How do I get over her?

[Losther]

How do I get over her?

 

It's been 4 months since we broke up and we dated for 7 and lived together for 4 years. I thought I was goign to marry her. Well, She has started to contact me and was being nice but then I heard she is not only dating my best friend but is also telling her friends that since I am crazy and dangerous, not to tell me they are dating.

 

What's worse is, it is the same friend who I asked to talk to her after we broke up.

 

Am I losing my mind that i cna't get over her?

 

What should I do?

[BrotherAaron]

Trust that if she's dating someone new, especially your friend, that your wasting your time waiting for her to come back.

 

Avoid all contact with her. Talking to her will make you feel worse; it never fails.

 

In the meantime, my strongest recommendation for you is to re-arrange your life. Think of it as a new beginning. Start going out and meeting new people. Think about getting a new place, if you're living in the same place as you were when you two were together. Make new friends, and pick up new hobbies. Do whatever you can to feel like you're always busy doing something completely new and different. You need to structure your life around yourself, make it busy, and leave no room for her so that you can't feel her absence.

 

At first, you'll be just keeping yourself distracted. Eventually, though, you'll find that your waking up with a smile and not thinking about her.

 

You need to look at this as an oppurtunity, not a curse. You'll never be able to move on for as long as you want her back. Try not to want her back.

 

I know this is all easier said than done. I hope you're able to move on.

[BrotherAaron]

Oh yeah and I've heard recently that healthy coping allows for two weeks of mourning for every 6 months that you're with somebody. After seven years, you can figure that you're doing alright if your over her in 28 weeks - that's 7 months. Keep your chin up.