my husband wants me back

[Josmatjes]

I think that you should let your husband go. It's nice that he still loves you but what's in it for him.

I don't think you are a bad person, you are right on about marriage being boring. But if this is what your husband wants but you don't, than let him move on. It's the right thing to do. He can't always verge fall back guy. It's not fair..

[BrokenPrincess]

MM was at his new grandchild's christening. Didn't want to bother him.

 

So did he move back home with his W?

[solostand]

No he did not, but this is his first grandchild and the parents of the baby are here from out of province and it was a big deal. Needless to say, I was not invited and I totally get that. He was lucky to be invited.

 

And the reason my husband was at the hospital with me is he is listed as next of kin. He came immediatly and I was grateful for his presence, even though he refused to take me out for a smoke.

 

I have a cracked skull so maybe that will knock some sense into me.

[whichwayisup]

No he did not, but this is his first grandchild and the parents of the baby are here from out of province and it was a big deal. Needless to say, I was not invited and I totally get that. He was lucky to be invited.

 

And the reason my husband was at the hospital with me is he is listed as next of kin. He came immediatly and I was grateful for his presence, even though he refused to take me out for a smoke.

 

I have a cracked skull so maybe that will knock some sense into me.

 

Hope you heal well from your injury.

 

So, MM never moved out, never left, never separated, never filed. He just found yet another 'excuse' as to why he couldn't leave his wife. You got your hopes up for nothing ... Again.

 

Did your MM come visit you at all while you were in the hospital?

[blue963]

maybe you can learn to bring excitement back into the relationship?

[Friggia]

maybe you can learn to bring excitement back into the relationship?

 

I second this, and I think you need to talk about this with your husband and try to figure out a solution. The solution could just be that you two agree to take a break from the marriage for a certain period of time, like a trial separation, and then see where you're at. I've been in this situation before. My long-time boyfriend built up a lot of resentment towards me, and by the time I realized I wanted him back and that things could have been fixed, it was too late. Letting go of the most loving relationship of your life could lead to a world of pain for you later if you don't work together with him first on fixing what is wrong.

[Sassy Girl]

You know what I think? You're just addicted to the drama.

 

Now you and OM are a legitimate couple, out and proud, no affair hanging over your head, the excitement has waned somewhat? Hasn't it? Not getting your narcissistic supply from OM so switching attention back to husband. I do notice how you make note of all the things he does for you. Tell me, how do you enrich his life? Seriously? Have you done anything selfless for him Lately?

 

Now you're manufacturing ANOTHER affair by considering rekindling with the ex husband despite being in a committed relationship with OM.

 

Wow, you are a piece of work, aren't you. Bet you feel special with two men fawning over you. Gimme a break. You just love the drama. So here you are posting yet another 'dilemma' .

 

Broken Implies you have no control. You do. You're just loving the attention.

Get some counselling. I think you're closer to NPD than you think. But of course, it's not like it would be in your nature to admit that.

[Popsicle]

I think that you should let your husband go. It's nice that he still loves you but what's in it for him.

I don't think you are a bad person, you are right on about marriage being boring. But if this is what your husband wants but you don't, than let him move on. It's the right thing to do. He can't always verge fall back guy. It's not fair..

 

I completely agree, but neither one of them (H or W) will do that.

[Realist3]

You know what I think? You're just addicted to the drama.

 

Now you and OM are a legitimate couple, out and proud, no affair hanging over your head, the excitement has waned somewhat? Hasn't it? Not getting your narcissistic supply from OM so switching attention back to husband. I do notice how you make note of all the things he does for you. Tell me, how do you enrich his life? Seriously? Have you done anything selfless for him Lately?

 

Now you're manufacturing ANOTHER affair by considering rekindling with the ex husband despite being in a committed relationship with OM.

 

Wow, you are a piece of work, aren't you. Bet you feel special with two men fawning over you. Gimme a break. You just love the drama. So here you are posting yet another 'dilemma' .

 

Broken Implies you have no control. You do. You're just loving the attention.

Get some counselling. I think you're closer to NPD than you think. But of course, it's not like it would be in your nature to admit that.

 

Sorry, solostand, but you seem like an empty vessel. You move from one horrific situation to the next seeking 'excitement/drama', yet it never gets you anywhere. Where has your journey taken you? Are you pleased with it?

 

In all of your postings here I can't say I recall you ever posting about love you had for someone else, it is always about their love for you. You sound like a person that has never grown up. Each door represents a new opportunity for the next drama, but there never is an end game. It just seems to be a path of destruction that is laid in your wake.

 

What future do you want for yourself? You only have maybe 15 good years left ahead of you. Your drama creating days will be over. Nobody will care.

 

If you were smart you would try and make things right with your husband, but unfortunately that is not is what would be best for him.

 

Sooner or later a very harsh reality is going to hit you smack in the face. There will be no more options, no new opportunities for excitement, just a realization that you blew so many chances.

[Lokin4AReason]

if it did not work out than it wont work out ...

 

 

why get back in a situation at where the past will poison the present and the future .... ???

 

 

if my soon to be Ex wife ( at where WE do not have any kids ) wants to come back, I am sorry she burned that bridge ....

[Appreciate]

It's unlikely any one on this board can help you other than encourage you to seek professional help.

 

Your lifestyle and relationships are abnormal and not healthy. You need to get to the point where it does not seem boring to be normal. Or find someone who is into open relationships. That way, you could still have the thrill of new conquests without damaging someone else's psyche.

 

Continuing on this way without help you will probably never change unless the consequences are drastic enough. So it's better to get help now, so you feel good about yourself as a person enough to not need the thrill of affairs to keep your days interesting.

[Mount]

Guess that is the reason why this post was initiated or announced - giving yourself an exit way? We thought we might see some continuous story development between the MM and you, guess it is the opposite direction in reality between you and him.

 

 

MM was at his new grandchild's christening. Didn't want to bother him.