SomeDude16 Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 Silly question, should I pay for her and should I go for a kiss after we're done eating? Definitely pay for her since you asked her out. She may offer to pay, but don't let her (the date should not be fancy). As for the kiss, it's hard to say without going on the date right That said, a hug before and afterwards is definitely in order. The kiss part is up to you and how well you feel your chemistry is. Too early might scare her off. Personally I save my kiss for date #2 but that's just me. If you feel it's the right moment, just go for it!! Above all else, be yourself and have fun Link to post Share on other sites
Author cbplayer Posted December 28, 2014 Author Share Posted December 28, 2014 Definitely pay for her since you asked her out. She may offer to pay, but don't let her (the date should not be fancy). As for the kiss, it's hard to say without going on the date right That said, a hug before and afterwards is definitely in order. The kiss part is up to you and how well you feel your chemistry is. Too early might scare her off. Personally I save my kiss for date #2 but that's just me. If you feel it's the right moment, just go for it!! Above all else, be yourself and have fun What should I do after the first date? Link to post Share on other sites
SomeDude16 Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 What should I do after the first date? Are you talking in a broad sense about her or are you thinking of something more specific? Link to post Share on other sites
Author cbplayer Posted December 28, 2014 Author Share Posted December 28, 2014 Are you talking in a broad sense about her or are you thinking of something more specific? Should I try to go on a second date? What can I do to possbily transition from being an acquaintance to being her boyfriend? I apologize if I didn't quite articulate my query eloquently. Link to post Share on other sites
littleblackheart Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 Should I try to go on a second date? What can I do to possbily transition from being an acquaintance to being her boyfriend? I apologize if I didn't quite articulate my query eloquently. Isn't that going a bit too fast, especially if you haven't been on the first date yet, and don't know whether you like each other in that way? Link to post Share on other sites
SomeDude16 Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 Should I try to go on a second date? What can I do to possbily transition from being an acquaintance to being her boyfriend? I apologize if I didn't quite articulate my query eloquently. Don't worry about the boyfriend part, enjoy the present and eachother. If the first date goes well ask her out on a second one. Make plans during the date to see her again. "I'm having a really good time with you, we definetly should do it again" if she agrees make some sort of concrete plans. If you have a fun time text her a few hours after and tell her you had fun. Again, enjoy the experience and live in the moment. If you need anything, you know where to find us Link to post Share on other sites
Author cbplayer Posted December 28, 2014 Author Share Posted December 28, 2014 Are you talking in a broad sense about her or are you thinking of something more specific? Isn't that going a bit too fast, especially if you haven't been on the first date yet, and don't know whether you like each other in that way? I must be socially inept. I guess because it's been so long since I've had a gf, I'm really anxious to have one. Link to post Share on other sites
littleblackheart Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 I must be socially inept. I guess because it's been so long since I've had a gf, I'm really anxious to have one. Well, jab116's advice was spot on: enjoy the process. You need to relax, be excited that someone is interested in you and take it one step at a time. Don't over-think it, and even if it doesn't work out this time, it will some other time. (Sending happy vibes your way) Link to post Share on other sites
Author cbplayer Posted December 29, 2014 Author Share Posted December 29, 2014 Well, jab116's advice was spot on: enjoy the process. You need to relax, be excited that someone is interested in you and take it one step at a time. Don't over-think it, and even if it doesn't work out this time, it will some other time. (Sending happy vibes your way) I might be seeing her tomorrow at a restaurant. Any advice? How do I keep her interested? Please reply as soon as possible. Link to post Share on other sites
SomeDude16 Posted December 29, 2014 Share Posted December 29, 2014 I might be seeing her tomorrow at a restaurant. Any advice? How do I keep her interested? Please reply as soon as possible. Just go and be you, nothing more then that. Have fun! Be friendly! Show here the best cbplayer you can be. That's all it takes. There is no magical formula or process for this one. Do that, and see where things go Link to post Share on other sites
littleblackheart Posted December 29, 2014 Share Posted December 29, 2014 I might be seeing her tomorrow at a restaurant. Any advice? How do I keep her interested? Please reply as soon as possible. Be polite, have good manners, try and ask questions about her and genuinely take the time to listen to her answers, then ask her some more based on that, don't worry about what food you're going to order (take her cue if unsure), don't worry about trying to seduce her - just be you, pay her a compliment that is personal (something about an item of jewellery she's wearing or the colour of her dress for example), whatever you do DON'T LIE or tell her things she wants to her or make things up. If she's engaged, she'll ask questions about you - answer them genuinely, but try and avoid giving too much personal detail (or at least keep it light), show her you're pleased to be in her company but only if you are. There's a chance the initial spark will be gone for whatever reason - be prepared for that, and don't lead her on if you're not interested. Oh, and try and avoid using your phone in her company, unless it's an emergency. Best of luck, you'll be fine Link to post Share on other sites
Author cbplayer Posted December 29, 2014 Author Share Posted December 29, 2014 Be polite, have good manners, try and ask questions about her and genuinely take the time to listen to her answers, then ask her some more based on that, don't worry about what food you're going to order (take her cue if unsure), don't worry about trying to seduce her - just be you, pay her a compliment that is personal (something about an item of jewellery she's wearing or the colour of her dress for example), whatever you do DON'T LIE or tell her things she wants to her or make things up. If she's engaged, she'll ask questions about you - answer them genuinely, but try and avoid giving too much personal detail (or at least keep it light), show her you're pleased to be in her company but only if you are. There's a chance the initial spark will be gone for whatever reason - be prepared for that, and don't lead her on if you're not interested. Oh, and try and avoid using your phone in her company, unless it's an emergency. Best of luck, you'll be fine Are you saying that I should be somewhat vague when I'm answering her questions? If so, why? Link to post Share on other sites
