good of changing my mind in a few months! Link to post Share on other sites
tokyo Posted March 27, 2005 Share Posted March 27, 2005 Originally posted by CurlyIam Meeting men ain't a problem. Meeting healthy, non psyco, straight, unattached or married ones is, ! As a recently single girl, I intend to just stroll alone for a while. I will be reading this thread, however. I think there's a good of changing my mind in a few months! Welcome back to the happy single world. Link to post Share on other sites
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