LookAtThisPOst Posted December 27, 2014 Share Posted December 27, 2014 This totally caught me off guard, the complete opposite of what people say in their online dating profiles "Also, if you do message me DO NOT send me a freakin' book. A simple "hi" is good enough." A woman that actually prefers just a simple "hi" * passes out * 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AndraEcho Posted December 27, 2014 Share Posted December 27, 2014 Haha! I imagine she responds with, "tl;dr"often.. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted December 27, 2014 Share Posted December 27, 2014 Sometimes I respond with "hi" and that is the end of the conversation. Strange. Link to post Share on other sites
kolleamm Posted December 31, 2014 Share Posted December 31, 2014 Sometimes I respond with "hi" and that is the end of the conversation. Strange. Hmm I wonder why 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted December 31, 2014 Share Posted December 31, 2014 Some guy "winked" at me on Match. I winked back. He sent me an email "Hi, Regards Mike" I didn't respond. Link to post Share on other sites
endlessabyss Posted December 31, 2014 Share Posted December 31, 2014 Hi would be a lot easier than having to formulating some witty opener that has to be thought out over and over, in hopes of a response. Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted December 31, 2014 Share Posted December 31, 2014 Hmm I wonder why If they don't make an effort, why would i? Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted December 31, 2014 Share Posted December 31, 2014 Hi would be a lot easier than having to formulating some witty opener that has to be thought out over and over, in hopes of a response. It doesn't have to be well thought out. A simple "how was your weekend?" even a "how are you?" "I love that movie too, my name is blah would you like to chat?" Come on.. But "hi" shows that the person doesn't even give a rats. It gives the responder NOTHING. Link to post Share on other sites
WonderKid Posted December 31, 2014 Share Posted December 31, 2014 Nothing's worse than the "Just ask" profiles 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted December 31, 2014 Author Share Posted December 31, 2014 Nothing's worse than the "Just ask" profiles Right, or things that qualify the "just ask". Like, "I hate writing these things, if you have any questions, just ask" or "No one reads these things, so if you have any questions, just ask." Or better yet, the one that claimed in their profile someone ELSE wrote or their friends almost had to force them to do it. "Yeah, my friend talked me into doing this, not so crazy about the idea, but figured 'what the hay!'" Have to love the ones that start off pretending their not enthused about the idea. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
endlessabyss Posted December 31, 2014 Share Posted December 31, 2014 It doesn't have to be well thought out. A simple "how was your weekend?" even a "how are you?" "I love that movie too, my name is blah would you like to chat?" Come on.. But "hi" shows that the person doesn't even give a rats. It gives the responder NOTHING. I would usually try to just read their whole profile, and highlight what I thought we had in common in my opener. "How was your weekend?" or "how are you?" are along the same lines as "hi" in my book lol, and don't lead to any reply back. Even if you look in most the profiles, dating prospects include that they want some interesting first line or they won't respond. Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted December 31, 2014 Share Posted December 31, 2014 This totally caught me off guard, the complete opposite of what people say in their online dating profiles "Also, if you do message me DO NOT send me a freakin' book. A simple "hi" is good enough." A woman that actually prefers just a simple "hi" * passes out * Did you send a 'Hi' and did she reply or was she not interested? It's not as if you are unaware that favourable responses are based on photos & description plus written word... Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted December 31, 2014 Share Posted December 31, 2014 Right, or things that qualify the "just ask". Like, "I hate writing these things, if you have any questions, just ask" or "No one reads these things, so if you have any questions, just ask." I learned my lesson years ago when first doing OLD. I sent a long list of questions and got "What is this -- an interrogation?" in reply.:laugh: 1 Link to post Share on other sites
WonderKid Posted January 1, 2015 Share Posted January 1, 2015 I don't mind being interrogated to some degree. At least talk about positive stuff and things we have in common interest. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted January 1, 2015 Author Share Posted January 1, 2015 (edited) I learned my lesson years ago when first doing OLD. I sent a long list of questions and got "What is this -- an interrogation?" in reply.:laugh: Yeah, I think once I asked 3 questions in succession in my email to a woman and she responded with, "You ask a lot of questions" and I was like, "Of course, isn't that the whole point?" lol What I don't get is, when you get a response and it's open ended. Meaning they answer your questions and recently a woman gave me a paragraph long response as to the reason she's online. Apparently she was off OK cupid for a long time , she was responding to an email I had sent her last summer (Happy New Year, by the way, almost caught myself, lol). Anyhow, she responded with how she had been in a relationship for a time and had been off OK Cupid for a while, but now she's back and would be open to a relationship now, but not wanting to rush things. She never did follow-up with other questions about myself. Had this happen a few times where they would respond, but wouldn't care to ask questions about me. It's like they are trying to blow you off by p purposely attempting to make the conversation more difficult. Edited January 1, 2015 by LookAtThisPOst Link to post Share on other sites
Frank2thepoint Posted January 1, 2015 Share Posted January 1, 2015 Saying "Hi" works offline. It can lead to a conversation. With online, your physical looks, based on a static picture, determines if there will be a conversation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Danda Posted January 1, 2015 Share Posted January 1, 2015 Sounds like the woman is probably just a very straight-up no BS sort of person and is letting you know in advance not to waste your time and emotional energy until the two of you have seen each other's photos. Something to be said for that, I guess. She would probably go well with someone who has a very dry and sarcastic sense of humor hehe. Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted January 1, 2015 Share Posted January 1, 2015 Sounds like the woman is probably just a very straight-up no BS sort of person and is letting you know in advance not to waste your time and emotional energy until the two of you have seen each other's photos. That's what I was thinking... "I don't want to spend much energy until I've had a chance to see your picture/look over your profile." Efficient. Link to post Share on other sites
Danda Posted January 1, 2015 Share Posted January 1, 2015 That's what I was thinking... "I don't want to spend much energy until I've had a chance to see your picture/look over your profile." Efficient. Yeah it's not exactly graceful but it's straight up. Probably some people who find it as refreshing as some people would find it ugh. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
guest569 Posted January 1, 2015 Share Posted January 1, 2015 These days the photo is usually visible straight away isn't it? Esp on tinder Link to post Share on other sites
welshbambi Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 Tinder is pretty cut throat but actually I quite like it. You can like any guy you want, even if you think they might be out of your league looks wise. Because no one knows who has liked them unless you match (both like eachother for non-Tinder users) then you don't get that whole visibly being shot down thing. It's interesting because lots of guys complain on Tinder that girls never message first. 9 times out of 10 I do, and I might get only 3 responses. If the conversation is really dry, then you can just unmatch and no one feels bad about it. I have been unmatched and I have unmatched people myself. OK so it might seem a little bit heartless but at least it's honest, and right now I would rather that than the alternative. And it is possible to meet nice people on there, I've had some really interesting conversations with guys. One led to my last relationship (yes it wasn't exactly a happy ever after but that isn't because of how I met him) and I've been on a couple of recent dates with a very lovely PhD student I met there too. But then I don't have a particular look I go for. My criteria for swiping right are as follows: - Must have written at least 3 coherent sentences about themselves - Not used the word banter in any of those sentences - Not included any pictures of themselves clearly on a drunken Magaluf holiday covered in dayglo and drunk out of their skulls - No one with hair styled within an inch of it's life and a sunbed tan (you get that a lot in my part of the world) Other than that I am open to a conversation and see if they say something that interests me. Yes, looks are part of it but not all of it. Link to post Share on other sites
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