littleblackheart Posted December 29, 2014 Share Posted December 29, 2014 Are you saying that I should be somewhat vague when I'm answering her questions? If so, why? No, I'm saying keep true to yourself but don't go into intimate, personal stuff (exes, childhood traumas, that kind of things) - a light-hearted conversation about her likes, her dislikes and what makes her tick. You are just getting to know each other at this point, you have nothing riding on it and no obligations of any sort. Whatever happens, you'll have gotten to know someone you didn't know before, and it's always nice Link to post Share on other sites
Author cbplayer Posted December 30, 2014 Author Share Posted December 30, 2014 No, I'm saying keep true to yourself but don't go into intimate, personal stuff (exes, childhood traumas, that kind of things) - a light-hearted conversation about her likes, her dislikes and what makes her tick. You are just getting to know each other at this point, you have nothing riding on it and no obligations of any sort. Whatever happens, you'll have gotten to know someone you didn't know before, and it's always nice Also, it is my understanding that on the first date the guy should escalate kino if he doesn't want to be limited to the friendzone. Does anyone have any advice on how I should escalate kino? Link to post Share on other sites
littleblackheart Posted December 30, 2014 Share Posted December 30, 2014 Also, it is my understanding that on the first date the guy should escalate kino if he doesn't want to be limited to the friendzone. Does anyone have any advice on how I should escalate kino? I have no idea what 'kino' is but either way, you can only do that if you both feel it. Just do what feels right for you both on the day, try and read her signs well and see where that goes. This is all just theory at the moment; practice is an altogether different ball game... Link to post Share on other sites
Author cbplayer Posted December 31, 2014 Author Share Posted December 31, 2014 I've heard that I need to touch a girl several times to keep me out of the friendzone. I've heard that all talking and no physical contact leads to the friendzone. Please clear up any misconceptions that I may have. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cbplayer Posted December 31, 2014 Author Share Posted December 31, 2014 I've heard that I need to touch a girl several times to keep me out of the friendzone. I've heard that all talking and no physical contact leads to the friendzone. Please clear up any misconceptions that I may have. Can I please get a reply asap? I'll be seeing her tomorrow. Link to post Share on other sites
littleblackheart Posted December 31, 2014 Share Posted December 31, 2014 Can I please get a reply asap? I'll be seeing her tomorrow. My friend, this just isn't something you can plan ahead. You don't know if you're going to want to do that after a few hours with her, and you don't know if she's going to let you to that to her because you know, you haven't met her yet. This story is going to unfold before your very eyes, and no amount of planning is going to prepare you for the actual thing. Chill out would be my main advice, and try not to let your nerves get the better of you Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted December 31, 2014 Share Posted December 31, 2014 I've heard that I need to touch a girl several times to keep me out of the friendzone. I've heard that all talking and no physical contact leads to the friendzone. Please clear up any misconceptions that I may have. You need to do what feels right at the time, touching her lightly may be seen by her to be really inappropriate or it may be very appropriate, you just have to judge how it is going for yourself. She may be a touchy feely person or she may not, you have to play it by ear. Forget about friend zones, this is early days, you need to be seen as friendly otherwise she will not want to see you again. Forget about escalating "kino". PUA stuff like that will likely turn her off. You will be far more successful if you are honest, natural and warm, rather than calculating, manipulative and trying out "techniques". Link to post Share on other sites
Author cbplayer Posted December 31, 2014 Author Share Posted December 31, 2014 My friend, this just isn't something you can plan ahead. You don't know if you're going to want to do that after a few hours with her, and you don't know if she's going to let you to that to her because you know, you haven't met her yet. This story is going to unfold before your very eyes, and no amount of planning is going to prepare you for the actual thing. Chill out would be my main advice, and try not to let your nerves get the better of you Thank you. We spoke this morning and this was our convo. Her : Some emotican with a sleepy face Me: I just realized that the restaurant opens at 5pm ( We planned on meeting at 2pm. So, I decided to find a different restaurant in the area to go to). Me : Let's go to this restaurant. (I sent her a screenshot of it. It's another restaurant that she likes) Her : You wanna leave this for another day? NYE is a busy day. Her: And your family is cooking right? Me : On what days will you have free time? Her: Sunday Her: Idk about next week yet Her: I'll tell you about my availability for next week on saturday or sunday. Any red flags? What should I do to keep her interested for the next couple of days? Link to post Share on other sites
WomenWubber Posted December 31, 2014 Share Posted December 31, 2014 Doesn't look good. Her interest in you is very low, it seems like she wants you to leave her alone. At this point nothing will keep her interested. I'd suggest you look elsewhere and maybe keep this girl as a back up, just in case she contacts you again. If she doesn't contact you in 1 week, delete her. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted December 31, 2014 Share Posted December 31, 2014 Doesn't look good. Her interest in you is very low, it seems like she wants you to leave her alone. At this point nothing will keep her interested. I'd suggest you look elsewhere and maybe keep this girl as a back up, just in case she contacts you again. If she doesn't contact you in 1 week, delete her. Are you mad? She said Sunday clear as a bell, he needs to make a date for Sunday. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cbplayer Posted December 31, 2014 Author Share Posted December 31, 2014 Are you mad? She said Sunday clear as a bell, he needs to make a date for Sunday. So, do you think there were any red flags? Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted December 31, 2014 Share Posted December 31, 2014 So, do you think there were any red flags? No. Make sure you tell her Sunday is good for you too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cbplayer Posted December 31, 2014 Author Share Posted December 31, 2014 No. Make sure you tell her Sunday is good for you too. What can I do in the meantime to keep her interested? Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts