Jatan Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 Hi all, I was drunk and i had sex with my guy workmate. He was drunk too. He is attached and so do I. I wanted it so much when I was drunk. I don't know if we can still work together at work. Views pls. Confuse uk gal. Will he still respect me at work? Fyi, my partner cheated on me before. Link to post Share on other sites
WonderWoman911 Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 (edited) I don't see any reason for him not to respect you anymore if he already respects you at work prior to y'all sexual encounter. Although the both of you were drunk, he knew what he was doing as well. But now that you've had sex with him,don't allow it to effect your work performance by getting feelings involved. Edited December 28, 2014 by WonderWoman911 Link to post Share on other sites
Redheaded Mistress Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 I put the chances of him respecting you at work just above 0%. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
jellybean89 Posted December 28, 2014 Share Posted December 28, 2014 Hi all, I was drunk and i had sex with my guy workmate. He was drunk too. He is attached and so do I. I wanted it so much when I was drunk. I don't know if we can still work together at work. Views pls. Confuse uk gal. Will he still respect me at work? Fyi, my partner cheated on me before. Using the excuse of being drunk to have sex with a MM is just that..an excuse. You are also involved with someone? No, I don't think he will respect you. He will see you as "easy". You do not want to have that reputation. It can ruin you working relationship with your co-workers. Do you plan to continue to have sex with this guy? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jatan Posted December 28, 2014 Author Share Posted December 28, 2014 Using the excuse of being drunk to have sex with a MM is just that..an excuse. You are also involved with someone? No, I don't think he will respect you. He will see you as "easy". You do not want to have that reputation. It can ruin you working relationship with your co-workers. Do you plan to continue to have sex with this guy? No. It was a mistake. Never wanted to. It was so embarrassing. Not sure how to face him. Hope it can be taken as a history and life be back to normal life. Sad to hear that he may think i am "easy". It takes two to make things happen. I hope he doesnt think that way as it work both ways. Sad though. Life is full of problems.. sad uk gal Link to post Share on other sites
jellybean89 Posted December 29, 2014 Share Posted December 29, 2014 No. It was a mistake. Never wanted to. It was so embarrassing. Not sure how to face him. Hope it can be taken as a history and life be back to normal life. Sad to hear that he may think i am "easy". It takes two to make things happen. I hope he doesnt think that way as it work both ways. Sad though. Life is full of problems.. sad uk gal I am confused....you titled this thread "cheated but not remorseful". Drunk or not, you chose to have sex with him. So if you aren't remorseful, why is it embarrassing? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jatan Posted December 29, 2014 Author Share Posted December 29, 2014 I am confused....you titled this thread "cheated but not remorseful". Drunk or not, you chose to have sex with him. So if you aren't remorseful, why is it embarrassing? Embarrassing because we are co-workers. Not a very close co worker though. Still need to see each other at work. Never regretted because I did enjoy that day after a whole day of stressful events at work plus i was super drunk. Also, my bf has cheated on me last yr which break my heart and upset me alot. Link to post Share on other sites
goodyblue Posted December 29, 2014 Share Posted December 29, 2014 Embarrassing because we are co-workers. Not a very close co worker though. Still need to see each other at work. Never regretted because I did enjoy that day after a whole day of stressful events at work plus i was super drunk. Also, my bf has cheated on me last yr which break my heart and upset me alot. The answer: Don't get super drunk because no matter how drunk you were you still made that decision. Putting your career behind some a$$ is the dumbest thing I have ever heard. Hope it works out for the best. Link to post Share on other sites
jellybean89 Posted December 29, 2014 Share Posted December 29, 2014 Embarrassing because we are co-workers. Not a very close co worker though. Still need to see each other at work. Never regretted because I did enjoy that day after a whole day of stressful events at work plus i was super drunk. Also, my bf has cheated on me last yr which break my heart and upset me alot. Revenge one not stands are immature. Have you and the BF discussed what both if you have done? You were "super drunk" but remember having sex? That's interesting cause most "super drunk" people don't remember what they did. Link to post Share on other sites
irishguy Posted December 29, 2014 Share Posted December 29, 2014 Hopefully it wont happen but dont be surprised if he tells other people at work what happened . Link to post Share on other sites
Rainbowlove Posted December 29, 2014 Share Posted December 29, 2014 I wanted it so much Here's your real answer - you wanted it. Stop using the I was super drunk card. It's immature. Own it. Step one. You wanted it. You are justifying yourself by saying; A) you were super drunk and B) your BF cheated on you You did it becasue you wanted to. Simple truth. Now, you can live with how you are perceived by your co-worker and yes, co-workers....bc stuff like this spread like wild fire - it's juicy gossip. Maybe you wanted the drama and juicy gossip and to be the center of attention?? You don't sound very remorseful at all. So now you and your BF are both cheaters. Sounds like you have a bright shiny future together. Link to post Share on other sites
GoldieLox Posted December 29, 2014 Share Posted December 29, 2014 Also, my bf has cheated on me last yr which break my heart and upset me alot. But two wrongs do not make a right. Sounds like you two need to have a serious conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
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